(Closed) When did you know you wanted a baby?

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Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I always knew that in the academic sense, I wanted children. I never, ever felt a desire to become pregnant, however (no “biological clock” ticking, despite the fact that I didn’t have our first until I was about 30). My DH very much wanted a family with children, and that was a discussion we had at length before getting married, but I never felt a “need” to have children. Indeed, while I was pregnant I felt like a weird science experiement. It was not enjoyable or “magical” or anything else positive in terms of experience for me. I honestly thought science would be the point of gestating babies in a lab by the time I was an adult (I’d read some sort of futuristic science story when I was young that sounded like a really good idea to me), so I didn’t think that carrying a baby was something I’d actually have to do.

Regardless, we did want a family, and we did have that family in the traditional way. In retrospect, I am delighted we had the three children we had planned on. While pregnancy was not enjoyable for me, having our children IS, so it was well worth it.

Post # 32
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Helper bee

My story is very similar to 

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llevinso. I never wanted kids, until I found myself in a relationship with my SO and realized that having kids with him was different than wondering about theoretical kids and a theoretical family. I wanted those kids! It happened a few years into the relationship, so I was in my late 20s. We’re actively TTC now.

Post # 33
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Helper bee

This is so funny to read.  I’ve NEVER wanted kids.  I decided when I was 15.  I figured then if I did end up wanting kids, I’d certainly never have biological children.  I was scared to death of being pregnant and childbirth.  Even when I met my SO at 23, I told him I didn’t want children.  He was fine with that.  Well, now I’m 26, and everyone around me is getting married and having children, and there is absolutely something contagious about it.  I’m not 100% sure it’s in the cards for us yet, but I am way more open to the idea than I ever have been before.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

For me, I didn’t really think about children too hard till meeting my fiance. I always knew I wanted to experience the journey of pregnancy and raising a child. However, I never really had a partner till him that made me actually envision it happening someday. I like children in small doses. I’m not overly attached to other people’s children…and usually I’m more drawn to the babies than ones old enough to talk lol. However, I’ve always known this would be different if it were my own children. Children are especially drawn to me which also fuels my interest in being a parent one day.

My fiance wants to be a father. It’s one of his dreams. I know he’ll be a wonderful dad. I don’t have any concerns in how we’ll be as parents. I do have concerns about how it’ll be with our families, how the pregnancy will go, how birth will go,…all that jazz. However, I know you can never be fully prepared and we’ll take these in small steps as we get to that point. I was 22 when I met my fiance. Though we agreed that we should wait to start a family till I’m at least 28 and we’re more financially equipped. 🙂 

Post # 35
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Helper bee

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frommisstomrs.:  You thought you were pregnant for an entire month and didn’t take a pregnancy test?

Post # 36
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Busy bee

I have known since I was very young, which in hindsight is when I should have begin trying. If I may be honest, time is not everyones friend. Please keep that in mind when “putting it off”. Im still young now, but docs say I had a better chance in my 20’s than I am having now at 30… Just food for thought

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I went from never in my early 20’s to maybe in my mid 20’s to desperately wanting them in my late 20’s. Honestly,  I don’t think I 110% knew I wanted kids until we struggled to get pregnant. 

For some people it comes…for some it never does. And either way is ok. 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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gbee:  Yeah, it kept coming back negative, but nothing in my life had changed other than being on an antibiotic during the perfect time for me to have accidentally gotten pregnant. I’d been on birth control for over five years and never not had a 28-day cycle.  I was testing daily and even had a blood test, but of course, they were all negative.  Just randomly skipped a period after 5 years of regularity. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee

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frommisstomrs.:  Ah, okay.  I’m also on the pill and miss periods pretty regularly, at least once or twice a year, but I always take a test when that happens anyway, just for peace of mind.

Post # 40
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Busy bee

I have always wanted children. For as long as i can remember its been the most important thing, all that matters to me is having my own little family. It probably stems from my childhood and lots of hurt, and decisons out of my control but i am just so maternal. If i see a child in the street my heart melts, some days i think i’m crazy haha. I have a medical condition so whilst i am healthy i have been told to start trying twenties and to be as helthy as possible.. which i am! It’s an added worry of us not being completely sure how my body will react with pregnancy. I am 25, Fiance 32. 

Fiance shares my thoughts on children, and we have spent many evening discussing our future childrens names, traditions, what kind of parents we will be .. even nursery layouts! We are currently TTC, this is our 4th cycle but first using OPK’s. I just wish it wasnt so stressful. I worry so much and read into every cycle. self diagnosing this and that if it isnt completely textbook. 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Forever. Even at 2yrs old I used to run next door where they had a new born baby, as I just always had this weird maternal instinct. My greatest wish is to be a mother. I wish I could have started trying sooner now that I know I have built in birth control no matter what I do. 

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

We always wanted kids but we weren’t in any rush. Then, shortly after we got engaged, one of my best friends got pregnant and the Baby Bug bit me HARD. We decided to table the conversation until we got married. Then bff’s baby was born and DH volunteered to watch him in the afternoons when BFF went back to work. That’s when the Baby Bug bit DH. We talked about it again and came to the decision that we would TTC after the wedding. It’s now 8 months after the wedding and I am 6 months pregnant, lol.

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Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement

I didn’t know until I found myself pregnant in June 2014 with my now fiance’s baby. I lost the baby. But before then, I was staunchly childfree. I did not want kids. I hated babies. Too noisy, too messy, too much money, would I even be a good mom? But then when I found myself pregnant, I felt something change in me. And by the time I lost it two weeks after I found out, I wanted to be a mom more than anything in the world. The maternal instinct I doubted I had was there, and was strong. I loved our little bean. I still do. The same happened to my now fiance. We’re planning to start TTC after our wedding.

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