The ring I always thought would be mine if I ever opted to get married–which was never an assumption, it took me quite some time to come around on the subject–is my mother’s. So I probably saw it shortly after first opening my eyes for the first time. It’s your very basic, very classic gold band solitaire, but with a gorgeous, gorgeous stone. The kind of clarity that makes the jewelers give her a double take when she goes in for a cleaning.
Then, though, when it actually came time to get one for myself for real? I realized that although I will always love that ring, it would look stupid as all get out on me. Some people can pull off big sparkly things on tiny fingers. I? Cannot. She’s got the long, long fingers–even though before arthritis beat her up and her fingers were probably as narrow as mine, she had like an octave and a half reach. I don’t have a full octave reach. My fingers are lies. The plain solitaire where the focus is just on one very good stone, not anything in the design or what have you, was off the table, because there was no way I would ever not look like the little girl trying on mommy’s clothes.
So I had to rethink everything, what I liked vs. what would actually work for me. And while sitting in a dungeon queue and browsing Black Hills Gold catalogs in another window, I came across a set I liked–narrow bands, colorful (tri-colored gold), little diamonds as accents instead of features. Put the wedding band with the e-ring and it makes a full flower, but still something small enough that it wouldn’t overwhelm my ridiculously stumpy fingers. And? On sale. Which made it cuter.
At about that moment, FH sent me a note through our battle.net chat window: “Is it too soon for me to use the L word?”
I replied, “Is it too soon for me to send you this?” and sent him the link to the ring.
So there’s the ring you describe, that I saw that I knew in my heart I would want for myself, and then there’s the one I actually went for.
(And shortly after we got the ring and got it re-resized down to my level, the brand went out of business, so . . . yay for picking it while I still had the chance!)