Post # 1
I’ve been engaged for a little over a month and (due to a number of reasons) we are planning an extra long engagement (2 years+) to be married in spring/summer 2015. I’m so excited to get started with officially planning! But I’m wondering, especially from those who have had longer engagements – when is the right time to ask our wedding party to be a part of our big day?
I’m a little worried that with SUCH a long time to plan, my bridesmaids will get totally sick of talking about my wedding LONG before our wedding day actually arrives! But I don’t want to wait so long that they think I don’t love them!
So, any advice? When did you ask your wedding party? Do you regret asking too early/too late?
Post # 3
My fiance asked me to marry him sept 2012, and we set a wedding date for oct 2013, so at christmas i asked my four girls. With your being a long engagement i would wait closer to the date to ask. anything could change. unfortanly friendships change over the years. The woman whom i always thought would be my Maid/Matron of Honor i no longer speak to due to unforseen circumstances. IMO, wait til your about 8-10 months out, thats about the time you should start dress shopping and what-not. and they can go and be excited. of course if your picking a very popular wedding ceremony site/reception you may want to book prior to then tho.
Post # 4
@Jen51287: +1 I think 8-10 months out would be a good time because that’s about the time you need to start dress shopping. If you don’t need time for that I would suggest waiting until even closer. I asked people about 1 year out and I’ve had a couple of regrets about it. You might think nothing will change but it definitely can!
Post # 5
I jumped the gun a little and asked my Maid/Matron of Honor right away (16 or 17 months out) and then the rest of the girls soon after that.
Post # 6
I asked them at various times, mostly right after we got engaged. I had a lot of trouble deciding though. I asked my friend Chelsey if she wanted to be a bridesmaid or the photographer because I didn’t want I decide. Lol
Post # 7
Thanks for all the advice, ladies!
Post # 8
I asked mine in December ’12 for our June ’14 wedding. But I haven’t talked to any of them about the wedding since I asked them. I don’t want to bother them with stuff this early, and there’s not much to do until a few months before the wedding.
Post # 9
I got engaged March 2013. I ask my Maid/Matron of Honor right away. Like when I called and told her I was engaged. (But she knew my Fiance was proposing seeing how he had the ring hiding at her house.) I ask the rest of my girls the first week of May 2013 . He asked his groomsmen late April.
Post # 10
I asked them when I first got engaged, 18 months in advance. I didn’t vote, because that’s right on the fence 🙂
Post # 11
I’m only having two, my closest (and really only!) friends, and despite having an 18 month engagement I asked them straight away. In the case of my MoH, we’d been talking about being each others for years and it would have been super awkward if I hadn’t asked her right away, she would have been wondering what the heck was going on (!). With my other bridesmaid, we got engaged in September and she was getting married in November, so I waited until December when she was back from her honeymoon to ask her. I wanted her to know I wanted her with my and again think it would have been awkward to wait much longer. Neither know each other and they live in different countries so I “introduced” them on Facebook via private chat which has been a fabulous way to keep in touch. But I’ve been super careful not to go too crazy on the wedding talk and keep it to a managable level! They actually beat me to a discussion about bridesmaid dresses, lol.