(Closed) When did you do mother/ son, father/daughter dance at the reception?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
5656 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We did our first dance when we got announced. Then after dinner we invited everyone to the patio area (got married at a winery and ate under a tent on the lawn) and did the mother/son father/daughter. My dad and I finished with “the twist”which queued everyone to start the dancing. It all went perfect! Frankly watching everyone do their dances all in a row gets kind of boring 

Post # 4
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, we are going back to my first Wedding here for this memory (circa 1980)

After Dinner… after the Cake Cutting… after the Speaches…

Dancing opened with my dancing with my New Husband.  Then I with my Father, and he with his Mother.

That was it.

I do know some couples add in another dance…

Bride with FOG, and Groom with MOB… but those aren’t all that traditional.

IMO you get too many of these dances going, and well they get a tad boring, and your Guests get restless.

Better to get on with things…

I’ve even been to Weddings where it was just the B&G… and their chosen dance, melded into the next upbeat song… that they used to get folks up onto the Dance Floor.. and the festivities were underway.

Hope this helps,


Post # 6
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


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@lealorali:  lol, it was 1980s middle of the road.

Middle Class, Canadian… who married her University Sweetheart (we got engaged right after we graduated).

About 100 Guests, Church Wedding, Community Hall for our Venue.

So far from the BIG Fancy affairs you hear about from the time frame (had friends who had 200, 300 Guests at their Weddings).  But there were certainly some real signature items from the decade…

I wore a Victorian styled Dress (which was all the fad), and the trademark hat with veil attached at the back (but no parasol, thankfully).  Lol, no shoulder pads, or big hair, but there was a lot of lace, beading & pearls involved.

Did have a cascading bouquet (roses) and our colours were light pink & maroon (very 1980s).  The Gals / Maids wore long gowns (the norm then for Weddings) and the Men / Ushers wore Morning Suits.  Also common at the time.

We had a nice mix of Relatives and Out of Town Guests… BIG Showers in the Weeks leading up (including one thrown by the local Church Ladies).

Fun Rehearsal & Dinner hosted by his Parents.  And traditional night apart… me in my childhood home / bedroom… and he at the Hotel with his Parents and “the guys”

Very relaxed Wedding Day (not a moment of panic for me).  Bridal Photos at the house with my Parents.  And then we met up with the Maids (pictures in the flower garden)

Then off to the Church and down the aisle.  Sign the Registry… group photo with all the Guests.  A couple of family pics… then the traditional drive about town in a decorated car with streamers & pom-poms with cars honking on our way to the Venue.

Reception Line and Cocktails… Amazing Roast Beef Dinner (didn’t get to eat the Salad, as our first kiss at clinking glasses ensured that ALL the confetti in the brim of my then very fashionable hat ended up on my plate !!)

Head Table… lots of wine and laughter.  Toasts & Speeches, Cake Cutting (traditional fruitcake) and visiting tables.

First Dance, Parent’s Dance… and then we ripped up the Dance Floor… 1979 & 1980 were a great year for tunes !! (Lots of them are still played at Weddings today… My Sharona – We Are Family – I Will Survive – YMCA – Ring My Bell… etc)

Bouquet Toss, Garter Toss… and out the door.  Back to my Parents to change into our Going Away outfits and pick up our suitcases for the Honeymoon… then back to the Reception.  Midnight Buffet, a few more dances, and our Last Dance… before we were gone.

Lol, good memories…

Unfortunately my Marriage went off the rails as my Husband, continued to have issues with alcohol for many years post University (he was a bit of binge drinker in Uni) and I honestly thought he’d stop or grow out of it. I was wrong.  And stood by him for 20+ years.  And it only got worse… including his being more and more self destructive over time… and abusive towards me.

My first marriage is such a contrast to my recent one to Mr TTR… Elopement to a Destination Wedding, with just the 2 of us saying our Vows on a Beach.  Very casual.  BUT I LOVED it too, as I am at a totally different spot now in my life than I was 30+ years ago.

Unfortunately I don’t have any pictures to share from my first wedding… as it was long before Digital Cameras (I sooo need to maybe scan a few to share here on WBee).

This one isn’t mine… but I found it awhile ago on the Internet when I was looking for a sample of a 1980s Wedding Cake… and it is super close to what the tone at my own Wedding was like…

PHOTO – As I said, NOT MY WEDDING… but the look & feel is spot on.  Just a different colour scheme (Bright Cornflower or Royal Blue was a HUGE Colour… as were Soft Pink, Maroon, Deep Wine, Lilac, Purple and Grape).

Lol, it did seem at the time that a lot of Weddings looked the same.  Back then BEFORE the Internet everyone depended heavily on Wedding Magazines… so whatever was featured in them was what everyone wanted / did.  Consequently in a year or so, a lot of things would be the “hot thing” and the same for a lot of Brides.

Lol, what always set Weddings apart back then were Food… and the items of Etiquette (so Invites, Thank You Notes, how courteous you were etc)

Such a contrast to now.


Post # 7
1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We didn’t do “official” dances with the parents – we did our first dance then, a few minutes in, the song cut out and was replaced with something more upbeat and everyone rushed onto the dance floor. I then danced with my dad and my Father-In-Law, and my husband danced with Mother-In-Law and my mum. No one stood around watching these dances, because that would have just felt awkward to us, especially because picking songs for those dances was getting to be a pain in the neck.

Post # 9
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We will probably do ours right after we are announced and before everyone is served dinner.

Post # 10
2333 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor gave their toasts during dinner.  After a little more eating time, DH and I gave a short speech to thank everyone for being there, including our parents.  We then went right into father/daughter and mother/son dances, and then opened up the dance floor for everyone.  

Post # 11
11227 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re doing our first dance right after we get announced. So we come in and walk straight onto the dancefloor. We aren’t doing parent dances, though.

Post # 12
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Our DJ/emcee had everything already planned out for us.. seemed everything was already down to a science..? Immediately after the bridal party was welcomed into the reception, we did our first dance and immediately after came the father/daughter and mother/son dances.  And immediately after salads were being served, the speeches came.  Their mentality was to get all the important stuff “out of the way” so that everyone can dance the night away.  This turned out to be pretty true, as I ended up with absolutely no time to throw a bouquet or do an anniversary dance.  We barely had enough time to cut the cake! lol

Post # 14
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


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@romantical:  curious what is an “Anniversary Dance”… I’ve never heard the term before.


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