Post # 1
My SO and I have been talking about future plans, including engagement and moving in together. He would be moving into my home, then after we get married we would sell my home and purchase a home together. I have a daughter from a previous marriage, and he has 2 daughters from a previous marriage. We both have 50/50 custody. I am 34 and he is 36. My daughter is 11, his are 4 and 8.
For those who blended families, how long into the relationship did you wait to move in together and blend families?
Post # 2
I had a 4 year old daughter from my previous marriage and he had no kids when we started dating. We had dated a year before we moved in together. My daughter adored him and he and my ex husband got along well and it was all very amicable. She is 16 now and so he’s raised her for the last 12 years and we now have 2 more daughters together. I think that each situation is different and depends on the dynamics of the situation. Do the kids like each other? Does your daughter like him?
Post # 3
We waited a year. My kids were 8 and 10 and his daughter was 17.
Post # 4
He had no kids, my daughter was 12. We moved in together after 2 years.
Post # 5
I have a 6 year old son. My fiancé is pretty traditional and won’t move in until we’re married. He won’t even spend the night when my son is here! I think it’s sweet though.
So he will move in after we’re married in September which will be 1 year and 8 months into our relationship.
Post # 6
I have 2 kids, he doesn’t have any. He moved in after 1 year of dating, but also after discussing extensively that we saw the relationship heading toward marriage. The kids were 11 and 14 when he moved in. We got married a year later. It has been wonderful having him here!
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
We waited 2 years. My kids were older 9, 13, 14. My youngest was 4. We kept an open dialogue about if it was okay with them. They have always been supportive and they like him. I think we could have proceeded sooner, but my fiancé wanted to wait a little longer. But in his defense moving in with 4 kids when have been a bachelor for 40 years is a big step. It’s been almost a year and he’s doing great. So are the kids.