(Closed) When did you know it was over?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Insignia Steakhouse

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polkadots12:  my last relationship, I finally realized he wasn’t going anywhere in life and I wanted to better myself. I couldn’t take care of him for the rest if my life because that’s not healthy!

Post # 3
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Helper bee

With my ex it was just a gut feeling. I was very unhappy with his behavior. I finally got the guts to say things needed to change or it was over. I’m so proud of myself looking back for doing that. I’m now with an amazing man who treats me very well. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

When he disappeared for a week. No calls, no text, nothing. I thought he was dead…. Yea, Bye.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I was with my ex for over 5 years. He was never going to marry me. We felt like roommates. I started to notice other men. That’s when I knew I didn’t love him anymore. I left him and ended up dating one of my co workers. We’re getting married in 6 months and couldn’t be happier. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

It sounds silly, but I knew when he didn’t give new anything for Valentine’s Day. Not even a card. We had dated on and off for about 5 years and he ALWAYS made a big deal about Valentine’s Day. This time we had just gotten back together on New Year’s Eve a month and a half earlier, after a 3 month break. But nothing felt right at all. It was like we were just going through the motions. So when we got together on V Day and I was trying my best to make it special (made him dinner, bought him a gift, rented one of his favorite movies) but he did…well absolutely nothing. I was sitting on the couch with him trying to cuddle and I could tell he just wasn’t into it. I think he just didn’t have the guts to break up with me again. So I pulled away and told him it was obvious that we were done. And that was it.

I was SUPER heart broken at the time, but it was for the best. Last Sunday I married the love of my life and I couldn’t be happier. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Nashville, TN

Finally came to my senses after 12 years with an alcoholic. Stupid me thought I could save him. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I knew when he kept breaking it off (or threatened to) as a means of control. He constantly held the relationship hostage! Manipulation doesn’t go over well with me…ever.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

Wow. I broke it off because we refused to change anything for each other. We kept going through the motions and neither of us was happy. I should’ve done it sooner!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

When he didn’t return my calls, texts, or emails for a week. Including an email where I laid it all on the line, asking desperately if he was in or out. He never responded, so when he finally answered the phone, that was it for me. We broke up over the phone after almost 4 years.

And 3 months later, I met my wonderful now-fiance. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee

My relationship with my last ex ended when I realized one day that when I looked into my future I didnt see him there. He made me happy but I wasn’t in love, it was a tough one but we’ve both moved on to better things now, so I know it was the right call. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

When I felt more anxiety with the relationship than anything else.  It was like I was going through the motions.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I knew after a year it wasn’t going anywhere. I hadn’t met his parents…but I didn’t love him. It continued for 3 years until one day I knew he was seeing someone at work. We broke it off. Thank god. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I knew my marriage to my ex-husband wasn’t great but kept thinking things would turn around, he kept promising to work on things, etc. Then one night he was out with his friends and sent me a really disrespectful, rude text message and that was it. I just didn’t want to do another morning of “If you don’t address your binge drinking/gaming I’ll have to leave” “Oh I promise to work on it” “Well okay then”. It was like an out of the blue realisation – I felt like we now had completely different work ethics, views on the future, etc and I’d completely lost respect for him.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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polkadots12:  When after waiting years for a proposal and when I realised it wasn’t going to come I asked my ex what he really truley wanted from life. I said to him a thousand times, if you don’t want to get married and have babies, that is fine, but you got to let me know because I do and we will need to go our seperate ways. The final straw was when he responded that what he really wanted from life was to play more playstation! FML

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