When did you introduce parents to each other?

posted 10 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Our mothers met At our wedding which was on our two year dating anniversary, some of our siblings had already met.

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Post # 3
2510 posts
Sugar bee

They met at our rehearsal dinner the day before our wedding. My husband and I are from opposite sides of the country so it would have been a pain for them to meet beforehand, and neither of us thought it was particularly important since we’re unlikely to spend time with both of our families at once anyway. I don’t see why your families need to meet prior to engagement unless it’s super important to them for some reason (I know in some cultures this is a big consideration).   

Post # 4
3730 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

After we got engaged (5 years into dating). There honestly wasn’t much of a reason why we waited so long. Our parents live in the same town, but are just very different. My inlaws are very much homebodies and my parents don’t like sitting at home for more than a day or two. They just really didnt have anything in common, so there was neveral really a neutral setting for them to get together. Our mothers had friended each other on Facebook and talked some there, but the actual meeting was a little awkward and they haven’t met up independently since lol.

Post # 5
768 posts
Busy bee

Our mums met a while ago and hang out from time to time themselves. Possibly before we got engaged..? I can’t quite remember. 

My family (particularly my mum) is pretty open to that tho and she is pals with my sisters boyfriends mum also, who lives far away, but comes to visit sometimes, and is lovely!

Its not important before you propose – particularly if they are unlikely to see each other much. But if they are likely to get along together, it’s nice to break the ice.

Post # 6
1842 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

They met at our rehearsal. Our parents are all divorced and remarried, and live in 4 different states. It just never happened, and they didn’t insist or have any issue with it. 

Post # 7
2811 posts
Sugar bee

My parents met my husband’s dad & stepmom after 3 months and became friends, but they didn’t meet his mom and stepdad until the wedding because they live quite a bit further away. 

It’s definitely not necessary before proposing, especially if you live quite far apart. 

Post # 8
3401 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

My parents come out to visit here a couple times a year. They met my now fiance about 6 months after we started dating and met his parents at their next visit just over a year in. Ever since, whenever my parents visit we go out for dinner with his. It’s nice – they all really like each other. We are very much looking forward to getting both sides of the family together for our wedding, as we know our aunts and uncles and everoeve will really get along. 

That said, I don’t think it’s all that unusual for parents to meet one another for the first time around the wedding. Not a necessity to get them all together ahead of time if it’s difficult to do. 

Post # 9
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I have kind of a unique situation. My fiance works for his family’s bakery (where his mom, dad, uncle, grandparents, and an occasional aunt and cousins all work). My parents knew this. So after I had met his family (about 2 months after we started dating) my parents waited till I was busy all day one Saturday, then went to the bakery to shop and meet everyone. They met his parents, his grandparents, an uncle, an aunt, and three little cousins (not to mention a handful of long-time family friends) all in one fell swoop. Fiance was there too. They texted me and were like “Everyone’s so nice!” I was a little uncomfortable with the whole thing at first, but then I realized it saved me the anxiety of having to orchestrate a meeting between everyone and then be present for the meeting, which would have been way more anxiety than I was ready for. 

Now my parents are invited to every family gathering. Everyone gets along swell!

Post # 10
3889 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Our parents met at our wedding. We didn’t feel like our parents opinions of one another had any kind of bearing on our relationship, so it was never a priority to introduce them. 

Post # 11
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

We’ve been together almost 5 years, engaged for 7 months, we all live in the same area and they’ve never met. 

Post # 12
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

They met at the Rehearsal Dinner. And due to distance, I doubt they will ever see each other again. But I don’t think any of them (my Mom, step-Dad, Dad, or his Mom) much care either way. They were cordial with each other but that’s about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ So I don’t think it’s a big deal if they don’t meet before the proposal!

Post # 13
5003 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

Our families met at our wedding. They live less than an hour apart so it wasn’t even a distance thing. 

Post # 14
1296 posts
Bumble bee

Well it is different at different  life stages I am sure. But I met my future in laws once we moved in together. He hasn’t met my father in person as he is on the other side of the country. They’ll likely meet at our wedding, lol. He has met my sister and her family as they are only a full day travel. Hes not met either of my grown children in person. But, I relocated across country and we are in our 40s. I am very  fortunate  in that his family is super warm and welcoming.

I think my father and sister will be the only family on my side to travel so far for our wedding. So they will meet with his family then.  

Post # 15
1296 posts
Bumble bee

In my previous marriage my father never met my x inlaws. Ever. 25 years 

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