(Closed) When did you ask your girls? Did you have any reservations?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2747 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I asked two months into the engagement because we were having a destination wedding and instead of choosing between all my friends, I picked my two cousins that I grew up with.  

Choose people you can envision in your future and who have always been around in your past. =)

Post # 4
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had asked my future step son’s ditzy wife to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man just out of politeness but now they are getting divorced so she is out. I haven’t said anything to her about not being in the wedding bc I figured she would understand that she in no longer a Bridesmaid or Best Man but my aunt  & mom say I need to directly tell her she isn’t a Bridesmaid or Best Man. She doesn’t call me or ask about the wedding so I think she gets it. I did regret asking her even before they split though. Be 100% sure bc you don’t want any drama stressing you on YOUR  day!

Post # 5
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence

I asked pretty much right away but I’m in a bit of a unique situation — I only see one of the girls in my party on a regular basis as the rest live far away from me, so I’m not worried about not ‘clicking’ as the wedding gets closer because we’re not always in touch anyway. All of them are people that are related — cousin, sister — or have been good friends for so long that it doesn’t matter if I don’t talk to them for awhile. In fact, one of them I literally can’t remember the last time I saw her!

I’m of the ‘just show up and be pretty’ mentality and I’m not asking them to do anything beyond that so that also influenced my decision — they can’t really do anything to fail me between now and then unless they don’t buy a dress or don’t show up.

If you feel unsure, I’d wait a bit longer, though. It all depends on how much and what you expect from your ladies.

Post # 6
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I definitely did the same thing- I jumped the gun asking a childhood friend to be my maid of honor and when it came down to it we really weren’t so close anymore and she ended up bowing out because she didn’t want to devote the time.  Which was fine, one of the girls I asked to be my bridesmaid (a high school friend) and I became insanely close through wedding planning and she instantly covered the spot for me! I’d say wait till you’re absolutely positive you can handle what the people might throw at you!

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