(Closed) When did you send out THANK YOU cards?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How long after the wedding did you send Thank You cards?

    Under 1 month

    1 month

    2 months

    3 months

    4-6 months

    after 6 months

  • Post # 32
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @sommertime:  I think within 6 months is standard. I think I had mine out around the 4 or 5 mark past

    Post # 33
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

    If we received the gift before the wedding, the thank you card was sent before the wedding. The thank you cards for gifts we received at or after the wedding were sent out about 6 weeks after the big day. We left the day after our wedding for a 3 week honeymoon, so really it only took 3 weeks to get the actual cards written and sent out.

    Post # 35
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am getting married in September.  We don’t leave for our Honeymoon until 3 weeks after that.  I will have thank you cards out by then.  I like the rest of the bees, don’t want that hanging over my head. 


    Post # 36
    2965 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @sommertime: i got a similar comment from one of my bridesmaids about my thank you’s being late. she’s very clueless about weddings/etiquette, so i didn’t think much of it. anyway, i sent mine out about 2.5 months after my wedding. i would have liked to have them out sooner, but i was waiting on my wedding pictures, which kept getting delayed. i don’t think you’re in rude/late territory just yet, but i would try to get them done asap 🙂

    Post # 38
    1163 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @sommertime:  love your thank you card–super cute!


    the sooner the better but definitely before your 1st anniversary.

    *Sidenote: I am still waiting on a thank you card from a wedding 3 years ago……Undecided LOL!

    Post # 39
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1998

    I sent out all of my thank you cards less than 24 hours after the wedding, with most people receiving them within 3 – 4 days of the wedding.


    According to Emily Post – that’s the etiquette authority and all – you have up to 3 months after your wedding. The “one year” rule is nonsense and is usually applied to guests giving the bride and groom gifts (which I also think is ridiculous). 3 months is a good figure – everyone has time over a three month period to write one card per day (and if you have more than 90 thank you cards to write, you must have had a very large wedding).

    Longer than 3 months and it sends the message that you have better things to do with your time than acknowledge a gift. We went to a wedding nearly 4 months ago and we’re still waiting on a thank you card. I know the bride doesn’t work, doesn’t go to school, and has no other obligations…so it’s definitely a brow raiser.

    Just because everyone else sends them out months, even a year or more after the wedding, doesn’t mean it’s appropriate or polite to do the same. It is offensive and it does come off as a gift grab. “Thanks, now that I’m done with you, good-bye.”

    Post # 40
    1812 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I think it was about a month out by the time I started them, because I wanted to include a wallet sized professional photo and had to wait for the photographer to send the files. Then it took me about 2 weeks to write them all. I couldn’t stand just writing a quick “Thank you for the salad spinner it will make a great addition to our kitchen. Love, us” – I had to write big long paragraphs to satisfy the nagging in the back of my head!

    Husband didn’t help write a single one. Hrmph. Still bitter about that. It’s emotionally exhausting trying to write so many heartfelt messages in a row.

    Post # 42
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had an out of state semi-destination wedding followed by a 14-night honeymoon in the DR.  So we were away from our home state for approximately 1 month.  We came home last Friday and I sent all the thank you’s out this morning less our very close relatives who we need to spend a little bit of extra time putting into words how much they helped us in various ways.

    We also are giving wedding frames, electronic frames with pics from the wedding.  We have them for the bridal party and VIP and close family.  But our photographer is taking too long so decided to move forward on thank yous even without the pics…we’ll just have to send another package when they come in.

    Post # 43
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I harassed my photographer for one photo for thank you cards (he took months to get it to us). It will be about 5 months by the time we get them out. Argh! I was hoping to not have 3 months pass, but hey.

    Post # 44
    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

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    @MrsPaulsBabyBallerina:  You sound like me!  I wrote the thank you cards for my bridal shower the same day as the shower (after everyone left) and sent them out the next morning.  I just like knowing things are done.  

    Currently, I’m sending out thank you cards for wedding gifts as I receive them and plan to do the rest during our flight after the wedding.

    Post # 45
    1344 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    We’re getting married in October and I ordered the thank you notes last night so that they’re on standby to be sent out immediately following the wedding. I’m taking two days off of work the week after the wedding, so I’ll probably be doing the bulk of them then and sending them no later than the last week of October.

    Post # 46
    1227 posts
    Bumble bee

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    @thejucheidea:  I am doing something similar. Wedding is a saturday, we fly out to my mother’s on Thursday, and my goal is to have all the thank yous in the mail before we leave. I’ll have a whole whack of cards to write for the event in Alberta when we get home, so don’t want to have to do all of them at once, while returning to work as well.

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