(Closed) When did you send your invites?

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Post # 2
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Busy bee

Maybe she’s talking about save the dates?  I believe the etiquette gods say to send those out 6-9 months before and then invitations go out 8-10 weeks before.  I didn’t follow those rules personally – we skipped save the dates to save money and because we are having a smaller wedding than most in our social circle (100 guests), we figured most people already knew the date via word of mouth.  We sent invitations approximately 3.5 months before since 90% of our guests will have to travel and we wanted to give them time to make reservations/arrangements.  Both sets of parents wanted us to send the invitations early and we didn’t think anyone on our guest list would be offended by receving the invitation earlier than etiquette dictates.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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NBee:  That’s VERY early and you can bet that a lot of your guests will even forget to RSVP. I could see if it was for a Destination Wedding… is it?

Otherwise, 2 months is usually OK. I sent mine a little over 2 months before as we did not send out Save-The-Date Cards. I know they were in the mail by August 9, 2014, and our wedding was October 17, 2014. Our RSVP date was a month before our wedding (September 19). We wanted the extra time to be able to track down RSVPs that never came in, and not feel rushed when we needed numbers.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

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NBee:  I sent my save the date 6 months before the wedding, and my invites 3 months before the wedding, I gave everyone a month to RSVP. Most of my guest are in twon though, I think if you have a lot of out of town guests you could send 3 months earlier to make sure they have enough time to book flights and things like that.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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NBee:  I sent mine 2 months in advance. If you send it out too early, then people will lose it (or forget).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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NBee:  That’s crazy talk! She must be talking about Save the Dates…

We were going to send Save the Dates for our November 14th wedding in April, but we ultimately decided that because all of our guests are local and wouldn’t need to plan for accommodations, time-off, etc that Save the Dates weren’t needed. We are sending our Invitations out this weekend – three months (and some change) before our wedding. Our RSVP date is set for a month before our wedding date and we have to have a final count into our venue two weeks before our wedding. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

2 months in advance…Sent out July 4th weekend for Sept 4th wedding with a RSVP date of Aug 17th because my final head count is due Aug 24th.  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My wedding is Sept 19th. I just sent out invites on Sat July 25th. RSVP date is Aug 22.

I sent mine out exactly 8 weeks before giving them 4 weeks to get their rsvp in. That is crazy early to be sending them out..

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Private lodge

I didn’t send STD.   Our wedding is 10/10 and I had everything addressed a few weeks ago.  I mailed them out Tuesday. So 10 weeks before the wedding.  RSVPs are due back to me 2 weeks before the wedding so they ahve about 8 weeks to reply. 

I wanted to wait longer but I just couldn’t stand to wait anymore.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I actually just finished making our save the dates, I will probably send them out in September. I am sending them out very early because 90% of our guest are traveling and most of my Fiance family is in mexico and will need plenty of time to get their passports/visas in order. Also my MI keeps asking when the wedding is because so and so said they thought i changed it to this, or so and so saw on fb that the date is different, to the extreme of 2017 instead of 2016. Strange because we have never changed the date. I wont be sending the invites out until the normal 8 weeks before the wedding. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 11 months ago by  JTbridetobee.
Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

That’s when i’m sending out my invites for my June wedding… – having them RSVP by the end of February. I sent out save the dates this past January. But not sure where you are located but in our smaller town in BC that is the norm. Plus we are having our wedding out of town so need to make sure there is ample time for people to book their accomodations etc. And i’m a bit of a control freak so i’d like to know the final guest count as far in advance as possible. I could never leave it until a month before the wedding.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Our wedding isn’t a destination wedding for us – but most of our guests will be coming from 3+ hours away, with many of them flying in from even farther.  Since we knew so many would travel, we played it safe and mailed our stuff out on the early side.

For our 8/29 wedding, we had Save the Dates out in early Februarly.  Our invitations went out Memorial weekend.  (So close to 8 months on the Save-The-Date Cards, and about 14 weeks on the invites)

And our RSVP deadline is today, 7/31.  That gave people about 8 weeks to RSVP – and amazingly, we will have to chase down very few!  (maybe because the bride got antsy and started hounding the flakier guests a few weeks ago)

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Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Country Club

I sent mine out late lol. I just sent mine Tuesday (7/28) for my wedding 9/19 with a RSVP date of 8/29. But I also know the majority of my entire side will be coming. I also will be on the phone ASAP after the RSVP date to confirm anyone I’m missing. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Our wedding is 9/12/15 and I just sent out our invitations 7/20. I asked for them to rsvp by 9/1. 95% of our guest list is family so we know who will be there and who probably won’t so the rsvp wasn’t really a huge deal for us.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - The Vineyard and Winery at Lost Creek, VA

October 3 Bride here – we sent ours out about 2 weeks ago, with a Septemer 3 RSVP deadline

we didn’t do save the dates – since we told most of our guests to keep that day free and most of our guest are local.

I think 6 months for the invitations is really far out

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