(Closed) When did you plan your ceremony? I still haven’t done it.

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2560 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We have a musician booked (my sister’s best friend is a wonderfully classically trained violinist) and an officiant that I think we would like to use, but we are nowhere near deciding on the ceremony (although the officiant gave us a great idea during our initial meeting) but I am stumped on the violin music …

It is such an important of the wedding, but I think it is also the hardest part to plan. It is such a reflection of your relationship that there is a lot of pressure!

Post # 4
11808 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I didn’t start working on the ceremony until about 5 weeks out, but I planned the music a bit earlier.  It’s not as difficult as it seems!  Good luck!

Post # 5
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I sat down last week and planned it all out. It’s not that hard once you sit down and start writing all your ideas down to get them to work together. 

Post # 6
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

About…..a month in advance, we sat down and laid it out.

Post # 7
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh I need to put together the ceremony text but I haven’t done it yet… no motivation. Also haven’t figured out music or anything either. I canceled our ceremony music because I thought paying $200 for 30 mins of music was ridiculous. But I don’t want it to be totally silent when I am walking so I might just say screw it and pay…..

Post # 8
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

We’re planning our ceremony (as in the readings and what music we want played and what traditions we want to do) now…and our wedding isn’t for 3 years! =D That said, the ceremony is our favourite part of the whole shebang, so we want it to be PERFECT. I’ve heard from many people who saved the ceremony ’till last, and it turned out beautifully, so as long as you start soon, I think it will be fine.

Post # 9
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We have kinda looked at some readings we like.  Our ceremony will be Episcopal, so they have a lot of rules.  There isn’t a ton that we CAN customize.  At first, I didn’t like that, but now I’m thinking it’s easier! 

My cousin is a professional church singer guy, so he’ll be singing.  And my Future Mother-In-Law is the minister, so she’s coordinated with the organist.  That’s about as far as we’ve gotten.

So….you definitely have time, but maybe start thinking about things!

Post # 10
1044 posts
Bumble bee

We didn’t get a DJ until a few weeks before the wedding.  We found him on Craigslist.  I picked all the songs I wanted played which turned out great.  Everyone loved the variety and said they all had fun.

Post # 11
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@MsHymanRoth *lol* I’m not stalking your posts, I promise! I’m also Oct. 24th and actually  just emailed our officiant today for a copy of our ceremony to play around with….

If you’re meeting with your officiant on a specific date before your wedding you probably want to start a good few weeks before that – depending on how much you get to customize in the ceremony itself and how many “Extras” your’re adding in (ie. readings, solos, etc).

Post # 12
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think the reason you are freaking out isn’t because you don’t have enough time – but because you are unsure of when it is going to happen.  Contact your officiant / musicians / church / etc to see when you need to make these choices, and if there are any restrictions or deadlines.

Post # 13
3331 posts
Sugar bee

We started working on our ceremony a couple of months in advance, but we put it together ourself with our friend/officiant.  We really wanted to make the ceremony a little different, so we wanted to make sure we had time to tweak things.  We met with our officiant, talked through a lot about us and what we wanted.  We met with her another couple of times just to recap and prepare details.

I think the last ceremony details we decided on were the readings and the music.  I think, if you’re thinking about it, you might want to contact your officiant and the musicians to talk things through a little.  They might have an idea of a timeline that will work for the ceremony you want.

Post # 14
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

My wedding is a week before yours and my goal is to have the ceremony nailed down by the end of this month so that we can print our programs.  Ours is a Catholic ceremony (without mass) so our framework is sort of laid out for us already.  So basically, I just need to pick the readings and songs.   

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