(Closed) When did you KNOW for sure you wanted to be a mom?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve always known I wanted to be a mom. I started babysitting when I was 11 years old because I remember loving kids so so much. I can’t wait to be a mom.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’ve always known I wanted to be a mom, but it was really solidified with the birth of each of my nephews.  My brother’s first son was born the spring of my senior year of college, and I got to hold him just a few hours after he was born.  Their second son was born 22 months later.  Seeing how parenthood has changed my brother and sister-in-law and the joy that their sons bring to them really reinforces my desire to be a mom.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@daybyday: For you, and others, who say they’ve never really been into babies and just aren’t sure…have you considered adoption?  I know this is a touchy subject for some people, but there are tons of older children in the system that really need a loving home.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Treejewel19: I agree. I had an “oops” moment and while it may not have been the best situation at the time, it definitely didn’t terrify me.

I don’t know that there was a precise moment, but its something that’s always been there.  Growing up, I had that maternal instinct and I loved anything and everything to do with kids.  I got my degree in elementary education, but I prefer working with smaller children.  I used to work in a daycare and I was excited to go to work (most of the time).  It definitely wasn’t all rainbows and kittens as I got used to screaming, tantrums, bodily fluids, etc. and I still want a baby of my own really badly!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I knew that I wanted to be a mom when I had my miscarriage about a year ago.  The pregnancy was unplanned, but instead of feeling relief about no longer being pregnant (like the relief I’d gotten in the past if I had a pregnancy scare with other BF’s and then AF would show up), I was immensely sad.  I felt so connected with my lil’ one from the moment I found out I was pregnant, and so excited about being a mom.  Also seeing my Darling Husband react to the idea of being a father, and how he grew and changed from the entire experience made me feel that much more bonded to him and ready.

It probably sounds weird, but that moment, when the idea of being pregnant filled me with joy instead of terror, was the moment I knew I wanted to be a mom.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wish I could have that moment! I’ve always felt like I wanted kids someday, but lately I’ve been babysitting my nephew a lot, he is almost two. You would think this would cause my maternal instinct to kick in or something, but so far it hasn’t happened. My nephew is adorable and I love him and love watching him, but it’s always a bit of a relief when I know his mom will be home from work soon, I definitely get tired/overwhelmed. I thought I was ready or close to it…but I’m starting to doubt that decision, I just don’t know if I’m ready for that full-time =/

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I didn’t want children until I met my husband, and then I knew.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@sleepingbeauty88: I knew the second that I became an aunt that one day I would be a mother. I was a college student who didn’t think I would ever want marriage or kids, but as soon as I met my first nephew, I fell in love. 10 years later I’m finally TTC!

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Lozza:  I’m pretty close to you, except it was maybe when my daughter was born, instead of 3 months later.

I always knew I wanted kids, and I was excited to have kids with my husband, but the moment my daughter was born, I knew that I meant to be a mother.  It was the total “Aha!” moment for me.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

@Mrs. Spring:  I think one of the things that’s made a difference for me, in making me feel like I was “meant to be a mother” was realizing/starting to feel like I’m good at it. I think I wasn’t sure if I’d get super frustrated with a baby, or if I’d get sick of spending time with him, or something like that. And now that I realize that I’m good at taking care of his needs and making him happy and secure, that makes a big difference in making me feel like this is the right “life path,” so to speak.

Post # 27
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Honey bee

Ive always just known, but after becoming more serious with my Fiance and buying a house it’s eally kicked in. I love daydreaming about our future family 🙂

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Lozza: I’m so glad you said this!! We are TTC and I’m 41 and I’m still not sure about it. But I don’t like what I see when I think of a life without kids. Yes, we’d have more money, time and sleep. But in 5-10 years, would that be enough? 

Post # 29
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Busy bee

When people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would always start by “When I’m gonna be a mommy, I want to be….” So for me, being adult = being a mom. I could have a baby anytime and love him/her to death. But there’s a right time for everything, and I’m patiently waiting to offer them the best conditions for life.

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Lozza:  Definitely becoming more confident as a mother has made me feel more secure in my decision, as well.  I think, also, before I had my daughter, I didn’t know how wonderful parenthood could be.  I was just telling a good friend this the other day, but before we had Addie, I thought parenthood was 90% hard work  and like 10% payback.  I was amazed and surprised to learn how much more rewarding and satisfying motherhood is than what I thought it would be.

Post # 31
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Mrs. Spring: It seems to me (looking from the outside) parenthood is 100% hard work and 100% rewarding! 🙂

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