Post # 1
I’ve had some baby fever lately. I’m currently a teacher but have been slowly but surely taking classes to work towards getting into PA school and possibly do a career change. Within the next 2 years hubby and I are considering moving back to our hometown area (we live about 1500 miles from there, moved 3 years ago).
My real concern is that if I have children now I will end up not pursuing my dream of becoming a PA because it is a very time consuming and competitive field and I fear having a child I will lost my career drive/feel guilty working so hard towards my career though I have a baby at home.
I am 27 so I do have some time but I also would rather stop having kids by about 33 maybe 34.
My real question is, did having a child affect your career drive? Did it change your outlook? Can, as a woman, you “have it all” meaning fulfilling career and a good relationship with your children?
It’s been really stressing me out thinking I have to choose. I don’t want to have kids and then give up on my career dream because I won’t be able to spend a significant amount of time with my child the first 2-3 years.
Post # 2
How many kids do you want? It’s probably not impossible to have a baby before PA school, but it will be way more difficult to go through the schooling with that huge additional responsibility. I would wait to TTC until after the education was done and the career was more settled, but that is the route I am taking.
I know one lady who had two kids during medical school and had to take a few years off before finishing up. Some female medical students have their first baby the last year of medical school because it’s the most laidback year. I don’t know where the lull would be if in the process through PA school.
Post # 3
I am 28 years old and I am the Exeuctive Director of an organization with 85 employees. i work about 60-70 hours a week and work from home too. When I took on this job, I was very worried about having a child and it interrupting my career.
Now, after a year in my position, I feel much more comfortable and trust the team I work with daily. Therefore, DH and I have discussed starting TTC in January/February. I would be 29 if we get pregnant quickly. I am also finishing my master’s, so the timing works out.
I have come to realize that if you build up a support network, line up your priorities, plan (financially, emotionally, etc), then you just have to go for it at some point.
However, given your age and career aspirations, I would recommend waiting. I would suggest getting going on PA school and then ressess once you are in the program. Maybe the last semester would be a good time to start TTC.
Post # 4
I was where you are now. I got the baby bug about 3 years ago, and I’m now 30 and still no baby. I am gaga for babies though! I am getting married early next year and will start trying immediately afterwards. I put off babies for a medical career, and it has been hard, and all I want to do is be at home with a baby, but now I am glad I put it off because I have laid a good foundation for myself and my future family.
I would recommend waiting a couple more years if you can. 30 is a good age to have a baby – fertility is still very good at that age – and you will find it so much easier to focus on your studies. I read a really interesting article recently that reinforced the benefits of waiting – social, financial etc – I would recommend reading it for some extra (and science based) perspective. Link at the bottom of this post
I also regularly read a blog called ‘Mothers in Medicine’ which I think you might find helpful – countless women’s experiences are documented there and I have found it really motivating to see what women are able to do faced with the challenge of balancing work and family. Link below
Good luck with whatever you decide 🙂 I’m sure you can make it work whatever happens
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice everyone! I guess my biggest concern is that if I don’t get into PA immediately (it will be about 2 years before I’m even applying because I am working full time as a teacher and re-taking my pre-reqs that are over 5 years from my undergrad degree) it could be 3 years until I even get into school and then 2 years of schooling.
That means I would be 32 before I even had a baby. That is why I was thinking MAYBE I could have a baby BEFORE PA school, go to school, then have a second after. Then the children would be between 2-4 years apart and I wouldn’t be 35-36 having a second child.
Juggling career and family is hard! Haha