MemberWe’ve only told a few people that I’m pregnant, I’m 14 weeks tomorrow. I think we’re “going public” with it next week after my next appointment when I’ll be 15 weeks.
When did you share your news with everyone?
MemberWe shared with close family in friends at 6 and 8 weeks. 6 was a week after we got our blood test results from my family doctor and when I saw my parents who live out of town. 8 was after we had our first appointment and saw the baby blob! lol
We didnt go full public until after our 12 week appointment. My doctor assured us that everything looked great and at that point the chances of miscarriage were very low.
MemberWe shared with my parents as soon as we knew because they have a vehicle and we don’t and my doctor is out of town. The we shared with family and our 2 best friends at 8 weeks. We went public on facebook at 13 weeks.
Member@cora_123: At about the same time as you. I think we started letting everyone know at around 15-16 weeks. I had let my mom, sister, and BFF know at 8 weeks.
MemberI’m perhaps alone in this, but I’m going public after the baby is born. My family lives in another state and won’t see me until next year. I’m going to mail birth announcements with Father’s Day cards. My local friends probably won’t notice I’m pregnant because I expect to carry like my mom (who didn’t really show). I think if there’s any concern about miscarriage or still birth (like in my case) it’s better to not have to unannounce it. Plus NO ONE likes pregnancy posts on Facebook. People will humor you, but even your closest friends will roll their eyes. And anyone struggling with infertility will be super bummed.
Member@stillme: Did you feel like you were getting pressure for those who did know to share? I’ve enjoyed not being bombarded with advice or comments which I know will come :), my tummy is flat as a pancake right now so I’m guessing I could go awhile without having to share but my parents ask everyday if they can tell everyone!
MemberImmediate family at 5 weeks, relatives and friends (in person) after 10 weeks, Facebook world after 12 weeks.
Member@cora_123: Um, yes. My MIL was pretty much a pain in my ass from the second we told her. And she kept calling it ~our secret.~
What.
ETA: I just saw that your pressure question was directed in response to a PP, but I can definitely relate! Haha.
Member@cora_123: We shared with parents and siblings right away. I am 12 weeks and just shared it with by BFF. On Friday we have our scan and then we will share with everyone.
I don’t really want to share with everyone. I want to tell people as it arrives at conversation, but my mom and MIL won’t stand for that and will run their mouth later I just know. I just don’t want to deal with the advice/comments from others either, but I guess that is one of those delightful perks of being pregnant. Everyone is going to have an opinion.
Member@oldmatron: I like pregnancy posts on Facebook, and I haven’t even had a kid yet. Sounds like you have some rude ass friends if they would roll their eyes over a couple of harmless posts.
MemberWe’ll definitely be waiting until we’re at least 16 weeks before going public (unless I can’t hide it at that point).
Immediate family will know around 10-12 weeks, and more distant family at 12-14 weeks.
Member@cora_123: Yes! I still wasn’t showing either and kind of wanted to keep it a secret longer, but my mom was literally calling me every day telling me that I needed to go public so she could talk about it with my other siblings & her sister. She forced me into it! haha. Once I did go public, though, it felt great…most people were pretty sensitive about keeping their comments/”words of wisdom” to a minimum. :0)
Member@stefanielovesjamie: Can I ask why 16? I would really like to keep it private as long as we can but I’m running out of reasons and afraid the in-laws will “accidentally” let it slip.
Member@cora_123: I know that once you hit 12 weeks, your risk of miscarrying is less, but DH and I suffered a MC last year at 7 weeks, so I want to give myself 4 weeks past the ’12 week mark’ for my own peace of mind. That way, it’s still 2-4 weeks until the gender scan, but far enough along to where I won’t be constantly worrying.
MemberI told work at 15w, right when I started feeling kicks and was showing a bit.
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