(Closed) When did you introduce a night-time routine?

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

6 weeks! I remember reading maybe on Baby Centre that a bedtime routine can be introduced as early as 6 weeks so I went with that. It has done wonders having a set routine. 

Here’s some stuff on bedtime from my favourite baby sleep site: http://www.troublesometots.com/bedtime/

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Pappy8:  

I started with a bedtime routine once i started noticing a sleep pattern developing with Dear Daughter. For the first couple months, they are usually just waking, eating, sleeping as they need to. After 2-3 months Dear Daughter was consistently falling asleep for the night between 10-11pm, waking up for the day around 9-10am (with 3-4 night feedings, of course).

So, usually around 9:30 I would try and wind her down by dimming lights, reading a book, playing some ambient music etc. Then I’ll just change her diaper and get her into her jammies, hop into bed and nurse her until she’s asleep. Between months 3-5 (she’ll be 5 months on the 28th), she started getting sleepy for the night earlier and earlier (and also waking up earlier), so I’ve just been trying to be aware of her cues and respond appropriately, rather than force her onto a strict schedule. Now she’s going to sleep between 8:30-9:30ish and waking up around 7:00-8:00am.

Occasionally she’ll stay up later, or zonk our earier and I just roll with it. This often happens during growth spurts, or if she’s teething.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Honestly? We had a routine as soon as we got home. At the last nursing of the evening, somewhere between 6 and 8pm, I would wash up her face, neck, and hands, put her in jammies, and move the bassinet from the living room where there was noise and lights to my bedroom where it was dark and quiet. To me, it didn’t matter that she would be up in another 2-3 hours to nurse again. It was all about showing the difference of night and day to my babies from the get go. Starting at about 4 weeks, my first was stretching it out at night to about 4-5 hours, by 6 weeks it was 6 hours, and she just kept sleeping more and more. I never had to let her cry it, she never felt the need to sleep in bed with me, bedtime has always been bedtime. Was my mini routine the reason, or was she just an awesome baby? Not really sure. I’d like to think it was all me. Haha. Now that my first is 8 and my second is 6, when I say bedtime, they know to brush her teeth, put on jammies, and pick out a book. We read for about a half hour then it’s lights out for my kindergartener. My 8 year old and 10 year old stepson can read a little more or listen to music for another half hour if they want to. My 10 year old step son has always had sleeping issues because his mom would let him stay up, she had to lay with him to get him to sleep, etc. I’ve known him since he was 5, and he used to get in a tizzy because kids are not allowed in bed with us. We would have to take turns sitting with him in his room, leaving earlier and earlier until he was finally okay with going to bed wide awake without an adult.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Pappy8:  The time changed depending on her age, but we just set a routine of bath, jammies, book, boob and bed, and then when she was a little older and I wanted to dissacoiate breastfeeding from bedtime, I breastfed at the beginning of the routine.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We started pretty much immediately. Always around the same time, we’d start with a bath, baby massage, jammies, story, eat/rock to sleep in the glider, then into her crib. Around 3 months I switched the story and feeding, so that story was the last thing she did before sleep and I could put her to bed sleepy but awake. Then around 13 months we got rid of that last feeding, so now that’s gone, but other than that it’s pretty much the same routine. She’s always been a great sleeper!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Her bedtime routine starts at 7:30 (usually) with her in bed around 8. It’s been that same time for about a year now.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Pappy8:  We don’t use sleep aids… mostly because we co-sleep, and therefore nursing is pretty much her sleep aid. I’m quite happy bed-sharing, so it’s not a priority for me to move her to her own bed, per se, although we are planning on setting up the crib in a side-car position just so that we there’s more room for everyone.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our baby slept beside our bed in a bassinet until he was 6 months old, then we transistioned him to his own room and a crib. The early days are a blur now, but I sort of remembering feeling the same…but you have to realize you probably already are doing some kind of a routine, it just means predictibility for the baby and helping them get their days and nights sorted out. Our routine very loosley was change, nurse, soft music and then we promptly would fall asleep in the glider together. (not on purpose). I would get up later and put him the bassinet. But he didn’t sleep through the night all the way until 3 months old. Those lighted machines that play pictures on the ceiling only ever woke my son right up and stimulated him. But we always used and still do white noise. You’re doing ok – better than you think 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Pappy8:  A lot of times, the “bed” part when they are nursing every 2-3 hours isn’t that big of a deal. I know that I like my sanity in the evenings, so I chose to move her bassinet into my room between 6 and 8 so as she got older that seemed like a normal time. I don’t want to bash co-sleepers, because whatever that’s how you want to do it. However, I have found from many experiences that co-sleeping leads to kids who don’t sleep well. This is especially evidenced by friends who did that, my sister and nephew, my step-son and his mom. They end up refusing to go to bed without someone laying with them. It also raises the risk of SIDS by a lot. So I personally never slept with my children. Having the bassinet in my room until they were 6 months old was handy for night nursings. How I did it was get up, nurse in the chair, change the diaper, and back to bed. No lights, no music, no talking, no cooing. It was all business. Yes, it is difficult in the first few months and it sounds so good to sleep while baby nurses in bed with you, but you will end up with a child who constantly wants you at night and can’t self soothe. Are you back to work yet? My first would nurse all evening long. Almost from the moment we got home around 5:30 until I put her to bed. And then she would be up nursing again very soon. Sometimes they just miss their mommy and nursing is such a bonding experience for mom and baby. At 9 weeks I think you are still in the clear as far as the evenings go. It can be difficult to get babies on a routine. I always had to wake my babies up for daycare so they got used to being up at 6 and that helped. I would say by about 4-6 months babies figure out their routine and enjoy having one.

A side note. I talk about my first daughter more than my second. My second little one was born way early and spent 6 weeks in the NICU. She also had quite a bit of brain damage. Life was a little wonky for her as a baby and she has never slept right, was never able to nurse, and ended up being allergic to my breastmilk and all formula. We still have issues.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

4 weeks old. We used a sleep consultant to help us. We do book (goodnight moon), bath time, bottle (i pump), and bed. my son is almost 8 months old and we follow the exact same routine every single night. he’s a terrible sleeper so he needs the routine so he knows it’s time to wind down and not go crawling away. but even with the routine, we co-slept until he was 7 months old and even now i’ll bring him into bed sometimes past 4am. i would have kept co-sleeping but he wakes up at 2am now and if i’m there he thinks it’s fun time and pulls hair/sticks fingers in my nose, tries to crawl over the edge of the bed, pulls up on the bedframe, etc. 🙂

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Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Pappy8:  How often is she waking up in the night to nurse? If it still seems like every 3-4 hours, you could always try nursing more frequently during the day. Babies who sleep vs babies who don’t under 3 months is such a crap shoot. Sometimes it takes a while to even out and really start sleeping during the night. I see you were wondering about music, soft lights, or a mobile. I went for no stimulation. You could however try some white noise like a quiet fan. There is research out there that is saying if the white noise is too loud, it can cause hearing damage. I think they are talking about the old school super loud fans that drown everything else out. My 10 year old step sleeps with his fan every night and I just make sure it’s on the lowest setting. He finds it comforting. My daughter just goes to bed and is out like a light all night and she is such a sound sleeper.

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