We had just barely started dating, and my Dad’s best friend committed suicide, it was terrible Brian (my dad’s friend) was totally a member of the family, he was around at least once a week, hanging out and watching movies with us, he was like a big brother when me and my sisters were teens and in our early 20’s. He spoke to my Dad pretty much every day.
We hadn’t heard from Brian all thanksgiving weekend, but he was a huge Nascar fan and occasionally went away to be pit crew for a racer, so we assumed he had gone to a race and forgot to tell us. Tuesday came, and he didn’t show up to work, his boss knows my Dad well and called my Dad to make sure everything was alright.
Brian was a totally responsible guy, so we knew something was wrong and everyone split up to find him, I checked a couple mechanics he hung out with, and my mom and dad went to check his house and garage.
My dad found his partially decomposed body in the garage, surrounded by empty pill and alcohol bottles, he was in his van and had run the van until it chocked itself out.
My mom called me while my dad called the police, my dad was pretty traumatized (he talks about it now and I will spare you the gory details of what he saw), and barely spoke for a week.
I was crushed by the loss of Brian and terrified for my dad (I am an NICU nurse now, but worked in psychiatry for a while and know what that can do to a person’s mind). We had barely been dating, but FH dropped everything to be by my side for pretty much the rest of the week, while we helped arrange a memorial service, and even when his family asked us to go through his belongings.
Any guy who after only a few weeks of knowing you, can stand by you through that kind of situation is definitely a keeper.