Post # 1
My family has the tradition to cut the cake towards ‘the end’ – but I don’t like it because it signals people that its ok to go now. My sister thinks if we cut the cake right after dinner, people will leave sooner than if we wait to cut the cake at the end. Thoughts? And married bees tell me about your cake and if people left or what are you planning on doing?
Post # 3
If it helps, I would NEVER leave a wedding early or after a cake is cut.
I think older people do like to leave early and it’s normally after the cake cutting. I’m not doing my cake cutting until 10:30 (my wedding ends at midnight and the reception starts at 7pm).
Post # 4
We cut the cake after dinner/before dancing (around 10:30) and no one left. Reception officially ended at 12:30 but I noticed the older crowd started leaving at 11:30.
Post # 5
Our reception was from 7pm-11pm. We started dinner as soon as we got there (around 7:15ish?) and we did speeches about 10-15 minutes after the last table got their food, then did the cake cutting after that.
We figured that it would give everyone at least 30 minutes to eat, but wouldn’t leave the first few tables sitting around forever with nothing to do after they had eaten.
After we did the cake cutting, we went right into the First Dance/Parent Dances, and then we did an Anniversary Dance to get people out on the dance floor.
I think this worked pretty well, and by the time that was over they had the cake cut… so if older people wanted to eat cake and head home, they could, though I personally didn’t notice many people leaving at that point.
Post # 6
Our reception started at 5:30 (cocktail hour) with a buffet dinner that started around 6:45. We didn’t cut the cake until… 8:45ish? (That’s an estimate based on our schedule, because I didn’t have a watch all day.)
A few of my parents’ friends thought that was too late, but I don’t think it was a huge problem. As my mom said, if we’d cut the cake earlier, people would probably have started leaving right away, and we wanted them to stay until the end at 9:30!
Post # 7
I’m cutting the cake after dinner and some dancing. Around 9ish…my reception starts at 6
Post # 8
To save on money, we are cutting the cake as soon as we arrive so the photog can get out of there! And then we will serve dinner buffet style.
Post # 9
At most weddings I’ve been to, they cut the cake right before dinner. That way nobody has started eating yet, so anyone who wants to be right there watching can, and the caterers can cut up the rest of it and serve it immediately following the last course of dinner.
Post # 10
We cut ours around 9pm, half way through the reception. It wasn’t served until around 9:30. Our reception ended at 11 and I’d say people started to leave around 10ish. We still had a good amount of guests there until the end but those who had a lengthy drive home left early. I don’t think the timing of our cake cutting had anything to do with when they left.
Post # 11
We cut our cake right when we got the reception. We had the cake table in the middle of the dance floor, so after we were announced in, we cut the cake and then proceeded with dinner. That way people could get cake as soon as they were done eating 🙂
Post # 12
we cut cake after the bouquet toss. It was nice, but then the caterer cut the cake and started serving it… during our first dance. It felt weird to have people hoarding around the cake while we were dancing (the cake was in a side room, not in clear view of the dance floor). Also, we didn’t get any cake lol
Post # 13
We are trying to make sure there aren’t a million breaks in between the dancing since my group is a dancing crowd! We will be doing the cake cutting portion after about 1 hours of dancing for a good break.
We don’t want it right after dinner because people will be too full and I don’t want the desserts to go to waste!