(Closed) When did you send out thank you cards?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Oh bee, you’re fine.  Within three months is considered good etiquette and the general rule of thumb people go by, but I believe *technically*, traditionally, you get up to a year!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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monsterly :  Probably a month after the wedding? We went on a 2 week honeymoon the day fter our receptionnd handwrote all cards so it took awhile 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I literally wrote all of mine three days after the wedding and sent them out. I had time on my hands and didn’t want to wait. My hubby’s cousin waited a couple of months until she got pictures in and they attached them to the cards. 

I think you’re fine. Congratulations! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I sent mine out three months after the wedding, so that I could use pictures from the wedding with the Thank you cards.

I’ve had thank you cards arrive six months after a wedding, which was a nice surprise.

I’ve also not received any thank you cards for attending some weddings, and we’re talking three years later now…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

We were married on October 1 and left immediately for our honeymoon. We returned yesterday, wrote all the thank yous, and they were in the mail today.

I appreciate receiving a thank you within the month, but I know many people don’t do that. While it’s not worth wasting time worrying about, it does bother me when I get no thank you note at all, or a generic, pre-printed one.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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monsterly :  My favorite was when I got a pre-printed card that said “Thanks for the money for our honeymoon!” with a photo from their wedding. I had not contributed to their honeymoon, but rather given them a boxed gift as the three (yes, THREE) requests for cash on their invitation irked me. 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The rule of thumb most certainly is not up to a year. Unfortunately, people keep passing on this misinformation.

The guideline for any thank you note is asap and most certainly before you use the gift.

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monsterly :  Obviously you have good intentions. Write the notes now and mail them as soon as you receive the envelopes.

We wrote ours on the plane trip to and from our honeymoon and mailed them when we returned.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Its been two weeks for us. Im printing my thank yous tomorrow (with a sneak peek photo too) and trying to get most of them done over the next week. We left for our honeymoon for two weeks right after the wedding so I think most people aren’t excepting them right away.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

we got married on the 24th.  we left for our honeymoon right after and didn’t get back until this past Satruday.  We relaxed Sunday and I planned to start them Monday after work, but ended up getting stuck at work for 12 hours.   I think I’ll try to start them durning the week this week, and then really work hard on them this weekend.  I’ll try really hard to get them out in the next week or two.  

I’m like you- I always send them out right when I get a gift, so not sending them out for a month feels horrible.  But, everyone knew we were going on a 2 week honeymoon right away, so they shouldn’t be too upset with us.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We married 8th September and immediately went on honeymoon. All thank you notes were written over the last 2 weeks and were all posted on Saturday. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

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nikkiibee :  That is incorrect about having a year to write thank you notes.  Guests have a year to give you a gift after a wedding, but thank you notes should be sent out fairly quickly afterwards.  

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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monsterly :  2 days and we had them all done. Send yours out now!!!

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