Post # 1
So I have never fallen for a guy as quickly as I’ve fallen for my current bf. I’ve always dated guys that felt “safe” or seemed like “logical choices”. But for the first time, I’m in a relationship that feels effortless. We have the same interests, values and life goals and when I’m with him it just feels like home.
Here’s the kicker. We’ve been dating for a month……
I’m a extremely logicaly person and so has he, but I feel like we’ve both sort of thrown logic out the window and dove right in (and happily so). Usually I’m not like this but this time it just feels really natural.
Last night, after an amazing night out with friends we were just laying in bed talking and he said “there’s something I really want to tell you but I know we’ve both had a couple drinks tonight and when I say it I want you to know I mean it and it’s not the wine talking”
We kept talking and got into some pretty deep topics and I could feel myself getting ready to tell him I loved him but stopped myself…
My question is, when did you first tell your SO that you loved them?
Post # 2
We both told eachother we loved one another after two weeks of knowing eachother. Sounds crazy but we’ve been together over 4 years now and married for 6 months and and have been inseparable since the beginning. When you know, you know.
Post # 3
I said it at 6 months. My husband (then boyfriend) said it at at 10-11 months. I don’t see the harm in saying it whenever you like.
Post # 4
About a year and a half in. He let me say it first, but I’m fairly sure he’d been thinking it awhile. I don’t believe people who say they fall in love that fast – obviously it works at times and ultimately it’s none of my business unless I’m dating them, but I’d be very uncomfortable with someone who said it “too soon.” They barely know each other (no offense to the bees who will get up in arms about my person opionion). In high school I signed a card that way because you’re “supposed to” and it was a huge mistake in an immature relationship. As an adult, when my boyfriend said it, I realized that all the little and bigger things that were bugging me were enough to break it off when tied together with an I Love You. I also don’t believe he did, I’m not sure he has a clue what real love is, even now, 14 years later.
Anyway with my husband, I made it clear that it wouldn’t be a smart thing to say too soon, so he didn’t, but he was happy to reciprocate when I got the stones to say so myself. To each their own, though!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana
I said it at 3 1/2 months he said it about a month later.
Post # 7
Well, call us crazy, but my boyfriend and I told each other we loved each other like…only a few weeks after we started dating. 🙈 So it was all in less than a month. 😛 Hey, you know when you know! And two years later, we’re still going stronger than ever! So my advice to anyone is to say it when you feel like you’re ready, content, and at a place in the relationship where you feel safe to say it to one another.
Post # 8
3 weeks in. However I fell for my best friend so chances are I fell in love with him before he was my boyfriend.
Post # 9
After a couple weeks. 🙈 We were teenagers though!
Post # 10
On our first date. We had been talking on the phone for hours every night and I was smitten. I planned to tell him when we met for the first time and I was excited and nervous. But then the night before we met he said it first by accident. I stayed quiet. We ended up going for a walk on the beach and having our first kiss. I said it right after.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2021 - City, State
We said “I love you” almost immediately when he first asked me out. He was the one who first said it in the private message confessing his love to me. I decided to take the chance and date him and boy, that was a great decision.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!
Like 1.5 months in. Which, in retrospect, was probably early. Did I feel intimate and comfortable with him? Sure. Was I hit with a dose of hormones from the honeymoon phase? Did we mean it? Yes. But I don’t know if we truly loved one another. We definitely do now though, and it’s difficult to say which point our relationship matured into love.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2021 - Iowa
We said it to each other after 7 months
Post # 15
My husband said it about five months in, and I said it back that same evening, because I felt it too 🙂 I think if you’re really feeling it, you should go for it! <3