Post # 1
When I started dating my SO, I actually didn’t think we were going to go anywhere beyond a few fun dates. Initially, we weren’t in that “infatutous” mindset where we were all googily all the time, either. But as time went on, we really grew to love each other…and one day I realized that I REALLY thought this could lead to marriage. We had already toyed with the topic, but as we were only 20 and 21 at the time, we weren’t really taking it seriously.
Ironically it was NOT a romantic moment when I first realized I actually wanted to marry him. He had the flu one night, and was sneezing and coughing and doing all sorts of other gross things that sick bodies do (I’m sure I don’t need to elaborate), and I stayed the night to take care of him. It was an absolutely awful night. I couldn’t sleep at all because I was too worried about his labored asthmatic breathing, and he was just too plain noisy with the coughing, hacking, etc. But when I was laying next to him as he tried to sleep through his fever, I realized that I wanted so badly to take care of him and make him feel better, even though I knew my being there wasn’t really a huge help. I didn’t care that I wasn’t sleeping and that his body was doing very un-romantic and gross things. I just wanted him better and I didn’t care how much sleep I lost or how many dirty tissues I picked up through the process!
What about you ladies? 🙂
Post # 3
We were too, in the googely-eyed phase too, and one day he was walking by me in the hallway and stopped and looked at me, with those piercing blue eyes and dark hair and said “look. We need to talk (I was honestly a little worried at this. )I want a life with somebody, and that’s you. I want to get married one day and I want a family. Is that what you want Do you want us?”
We’d been dating just a few months and the sheer fact he took the bull by the horns and said that almost knocked the wind out of me. It was really one of the most romantic moments of my life.
I melted right away and said “yes, that’s exactly what I want, but with you, too.”
Then we went and curled up on the couch in the entertainment room and watched one of our fave Russell Crowe movies and he kissed me about halfway through the movie. That one kiss sealed the deal and I realized this was it. He was the one.
Post # 4
Ha Ha, The DAY I met him!!!! Love at first site! 29 years ago!!!! OMG am I THAT old!!! Still love him!!!!!!!
Post # 5
Wow. that’s amazing. And so wonderful! Congrats Rsulli!
Post # 6
Within a week. Yup. We were at a church camp for kids. He had a busted knee and was wearing a brace. Someone else had forgotten to organize and had neglected to place a table in the chapel for the kids’ prayer service, so my guy climbed the amphitheater steps, limped to the pavilion, retrieved a table, and brough it back for the service in 2 minutes flat. I knew I wanted to take care of this man who was always taking care of everyone and everything else. So the next day, I did! I drove 3 hours with him to his knee surgery, helped him recover, and we have been together since.
Post # 7
Within a week of knowing him… he was the sweetest most adorable and kind man I had ever met in my life. Never had i guessed that anyone could ever treat me so well. That was it, he was the one =)
And then I was a mother and he was a father and if there was ever any doubt (which I don’t really remember having), that eliminated it.
Post # 8
I don’t remember a specific moment, but it was really love at first site! I saw him across the room in a bar and I asked my friend who that was. She introduced me to him (he was one of her BF’s friends), but I was pretty shy talking to him.
We bumped into each other 3 months later on Cinco De Mayo and talked for 3 hours. I just knew from the start that I wanted to be with him. Funny how things work out 🙂
Post # 9
I remember the first time we met, and when we walked away without knowing each other’s names or anything, I was devastated. I seriously pouted for a week. Two months later, the stars aligned and we found each other again. I was leaving 12 days later to live in Italy for three months, but I knew that when I left it would be for my last “single” summer and that when I came home, it would be to him and it would be for good.
I knew he was serious when I had the stomach flu couple years ago. I was sitting on the toilet with my head in the garbage can (great image I know) and he came and asked “What do you need? What can I do?” and spent the rest of the night with a cold damp washcloth rubbing my back. I have a big rule against doing my business in front of him, but I was so grateful he was just there with me, taking care of me in my absolute worst moments, I knew he was in it for good 😉
Post # 10
It was sometime before Easter our first year dating (so 3-3.5 months in).
He knew since we were dating and was constantly dropping hints as much. He told me he loved me over Spring Break (in the middle of an argument, in public, which just compounded my already foul mood as I had bad feelings about that phrase from a previous relationship). Over the next few weeks I mulled it over and realized I really did want to marry him- even if we get in fights in front of dancing legends- and told him as much on Easter Sunday (well, not the fighting part, we laugh about that now, thankfully).
Post # 11
I like Dan Savage’s recent column in which he opines that committed couples do a disservice to other people when they claim that they “just knew” right from the start of their relationship that it was going to last forever. He explained that this makes other people feel that if they have any doubts at all, then it must not be the right person. I agree.
…Yet, honestly, Fiance and I can’t claim anything else. We both knew right from the moment we laid eyes on each other.
At my bachelorette party, we did that game where my friends had quizzed Fiance ahead of time and wrote down his answers and I had to guess what he responded. When we got to “When did you know you wanted to marry LittlestBirds,” I assumed he’d responded with a joking answer. Nope: he said “The moment I met her.”
Yep. That evening 3.5 years ago: It was like lightning struck.
Sorry, people who may be doubting your relationhips (though I imagine there is a comparably lower percentage of you on a wedding forum than in the world at large). Have faith, it is normal to have doubts in the early stages of a relationship. Fiance and I are not normal.
Post # 11
the instant I met him. Seriously, I went home the night I met him and wrote in my journal that I met the man I was going to marry.
Post # 12
We met on a blind date, and I pretended not to like him for a very long time truth is the moment i met him I knew he was the one. It was still a long time before I admitted I loved him but seriously that first night he dropped me off I knew that was it. The moment when it really hit me was once we got in a really bad fight and me being the stubborn gf that I was I told him we should just break up. He told me he was here to stay whether I liked it or not, that he had not dealt with me for so long just to leave, that he loved me and no matter how hard I tried I could never push him away. After that I quit my bitchin’ lol I knew he was mine 🙂
Post # 13
well if we go with when i first realized i wanted to marry him, it would be about a split second after he dropped to a knee to ask me.
I hadnt even really thought about marriage. because its something i could be happy with or without a ring on my finger (dont want kids so….) i did know we would be together forever and we were happy with that….
but when he asked, i realized how much i wanted it. *sigh*
Post # 14
Immediately when I met him…I had this strange feeling that about him, that he was different from anyone else I have ever dated. Honestly…after seeing him interact with his family, and seeing how similar our values were…that really sealed the deal!
Post # 15
sounds like i’m jumping on the band wagon…but we both knew the moment we met at bowling through a mutual friend (15 to 5 years friendship; mine to his). Right before leaving, he put his hands gently on my sides to usher me toward a group photo with him and his friends. Afterward, I grilled my bff for info on him who told me he was seeing someone but that he wasn’t sure. I summoned enough courage to message him through myspace just to thank him and that i enjoyed meeting him. He went on to tell me he purposely lingered to look my way. Needless to say, we became inseparable. We finally met for dinner and a movie. When he said he loves washing cars, I told him I know of one blue honda that is in desperate of a wash. He offered to come over the next morning to wash my car. We continued to be on the phone until 5 in the morning after our first date. I texted my girlfriend after getting off the phone with him and told her I had dinner with the love of my life and my soulmate. She wasn’t surprised we got engaged just months later.