(Closed) When did you know you were ready for a baby?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

How long have you been married for?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

YOu are SO young, hold tight. I’d concentrate on other goals before baby. Could he support you now if you were a SAHM? I’m sure people will be thrilled when it does happen.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I knew we would be ok if I got pregnant when we had 20k is savings, hubby was making close to 6 figures ( I’ll be a SAHM), no debt except mortgage, traveled quite a bit and feel content with eachother. I’m now 27 weeks pregnant and still often dont feel “ready.” ahhhhhh

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

stephaniee24 :  I understand, I went through this a few years ago. Glad I waited. I’m 26 and hubby is 30. Seems great <3

Post # 9
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Busy bee

We are not as young as you and your husband (I’m 27 and FH is 30), but I feel you, girlfriend! I’ve had baby fever for a long time and genuinely want kids so bad. I’m in school right now and money is tight. Once we get through my first year of this programl, FH will likely enroll also. So not a great time for kids. Thankfully, not many people I know have children, but still anytime I see younger couples around I get so envious.
My baby fever got really intense this summer but thankfully has subsided a bit. This was mainly  because we just had a huge cross-country move and I started a new school– lots of other things to focus on. But, FH and I also settled on an estimated timeline and that really helped me a lot too! We are planning to begin trying in about 3 years, which is after I graduate and within the first year of my career.  The point of my long winded story is maybe a timeline would help you a bit, too. Have you discussed a timeline with your husband? It doesn’t have to be set in stone, but maybe knowing when you can begin trying may help you a bit. I also have been diligently taking a multivitamin with folate, which also makes me feel like I’m doing something baby-related lol. Another idea is, could you do some research and figure out how much a child would cost each year? Then you could have a financial goal to reach, which is a nice tangible bench mark. Just some ideas! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

xo_futuremrsbear :  Great ideas and advice.

We are having a little boy. 😀

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ready for one person can differ from another. 

Ready for us finishing college and graduate school. Being stable in our jobs. Traveled to all the places we wanted to beforehand, and having a nice townhome in the city. 

I’m 30w pregnant and like another PP said – I still freak out about whether I’m ready or not! 

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Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’m 23 and Fi is 24, we’ll both be that age when we get married. We both agree that we could financially look after a baby, but we want to get some of the ‘big’ things out of the way. Like we have a big holiday coming up after the honeymoon, and there’s a few things that we want to do that selfish as it sounds we want to do without the pressures of parenthood. So I guess its different for everyone, and in a marriage babies have to be a choice between the two. So perhaps talk to hubby about what his ideal timeline is, and figure out if there are other things you want to do beforehand that perhaps with a baby would be more difficult. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

stephaniee24 :  God I wish I knew!  

I’m in the exact opposite situation – my Darling Husband and I are starting to get a bit older (32 and 33) and we need to get serious about having kids if it’s something we want to do.  We’re in a great place financially and relationship wise to care for children (2x good jobs, good benefits, great financial security, have been married for more than 3 years, most of our friends have kids now) but we are still both a little terrified of doing it.  We’ve been putting it off and putting it off for years thinking that some day we’ll get a magic feeling of clarity that tells us we want to have kids, but here we are, 10 years together and still wondering if children are for us.  I worry that we’ll have kids and regret it and I worry that we’ll wait until it’s too late and then not be able to have kids and regret it for the rest of our long, lonely lives.

 

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