(Closed) When did you get most of your RSVPs back?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

It’s now almost 3 weeks since our RSVP due date, and we’ve been hunting down non-responders for the past 2 weeks. I have my Mom contacting her friends and family that haven’t responded, so I’m not sure how she’s doing, but Fiance has a handful left to hear back from and I’ve finished up my list of follow-ups.

To answer your question, we recieved a couple a day almost every day since we mailed out the invites, and this continued until a couple days after the due date – we gave them about 1 month to respond. We recieved about 100 responses out of 200 before we had to start nudging people. Most of my non-responders had just forgotten to send in their RSVPs, and a handful were waiting to see if they would be able to make it. One or two were just hesitating to tell me they wouldn’t be able to come. For Fiance so far, he also had a bunch of people who just forgot, but a handful of his non-responders seemed to be husbands who didn’t send in the RSVPs when their wives asked them to – he felt kind of bad for getting his friends in trouble with their wives!

Post # 17
3080 posts
Sugar bee

I’m still waiting for some and my daughter’s wedding was last summer. Not kidding.

We followed up with letters and phone calls and totally didn’t hear from a few people. The groom’s side seemed to be of the philosophy that they only had to let us know if they were attending.

Thank goodness she was my 2nd and last daughter to marry. The first’s wedding had 248/250 people responding more than a week before the due date.

Post # 18
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

My due date is in 2 weeks and I still haven’t heard from a little under half of the people. I got in at least 1 a day for the first week and a half then I didn’t get any really for a few weeks (I gave people a little longer since a lot are out of town). 

Im starting to get worried about how many people I will have to track down. Especially considering most are from my FI’s side and he doesn’t have any of their phone numbers. (His mom would have been the one to make the calls but she passed away in February:( )

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