When did you lose your vcard?

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: How old were you the first time you had sex? (vaginal, not oral)
    12-13 : (14 votes)
    2 %
    14-15 : (122 votes)
    16 %
    16-17 : (226 votes)
    29 %
    18 : (136 votes)
    18 %
    19-21 : (136 votes)
    18 %
    22-24 : (64 votes)
    8 %
    25-29 : (32 votes)
    4 %
    older than 29 : (5 votes)
    1 %
    Haven't had sex yet : (40 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 137
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    i was 18 and at the end of my first semester in college, so i definitely felt like i was on the old end of things.  i met Darling Husband1 right after that guy too, at the beginning of the next semester, and wished i’d waited just a little longer.  i deflowered him, lol.  (he was 19.)  he told me repeatedly that he was kind of glad he wasn’t my first, because of how badly it hurt for me.  sooo painful.  i’d only had sex with the first guy four times, and it hurt and i bled all four times.  it was awful.

    apparently Fiance had just turned 21 his first time.

    Post # 138
    Member
    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @SpecialSundae:  i wasn’t promiscuous, but i agree with you, personally.  i like to try my shoes on before i buy them.

    that’s not to say that i think people who wait are “wrong”…to each their own.  this is just how i feel about it, and what works for me.  (and for Fiance too, apparently.  at least, he’s told me he thinks i have a “healthy” attitude about sex, and we have it as frequently as our LDR circumstances will allow, so i THINK he agrees with me.  Wink)

    Post # 139
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    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I was a month shy of my 17th birthday, and it was with my first serious boyfriend. He was very kind and we were very much in love at the time. He would have married me. Our lives were just going in such divergent directions, though.

    The experience itself was sort of surreal. It was in a shack…

    Post # 140
    Member
    588 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I was 12 and I don’t regret it.  It was actually a very funny scenario and I laugh about how ridiculous it was. I think losing it at that age made me appreciate myself more. It made me realize that my body is a gift to be given to those who earn it.

    Post # 141
    Member
    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I was 18 and it was with my then boyfriend and current fiancee. and we are now both 27 and getting married next year.

    Post # 143
    Member
    814 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @cardus: Same. Sex isn’t even important to me, but I personally coudn’t marry someone I wasn’t sure I was sexually compatable with.

    Good on those who wait, good on those who don’t 🙂

    Post # 144
    Member
    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We didn’t wait until marriage, but my fiance is the only man I’ve been with and I couldn’t be happier about that!

    Post # 145
    Member
    43 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @JeanieRae: I’m in the same boat as you and I’m glad things worked out the way they did!

     

    I was 22 with my then bf/now Fiance. My opinions on the subject changed over time and while I totally commend those who are waiting, I wanted to know that we were sexually compatible.

     

    Post # 146
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    181 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was 15, I was doing summer work at a polo/hunting equestrian yard when one of the grooms turned 21. They threw a huge party and the people I was living with bought me a pack of alchopops and let me drink shots all night with them. I’m not sure what time it was but I was carried up to a bedroom and left there unable to stand and in a right mess. No one forced me to drink them, I drank it all, you know 15 with the older kids trying to be cool.

    One of the grooms came in and decided to ‘take care of me’. I don’t fully remember it and I don’t call it rape, I don’t think I was resisting. I was hammered off my face, and sex was a huge topic of conversation at school at the time. All my friends were having sex and I had only just kissed a boy. So I was probably willing. Although had I not been absolutely off my face on alcohol there is no way on this earth I would have had sex. I regret that it happened and it sent me on quite the mental bender for a while. 

    Sex was not something that was discussed in my household. Even though my mother encouraged me to have as many boyfriends on the go as I wanted and dress like a prostitute on my nights out she never actually talked about sex and boys to me. 

    So yea I went a little mental after that incident at the party.

    If I were to have children I would be completely open and honest with them about sex, teens and all the dangers that come with not waiting and not being safe.

    Post # 147
    Member
    2402 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was 18. Looking back I regret who it was with… ick.

    Post # 148
    Member
    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was 18, and both me and my fiance were each others firsts 🙂  He was 18 too and I felt that was right..  Well I made him wait a year of dating before we lost our virginities but I wanted to make sure it was right.  I wouldn’t have had it any other way..  Since I had a few other exboyfriends before my fiance but they weren’t that overly serious..

    Post # 149
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    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I was 19, in college and I was soooo ready! LOL. I knew I wasn’t ready when I was in High School, so I waited until I felt comfortable handling the good,  the bad, and the ugly afterwards. It was great and has only gotten better.

    Post # 150
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    869 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I was 18, already out of high school, and living in my own place. He was my first and only and is now my husband and father to my child. I have only been with him and I don’t regret deciding to sleep with him soon after we met or that I never slept with anyone else. 

    Post # 151
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    2747 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We were both 16 at the time~ My high school sweetheart.

     

    I am marrying him in June!

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