When did you move in together?

posted 3 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We moved in together after 2 years 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I moved in to his house after 6 months of dating. We were kinda in the same boat as you and I was tired of living out of a suitcase. We figured we might as well live together to make sure we still liked each other lol… just celebrated one year of living together in September (with an engagement)! I definitely recommend living together before getting married! 

Post # 4
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Newbee

I moved in with my boyfriend after dating for a full year (we were long distance for about 4 months). It was the best decision I ever made. I look forward every night to coming home to him, our cat, and our dog. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We started dating at 17 and got our own place after college once we had established careers. We were 23.

So, after 6 years? 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We had been dating for about three months, and my husband did the same sort of thing. He just never went home. There’s no sense in paying to rent two places if you’re always together. As long as you’re both firmly on the same page about the future, I don’t see why you’d wait. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We moved in together at about 18 months. We were both 23 at the time. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

We moved in after one year of dating, we were 20 and 22. I love my DH but I do wish we hadn’t moved in together so early but, financially, it needed to happen so I could afford to finish school. Ideally, I would have liked for us to move in after around three years together.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

After 4 years, 2 months before our wedding, age 24. My opinion has always been you need the commitment to go with it (marriage), but I definitely understand people’s motivation to move in earlier! Do the timing that’s right for you and your boyfriend, and don’t put too much stake in other people’s timelines 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

6 months. He realized I was basically only going home to wash clothes & repack. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Hmm.  I owned a house and he did too. But we were with each other every night for weeks on end at either or. So maybe three months.  I sold my house at 8 months but was really already moved out by then. 

We were on the fast track though.  He’s 30 I’m 29 and both very experienced in long term relationships so we knew what we wanted quick. 

I personally wouldn’t recommend the same pace at 22 with less dating experience. But if you think it works right for you then my opinion doesn’t matter.  

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

3 months, he was 31 and I was 28. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We moved in together about 5 1/2 years into our relationship. We started dating when we were 21, though, and we were both pursuing university degrees. We took advantage of living with our parents as opposed to paying rent, so that we could save and pay for our schooling without any added financial stress. My fiancé then had to move away for further schooling and we did long distance for 1-2 years. 

While 5 years may seem like a while, it worked out well for us in the end, and made finally moving in together that much more special 🙂 

ETA: As one PP said, i definitely think it varies from couple to couple. If you’re older and more experienced, then moving quicker makes a lot of sense. Figure out what you want and what works for you both. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - Windermere, Cumbria

We moved in together after one year. He moved into the apartment that I rent – in mainland Europe it is more common to rent – and I had the bigger apartment. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

After about 2.5 years. We might have been ready right before the 2 year mark, but I had to wait for my lease to end.

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