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We lost our first pregnancy on Christmas Day at 6 weeks. It was a horrible experience that I wouldn’t wish on anyone, but we are getting through it and looking toward the future.
Darling Husband only knew about the PG for about 3 days before we lost it, and it seems to have woken the part of his mind that really wants to be a Father. I don’t think he really knew how much he wanted this until we had it and then lost it, so he wants to get the ball rolling for the next one. We were NTNT for this PG, but now he wants me to full-on chart again (I’m on board with this plan) so that we can actively try.
As of this morning, I’m spotting brown but nothing major. I had a couple of hellish days late last week, but it seems as though my body has made quick work of this process. I’m getting my levels checked on Wednesday just to be sure, but I don’t anticipate any problems.
To the question posed in my thread title: How long did it take you to O after your MC? I’m somewhat confident that I will be back to normal within a reasonable span of time just based on what my body has done so far, but I’m not sure if it takes longer from the last day of bleeding to the day of O after a MC vs. a regular cycle.
Can anyone who had an experience similar to mine weigh in?
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@MrsCarnival: No advice, just wanted to tell you how sorry I am. *Hugs*
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@Lyndzo: Thank you dear 🙂
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@MrsCarnival: I am so sorry. *Hugs* I didn’t do OPK’s or chart after my MC in October. But I can tell you this. I had tons of fertile looking CM which I think was misleading and weird spotting, so I got my hopes up. Just be on the lookout. Anyhow I was 6 weeks when I mc. It took 6 weeks to get my period back. I did not get pregnant in that cycle. Also it was really short like 23 days and O’d on day 11. I think it takes a bit to get back to normal or it did for me. Not sure how helpful this was. MrsPudding has been in your similar situation and charts. She may be able to weigh in, but she has been taking a much needed break. You might try messaging her.
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@LuluH: Thanks for your response. I ordered a new thermometer and some OPKs so I will start that as soon as they come in the mail just to see where I stand. I was 6 weeks as well…can I ask how long your first bleeding spell lasted? From what I can tell, mine seemed to come in a huge 4-day rush and then taper off at the end. Is MrsPudding okay? I’m not sure what happened, but I hope she’s hanging in there.
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@MrsCarnival: Of course ask me any questions anytime. I started spotting at first for 4 days after I found out I was going to lose it. Then I lost it on day 5. I think about 10 days total. Give or take. I think MrsPudding is doing well. At least last time she posted she felt great. 🙂 Hopefully she can pipe in.
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@MrsCarnival: I am so sorry! I think each person’s cycle varies, but here’s my experience if it helps at all. I had my miscarriage on August 9 (at 5w5d pregnant). I bled/spotted for about 5-7 days. Started my period on Sept 8 (about a month after the mc), and ovulated around Sept 21 (about 13 dpo, but I can’t be too sure bc I wasn’t charting). I got my bfp on Oct 11. So my cycle regulated itself fairly quickly and I waited a cycle before trying again. My ob wanted to make sure that my hcg went back to 0 before I tried again, but I tested at 3 two weeks after the mc, and they said it was ok. I found out quickly this pregnancy that I have low progesterone and that I needed supplements to sustain the pregnancy. I can’t help but think this is what caused my first mc.
I hope my story is able to give you a sense of hope in this time of sadness. I’ll be keeping you and your husband in my thoughts and sending you well wishes! *hugs*
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@LuluH: Thanks again. I only spotted for less than a day before it turned into a full-blown MC, and I bled more than I thought possible for about 3-4 days before it tapered off and turned into some light spotting again. Glad to hear she’s doing alright.
@legalese: Thank you. I am headed in for a repeat blood draw on Wednesday to check my HCG levels and I have a feeling they’re going to be low if not 0 just based on what I’ve experienced. I’m glad to hear you bounced back so quickly. I hope to do the same since Darling Husband is eager to get this show on the road. Thank you for your kind words and thoughts 🙂
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So sorry, I’ve been there so I know how much it sucks. I don’t chart or use OPK’s so I cannot tell you exactly when I ovulated post MC but I can tell you that my first cycle post MC came basically right on time. Good luck to you!
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@MrsCarnival: I am soooo sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Big hugs, lady.
I O’ed on CD13 the cycle I MC’ed and then on CD20 the cycle after MC. HUGS HUGS HUGS.
Post # 13
i’m so sorry to read about your MC, and the dreadful timing of it too – how EXTRA difficult for you and your hubby 🙁
I haven’t MC’ed, so no advice, I’m sorry. After my CP I actually had a short cycle (and mine are quite irregular, so I would have thought it would have been a long one).
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I am so sorry for your loss. My obgyn put me on bc for one cycle after my miscarriage to get the cycle regulated. So after one bc cycle I had regular 28-29 day cycles o’ing on day 14 Or 15. Im sure it’s not the route you want to go, but it helped my body get it back together again 🙂
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@MrsCarnival: I am so sorry for your loss – I’m sorry I just saw this! 🙁 If you need to talk/cry please PM me. It does get easier with time. I still have my days where I suddenly break into tears, but they’re getting fewer and farther between. I know the situation is awful, but I am SO glad your Darling Husband was with you when it happened. I can’t imagine what it must be like to go through that alone…..so for that I’m thankful. I’m here if you need anything lovey…..sending you prayers and hugs! XOX
As for your O question, I think everyone is different. I started my bleed at 4w4d and bled a LOT for 5 days (think 10 times what I normally pass during AF). I assumed my bleed was short, and my HCG levels were low (because I was so early and my FRER line was light at 16DPO), so my body would recover quickly. It turned out it didn’t. My temps were a bit wonky once I started taking them again, and it turned out that quite a few of them were falsely elevated, tricking me into thinking that I’d ovulated on CD19. It turned out as my cycle went on that I didn’t actually ovulate until CD32, giving me a cycle that ended on CD47 when I got AF on Christmas Day morning. In retrospect I know now that my body needed that cycle to heal, so we could move on to this cycle and try again. I think I was rushing it in the desperation to feel the happy glow of a BFP again, and I think my body took away my choice by fooling me into thinking I’d ovulated….thereby letting the BD schedule slip. My advice would be to chart so that you can keep track of where you are, so you’re not wondering and obsessing. But maybe don’t TRY this cycle. Deciding to try right away on the cycle that started with a MC was a no-brainer for me, but in retrospect was bad. I got pretty angry when I realized my body tricked me and I had no chance last cycle and it led me to spending some time actually thinking about the MC, where before I’d tried my hardest NOT to think about it, as self-preservation. I realized after a few days that I needed to heal properly before trying again, instead of trying to heal by getting pregnant again right away. So…..I’m back now after a 2+ week WB and TTC break, and feeling much much better. I feel like I did our first month trying – optimistic, hopeful, and happy. Instead of how I was feeling a month ago – depressed, angry, frustrated, bitter.
Again…..I’m so sorry for your loss, but grateful your body held on until Darling Husband was with you. If you need anything at all….I’m here! XOXOX
My chart if you want to look at my MC cycle….it’s the one starting November 9th:
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@MrsCarnival: I just wanted to pop in and say that I’m so so so sorry to hear this news. 🙁 I can’t imagine what you and your Darling Husband are going through and hope that you two were able to lean on each other during this extremely difficult time.
*hugs*. All of us over at the Charters thread are sad to see you come back, but we will always be here for you. XOXO
@MrsPuddingface: Just wanted to say hi hun. 🙂 xo