(Closed) When did you move in together?

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 91
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Moved into his house, about 100 miles away and in a different state, a month after meeting him. He was 35 and I was 27. 

Post # 92
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Sugar Beekeeper

Pretty much straight away , a few weeks . Met on holiday  , he was from  a different state , had to have me, moved to my state lol. Lots of years ago now  that was.  

 I was nearly 30 though and divorced already , he was a few years younger and not married.

Post # 93
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Newbee

I officially moved in (as in ended my lease and put all my crap in his apt) at around the 9 month mark.

Everything in the beginning of our relationship happened pretty fast. We met AND got together at a Christmas party, after which he spent all of his free time, including nights, in my little place. I had just started going back to school and was working part-time, he was on the last leg of a short-term work contract, waiting for it to be turned into an unlimited one. When that happened, in February, he rented a really nice, large, one bedroom and because my bed sucked and my sofa was too small and I didn’t have a dishwasher (or so he claimed), we basically only ever stayed at his place. As in, I would drive straight there after work and he bought a large closet, specifically with one half of it for me.

In July I canceled my lease, which was officially up October 1. This was three years ago. We are now happily engaged and plan to get married next year. We said “I Love you” after not quite 3 months together and talked about getting married for the first time after maybe 6.

I don’t think I would recommend this to anyone. It happened to work out for us, but before that I would have balked at moving in with ANYONE before at least a few years of being together. There was a lot of fighting and lot of getting to know each other for the first time without being able to really remove oneself from certain situations.

 

ETA: I was 27 when we met, he was 28.

Post # 94
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

We’re not moving in together till after we’re married. I own my house and he owns his, so it’s not like one of us can just…drop out of a lease or something. Sure, I could sell my house, but that seems like a really drastic move to take prior to the wedding. I’m busy enough at the moment – I’d hate to add house repairs, packing, moving, and settling into a new house to that list!

Post # 95
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

We moved in after 11 months. I’m so glad we did, because now we understand how we work together, whether it’s sleeping routines, cleaning/chores, etc. We got engaged after maybe 8 or 9 months after living together? I think around 6 months of living together was enough time to know that we’re compatible. 

Post # 96
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Kelowna, BC, Canada

Well my story is a little unconventional. My fiance Andre used to be my roommate.

In Nov. 2011 I broke up with my jackass of a boyfriend and needed a place to stay immediately (I had moved in with him) so I moved into a friends place that she shared with Andre and her brother. Her brother moved out then it was just me, my friend, and Andre. I was instantly drawn to him because of how affectionate and loving he was to my cat (RIP). I love animals and he does too. After a few months we started hanging out a lot, and then one night of drinks led to us getting together. We didnt have a first date lol. Our first date was probably after we were dating a few months lol.. About a year or so later my friend moved out with her boyfriend and it was just Andre and I in the 3 bedroom house. We couldnt afford it and didnt want roomates so we moved out and found our own little 1 bedroom apartment. We have been together 6 years now and we just got engaged Dec. 2018. We are true soul mates and I love him more than words can say.  

 

Post # 97
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: London

We started staying aorund each others about 3 months in, although we would have 3 ish nights at home, but weekends were solidly together. After 10 months we got a mortgage together! 

Post # 98
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

FH technically asked me to move in at 6 months, but honestly I was there so much that I might as well have already lived there. He was 30 and I was 23. Been together for 3 years now, and we are getting married in 4 months! If you are finding yourself compatible enough to cohabitate, then that’s a great sign. Congrats!

Post # 99
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Worker bee

Haha, straight away. Really out of character for me. When we met I was 25 and he was 27. We started dating in October, by November I was staying over more than I was going home, and by December he’d given me a key. So “unofficially”, within a month or two. “Officially”, a few months. 

It was funny because we both actually would otherwise have taken things very slowly and cautiously, but we talked about it and had kind of a “when you know you know” situation going on. 

Post # 100
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

6 months. It was an easy decision. 

Post # 101
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

It was probably around 5 months or so. We started looking at rings at about 9 months. But we’re both in our 30s with a good bit of relationship experience, so we knew what we wanted pretty quickly. 

Post # 102
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We moved on together after we were married

Post # 103
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Blushing bee

I moved in a week after meeting and going along on his vacation out of the country. I would not recommend others to do this but it’s worked great for me because we’ve been together 5 years. 

Post # 104
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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michik :  I actually lived with his parents while he was away at school (long story) for the first four years of our relationship, and about 4.5 years in, we moved into our own apartment

Post # 105
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

Within three months of meeting, we met online and talked on the phone for about a month as we lived in different citizens and I worked shifts, weekend, nights etc so long hours. We met in November, and I was offered a job in her city in January, I took the job and instead of renting somewhere I moved in as I was spending all my time there anyway.

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