(Closed) When did you first say 'I love you' to each other?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 152
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Fiance and I were in high school the first time we said it to each other. I was in marching band on the way to a competition, and I was so afraid to say it first, but all my friends were very encouraging and positive, so I texted him and said it. I didn’t know he was working that day, so I panicked at first when he didn’t respond, but when he did, it said “I love you too. I really do.” I almost cried. I had a jerk boyfriend before my FI; he told every girl he dated he loved them on the first date. But my Fiance and I were about 2 months into our relationship; and it was totally worth the wait.

Post # 153
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really do not remember.  Terrible.

Post # 154
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It was probably only a couple weeks into the relationship, if that. We grew up together and flirted for months before officially dating, so I think we kind of dove in head first once we were finally dating.

It was sort of accidental on his part. I was sleeping on the couch with my head on his chest, and I guess he chose that moment to practice saying “I love you”, whispering, to see how it would feel out loud. I was half asleep by this point, so I heard him, sat up, said “I love you, too,” pecked him on the lips, laid my head back down, and went back to snoring.

Post # 155
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Newbee

It was just over two weeks after we were “official”.  He said it first.  We were kissing and then he just said “I think I’m falling in love with you”.  I said it right back.  He told me he was planning on keeping it to himself for a long time, but he just couldn’t hold it in any longer.  Almost 6 months ago!

Post # 156
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

About 3 months into dating we were sitting on a love seat in his house and he whispered “tell me a secret”. I immediately blushed and said I think I’m in love with you.  Then I thought “WTH did you just do?” but it was too late, I fessed up and said I knew the first time I kissed him that I would be falling hard.  We’re approaching year three so I think it’s worked out well.

Post # 157
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He told me he loved me after about two months.

Interesting coincidence: I had spent the entire night trying to pluck up the courage to tell him that I loved him, but never managed, and then he told me the next morning how he felt. Once he told me, I lost any inclination I had to tell him. At the time, I was struggling with his tendency to move too quickly, fall in love “too often” and too fast. I was having a very hard time with the idea that I was just yet another girl he claimed to have fallen for. I didn’t want to follow the same path that he took with his exes. 

I had only been in love once before and I admit that I thought myself a bit superior to him because I felt like, since I didn’t fall in love with every guy I was in a relationship with, I was “better” for not tossing the “I love you” around like bird seed. I felt like, because I took my time, my “I love you” meant more because it hadn’t been diluted. 

It’s crazy, I know. And TOTALLY egotistical. But I was worried. I was afraid that he was just rushing into things again because he liked being in love, liked having those feelings for someone, and that it would fizzle pretty quickly, like the other times. His “I love you” made me question a lot of things. And so I asked him questions. We have always been very candid with each other, and I had never appreciated it more than when he was willing to discuss with me how this was different from the other times. He let me dissect the situation because he understood that I needed to know, to be sure of certain things, otherwise I would likely get spooked and run. Shut him out. I knew my history, and so did he, and he helped me work through it all. 

Three weeks later, I was on a trip with my mom to DC, right before Christmas. He watched my dogs for me the whole time and when I got back (on Christmas Eve), I wanted to see him and I wanted (even more so, I admit) to see my dogs. So I went home, showered, packed a bag and then went to his place. And when I saw him, everything just fell into place. I kissed him and couldn’t let go. One thing led to another, and just as we were about to get down to it, I said, “Hey, wait. Wait a minute. Look at me. I love you.” And that was that. He is everything I have ever needed in a man, in a lover, in a friend, and I am so damn lucky to have found him. 

Post # 158
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I said it first! I’m a very take-charge kind of person, and I was ready. It was about 4 months into our relationship, and it happened in his parent’s driveway after we’d gone on a picnic (we were only 18 and had just graduated high school). I had wanted to say it on the picnic, but couldn’t get it out until I was about to leave. Finally, I just blurted it out, and luckily, he said it back πŸ™‚ 

Post # 160
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

He “said” it first. I had told him a horrible valentines story about my ex involving a steak cut in the shape of a heart. He sent me an email later that said “I love you” and had a picture of his sandwich that he had cut into a heart. It was cute but I thought he was just joking around so I  didn’t take it seriously. 

Post # 161
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

1 month in (I know incredibly fast, but we took it slow after that – we got engaged 6 years later) … he was walking me home from a friends party a few block away after a couple drinks.  We both sat down on the curb to talk a little bit before he went home himself.  I believe I said something along the lines of “I have something to tell you but I can’t tell you right now” (I was always told never to say I love you first incase they feel trapped into saying it also) and his response teasingly was “thats ok I have something to tell you too but if you’re not gonna tell me then I wont tell you” so after a few moments of flat out begging he dropped the three words – and of course then I let him know what I had wanted to tell him also πŸ™‚

Post # 162
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Bumble bee

You should know, I’m a very cautious and rather unromantic person, so I’d never said those words to any of my previous boyfriends (even though 3 of them had said it to me).

We’d been best friends, and dating casually, for 7 months. We weren’t exclusive. He came over to watch a movie at my place, which went till probably 11 pm. Then we whispered at my doorstep for another hour or so. Afte a while, he said my name and then said, “I need you to know that I’m… I’m in love with you.” I got so weak in the knees and my head was spinning. I looked up at said, “Oh I love you, I’ve always loved you.” Then I got on my tiptoes to kiss his cheek and he turned his head. Wham-o, that was not his cheek! So you get our “I love you” story and our first kiss story in the same go.

At some point we stopped kissing, said something, and he left. I remember just leaning against the wall and sinking to the floor and sitting there, staring ahead, for a long time.

The next day we decided to date exclusively.

It’s a little different, I know. But I like it. πŸ˜‰

Post # 163
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Fiance and I had known each other for about 7 years…but we had just started dating 6 weeks before.  We had a LDR and he was visiting for the weekend at my house…the night before, I thought he has said it during “the deed” but I had ignored it because I didn’t want to stop and question him πŸ™‚  So the next day, I was in my kitchen pouring goldfish into a Ziploc bag for my 2 year old and he just walks in and said it.   He said he almost didn’t say it again when I didn’t respond the night before. πŸ™‚

Post # 164
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Bumble bee

He told me that he and his daughter loved me on my birthday…after I’d taken two shots so it’s a bit fuzzy and I told him it was annoying he told me when I’d been drinking because I’d forget, so he promised to remind me. It was about a month into dating (after two years of knowing each other). The funny thing is normally he would wait months and months and still move slowly, but with us everything has gone very quickly. 

Post # 165
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

about 6 weeks into our relationship and I had to go away for a few months and he wrote me a letter saying he’s never missed anyone like this in his life and that he loves me. he definitely meant that because when I came home and my plane landed and I saw him waiting for me. I came up to him and hugged him and he started crying all because he missed me so much lol theres literally not one moment that goes by that he doesn’t tell me he loves me. Sweetest guy in the world! πŸ™‚

Post # 166
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Via text, in the middle of one of the only arguments we ever had, on Valentines Day, after dating for about two months. 

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