When did you introduce parents to each other?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
3662 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

They met at the wedding. There was never really a reason to get everyone together before that as our mothers don’t live in the same state. 

Post # 17
49 posts

It happened pretty organically. We are from opposite coasts and at the time my FH and I were living near my family. His mom was coming to visit us and for a work trip, and while she was here we went to dinner with my parents and sister. When my parents were in her city she hosted them for wine and cheese, and they’ve become pretty good friends. His dad later came to visit us and meet my family too (his parents are divorced), but isn’t as close to my parents as his mom is. 

It was definitely made easier that our parents have similar careers, interests, and backgrounds. They have a lot to talk about and have a lot of fun together.

Post # 18
2210 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Probably when we moved in together. My in-laws live behind us so can’t exactly avoid it 

Post # 19
358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

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sciencefig :  ours didn’t meet until after we were engaged. Actually, they haven’t even fully met yet. They won’t until mid February… for an April wedding. They don’t live in the same city, we don’t feel the need to force our families together. I think when we have children it may be different, but for now it’s pretty separate. 

Post # 20
13780 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Most traditionally the grooms parents calls the bride’s after the engagement to express their happiness, and to extend an invitation, but it really doesn’t matter who calls who first if the families have not already met or do not already know each other. These days, the couple themselves can plan a meeting too. 

But to answer your question, no they certainly do not have to meet before the proposal. Our parents met for the first time after H proposed. 

Post # 21
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

 Our parents haven’t met yet and most likely won’t until day of wedding. We each have divorced parents with new stepparents. It’s going to be interesting.

Post # 22
199 posts
Blushing bee

Our parents met during Easter our second year of dating. We’ve been together for 4 years now and just over Thanksgiving we had the siblings meet each other. 

Post # 23
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We’re from the same small town. DH and his parents knew my dad before I was born. His parents died 35-40 years ago. My mom doesn’t remember them but remembers their small business. DH’s self-employed distribution business was a supplier to my dad’s business. My dad who died five years ago loved him. 

The funny thing is that when we met we didn’t know any of this. It all came out while we were dating. 

Post # 24
1232 posts
Bumble bee

Several years before we got engaed. We had a family dinner with all of them together. The thought was that if we are in a serious relationship and they are all important to us, they should know each other. It went well and mae things easier in wedding planning. 

Post # 25
68 posts
Worker bee

My parents are friends with my fiancé’s parents, but that’s probably because FH and I have known each other since we were really young. 

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