Post # 1
Hi bees, my fiance and I are quite young (19 and 23) and I’d like to hear some insight from other young bees/couples! We’re both currently living at home with our parents. For about a year I was living away at a trade school, it was a year and a half for him at the same school. We were away from our parents but not exactly “independent”. I especially have always had the mindset that one leaves home as soon as possible. My mom has been nagging at me about this since I was 15, which is why I moved out to the trade school at 16 but then came back. I know she missed me and she cares, but she tells me she enjoyed living without me and cannot wait till I am financially independent so that I can officially move out. This bugs me but at the same time it is what I want too! Fiance’s parents are nagging at him too, but he gets more pressure because he is older and still living at home. It brings me down a lot. The only thing stopping us from being independent and beginning our lives together is him getting into the military (he is getting his diploma and losing weight for it). I’m studying full time and am going to get my pharm tech license so that I can begin working. I feel so deflated though, sometimes I feel that it will happen and sometimes I’m afraid we’re going to stay stuck! So, at what age did you bees move out of your parents house and what were the circumstances that brought you to it?
Post # 2
FI and I both moved out at 18 when we left for college across the state. After graduating and some hardships, we moved back in with our parents shortly before turning 22. We’re hoping to be moved back out next month. After living on our own and living together for 4 years, we needed to be back on our own. Seriously. We’re so ready to get out on our own.
Post # 3
We both left for college at 18, then we bought our first house at 20/21. We always wanted to get out of our houses and our parents always pushed us to be independent. I wouldn’t change a thing but it’s not for everyone. We might have waited a few more months if we weren’t getting married yet.
Post # 4
I moved to college at 18 in amother state, but did nor become financially independent until last semester at 20. SO is living in dorms and still financially dependent on parents, he is 19.
Post # 5
We are 23, both still living at home. I am studying full time at a University in my city, he works full time but can’t afford to live independently with his salary. We want to move out as soon as possible too, but that’s not possible until we are both working. Our parents are supportive and are happy for us to live at home as long as we need/want to. We are definitely going to move out before we get married though!
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Dh moved out a few months before he turned 21, & I moved out when we got married at 19 (A few months after he turned 21). We literally got married & that same day I got my essentials & moved in :p. I wanted to move in then save up for a wedding but my family being traditional catholic felt strongly against it so I didn’t. I could’ve but I was indifferent anyways it felt like that mattered to them more *shrugs*.
Post # 7
Mircat: I was 19 and moved out of home as my parents moved O/S for a few years, but I was ready anyway so it was fine (they’d have me back anytime though lol) I lived with friends for quite a few years before moving in with my FI, in my opinion I think it’s really important to have that time to learn how to be independant and look after yourself and experience the world before moving in with a partner but that’s just me!
My FI moved in with friends and then back in with his parents for a bit, then moved out to live with me. We were in our early-mid twenties by this stage and it worked really well for us. I’m definitely glad I had the time on my own and with friends first though, they’re really fun times and I think it’d be a shame to miss out on that!
Post # 8
Mircat: DH and I both moved out of our parents house at 18. We were college students, but also worked and supported ourselves.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I moved out at 19 (old for my graduating class) to go to college. DH moved out of his parent’s house when he was 20. We lived apart for 6 1/2 years while I worked on my degrees. I’m so glad I got to live on my own for awhile.
Post # 10
We are both 22 and still living at home. We attended (and I’m still attending) university in our home town, so it never made sense to move out. Why be broke university students when we didn’t have to? We’re hoping to save up money one final summer and move out next fall. Our parents are in no rush for us to move out. In fact, if it were up to them we would stay at home until the wedding just to save money haha. Not happening! We’re dying to move out for some privacy, but in the long run I know we will be happy we stayed home as long as possible!
Post # 11
I moved out at 19, FI at 20 into our first apartment together. That being said, we were in college at the time, and spent the summers in out respective parents’ houses. My parents also paid the rent for our apartment in the summer so that we could afford to keep it.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2016 - Santa Barbara Courthouse
My FI and I moved into a house together when we were 17. My mom moved out of town about a month after my FI and I graduated high school and literally said “I know you guys can take care of yourselves!” and packed up and left! And we’ve been on our own since, just staying in our rented house and going to school. (We’re now each 21.) We don’t really even have an option of moving back in with parents because neither of our parents have the space or money to take us in. We’re alright with it though, because, just like my mom said, we CAN take care of ourselves and we were ready to be on our own. (My older sister lived at home with my mom until she was 23 and it’s one of the things my mom always points out as a big difference between us– I’ve always been a bit more independent.)
I get feeling stuck though. We’re grateful to have our house and everything, but it’s not the nicest or the in the best shape and sometimes I feel like we’re never going to buy a house of our own. You just gotta keep being postitive and working towards your goal of moving onward and upward!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
I moved out the month after my 20th birthday with my husband (then boyfriend) who I had only been dating for 7 months at the time!
It obviously worked & I wouldn’t trade all of those years (about 5 now, wow) for the world, but I do know our situation goes against all odds of a successful relationship & I would caution others to tread lightly given all of those circumstances!
Also, with that said, we were both going to school & working & therefore supporting ourselves. Oh & my husband had lived on his own since he was 18 & was just over 21 when we moved in together ..if that matters.
Post # 14
I moved out as soon as a graduated from undergrad. I think i was 21 or so? I dragged fi with me lol he was 24 ish, but he would have stayed with his mom forever if he could lol
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club
i moved out at 17.5 for college and work; been out of the home since then. I am currently 26; and have been living with my FI for the past 2 years.
He moved out as well when he left for college out of state; when he returned to his home state, he still lived out of his parents home.