(Closed) When did you know you wanted a baby?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’ve always wanted kids but I always said I’d wait until I’m 30. I’m 26 but now I want them sooner, like we want to start trying in the next 6 months lol. In life ive come to realize that you can never be prepared enough or youll never really be where you want to be before you have kids or get married, etc. So just enjoy and go with the flow. My DH has 1 son already who I adore and he’s always asking us and his mom when he’s getting a brother.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We knew we wanted to have our first child before we turned 30, no real reason why. We also knew we wanted to be married a year before throwing pregnancy or a baby in the mix, even though we had already been together for 5 years.

First, we planned to start trying about a month before our first wedding anniversary (when DH was 26, me 25), but then after our wedding we really started thinking about moving up TTC because I was at a good point in my job to leave it to have a baby and then find a new job once I was ready after a nice maternity leave (I’m not protected by FMLA and my leave isn’t paid). We also starting thinking about the fact that there will never be a “perfect” time to get pregnant, and because of a uterine anomoly I have, we were advised by doctors not to wait too long to have children.

We are so glad we decided to bump up TTC because it took us 6-7 cycles for me to get pregnant… and we ended up getting pregnant with twins about when we had originally planned!

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’ve aleays wanted kids, but what really hit it off was when I met my fiance’s son and became his full time step mother. now, we are getting married in June and plan to start TTC our second child right after! I’m only 19!

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I struggled with this decision. At age 28 I’d been with my, then, boyfriend 4 years and he knew he wanted kids and was ready to get married, but I didn’t know if I wwanted kids, so I put off the engagement several months while I figured it out. I thought a lot about pros and cons on both sides. I talked to a lot of people who had kids and those that didn’t. I did an excersize where I spent a week pretending I’d never have a child and trying to picture my life, then a week imagining my life with a child. Ultimately, I decided that my life would be more interesting, fun and fulfilling with a child. And my son is now two months old! So far I love being a mom more than I could have guessed. But that’s me. Ultimately, it’s a very personal decision that you and your husband have to make.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Megbee617:  well I spent the majority of my life thinking I had ZERO maternal instinct and that I would be a better aunt than mother. But when I met my Fiance and when I started my job (same time really) and dealing with kids a lot, I realized that I had a pretty good one after all!

it may have been age, aka being-naive, or that I had been with a series of individuals who lacked the appealing traits of a father- or whatever- but I basically thought the moment I started dating Fiance “this is a man I would like to reproduce with”. He is such a great man, he makes me a better person for it. Also the idea of bringing more of him into the world, and more of me by default, was not such a scary idea and was also the most beautiful thing I could imagine. Yep. Basically he had me hook line and sinker. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I should add we have not started trying, but plan to sometime next year or so. (After wedding)

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have always wanted kids. But six years ago when I met DH I knew he was the one I would have kids with. And here we are 6 years together, three married and in our 10th month of TTCing. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’ve wanted to be a mother since I was a little girl. I love kids and it’s something that comes very naturally to me. But I didn’t actually feel “ready” to have kids until I met my fiance. I’ve never known or met my biological father, so it was critical for me to find the right man before I started a family of my own. My fiance is an incredible man and he a good provider and a big family guy. So I know he will be a devoted husband and father. We are getting married on May 28th of next year and we plan on starting TTC at the end of March after my cycle of that month. We are very excited for this next stage in our lives! 🙂

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper

I don’t remember ever not wanting to be a mom one day! 

Post # 25
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Helper bee

When my daughter was born lol. I was 27.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I always knew I wanted kids, even when I wasn’t sure I ever wanted to get married. My plan was if by 35 I wasn’t married I would go to a sperm bank or adopt. When I was with my ex, I didn’t feel any real kind of a baby making urge….and then I met my now-DH. I knew in my bones I wanted to have HIS babies. We’re going to wait a few more years to start, but if an oopsy-baby happens before then it’s not the end of the world.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Megbee617:  Our plan was to wait until I was 26, him 28, which would have been four more years from now.

But in Feb. of this year, I never got my period.  So for about half of this 56-day cycle (where mine are always 28 since I was on birth control), I knew there was a chance I was pregnant.

When my period finally showed up as it would have been expected in March, we both started crying.  After spending an entire month thinking we could be pregnant and then finding out my body just decided to skip a period entirely and then return to normal, we were crushed.

So, we reevaluated our timeline.  Decided we would start trying in June, the month of our first wedding anniversary, because if we were successful, it would put the due date around our 6 year dating anniversary.

And now here I am, right on schedule, with a baby due 3 days after. 🙂

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’ve always knew I wanted children. I guess it was just a feeling for me. I’ve had baby fever since I was 25 and it’s been hard seeing others getting pregnant. I so wanted a baby but I wasn’t ready financially. But we are better know and I was so scared and excited to start TTC. I’m pregnant right now and I feel like this is what I was supposed to do in my life. I’m so excited but still very scared.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’ve always wanted to be a mom! I’ve wanted to be a mother more than anything else (after marriage) since childhood. I was an infant nanny from 19-25 and raised 5 different babies from shortly after birth to around their first birthdays… So I know what I’m signing up for! Ha! It always felt like the most natural thing in the world to me. Fiance is at the edge of his seat ready to have a baby (He is 10 years older), so I’m hoping we can get a puppy after the wedding to pacify him for a couple years until we buy and renovate the home we want to raise our family in! It is important to me to be debt free and in our own home before TTC. I also want us to take one big trip as a couple before baby. Fiance doesn’t realize how much babies change things! 😉

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I ask myself the same thing! For me it started a few months ago. All the sudden I felt like I wanted kids sooner rather than later. At the same time, we have several friends with small children & babies and while I think they are absolutely adorable I’m kind of terrified of them! I don’t have much experience with kids unfortunately.

So I’m definitely excited and eager to start our family after our wedding in February but totally petrified at the same time. Crazy!!

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