(Closed) When did you mail your invitations?

posted 10 years ago in Paper
  • poll: When did you/are you sending your invites?
    4 weeks in advance : (2 votes)
    6 %
    6 weeks in advance : (3 votes)
    9 %
    8 weeks in advance : (11 votes)
    33 %
    10 weeks in advance : (13 votes)
    39 %
    other : (4 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We sent our invitations out about 8 weeks in advance.  I don’t think 10 weeks is that terrible, especially if a lot of your guests will be traveling for the wedding.  I would try to ignore your FMIL’s comments.  And if she says anything else, just mention that you need final numbers a month out for the caterer/reception venue/hotel blocks/whatever. 

    Post # 4
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think the trend is to send invitations earlier (like 8-10 weeks) rather than 6 weeks ahead, which is think is the official recommendation that’s been around forever. If people are buying plane tickets, this gives them the opportunity to shop around for better deals. Also, people are busier these days and early notice helps them plan around business trips, vacations and other events.

    Also, the bride and groom don’t want to be tracking down missing RSVPs a week before the wedding! Finally, if you estimates of who will/won’t attend end up being way off, it won’t be too late to scale back on favors/out of town bags/ desserts and stick to your budget.

    Post # 5
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    it sounds odd so if anyone has an opinion (oh new post idea!!)  our registry through for our honeymoon says that it has to be paid up to 60 days before the honeymoon. so i had to calculate so that there was enough time for the registry to make it to the guests and still have time to view the honeymoon registry. wow.. i dont know of that made any sense.

    Post # 6
    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Our final count for the venue is due 3 weeks prior to the wedding so I am sending out invites out 10.5 weeks out from wedding. I am doing this so that my Mom and I have a good 1.5 weeks to make sure we got every response. It really all depends on your situation.

    Post # 7
    2680 posts
    Sugar bee

    I am sending mine out on Saturday and my wedding is June 20th.  The RSVPs are due back June 1st but my final count is not due until the Monday before the wedding so I will have time to follow up with people we dont hear from.

    Post # 8
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    I remember reading that 4-8 was standard etiquette but I think people are pretty open these days to rolling with whatever your needs are (in other words, I don’t think 10 weeks was too early). If anything, I think it’s better to err on the side of giving people more time than less – I just got an invite that was in all likelyhood sent at the 4 week mark and we had less than a week to have our RSVP back to them which, personally, I don’t think is a whole heck of a lot of time.

    Post # 9
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @naangel55: my wedding is the day before yours, and we got ours out yesterday!  So pretty much the same.

    I wanted most people to receive them about 8 weeks prior, which is tomorrow.  Our RSVP date is 4 weeks before as well.

    Post # 10
    5271 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I read in a book that you should send your invites 3 months before the wedding, which would be like 12 weeks….I think thats what were going to do  Personally, I don’t think its a bad thing to tell people 3 months in advance, that way if they need to take off work, or whatever. I’m an event coordinator and my schedule is usually planned more then 3 months in advance, so if I had a wedding to go to, I would like to know about 12-10 weeks prior. And I think its not necessary to send Save-The-Date Cards when it isn’t a destination wedding…

    Post # 11
    1230 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    This may sound bad, but we sent our invites out 10 weeks  before wedding because we had an "A list" and a "B List" .  After we got x number of declines, we were able to send out invites to guests on our "B List".  So we sent out our invites earlier than usual and made our RSVP deadline later than usual.  It really worked for us and we didn’t have to feel bad about sending out wedding invites 5 weeks before the wedding because the guests still had 4 weeks to RSVP! 

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