Post # 1
I’m trying to figure out when we should do this.
Obviously, if you do it before, the groom sees the bride unless you set it up that you’re on either side of a door or something. Or if we do it after, I guess we could do it after we exit but before we come back out for our lavender toss. I’ve been seriously considering adding it as part of our ceremony itself since I am not religious and consider the legal part of marriage (i.e. the “Do you take…”, “”I do”, and signatures) to be the part where you’re really “husband and wife,” but it might be tricky to do at an outdoor ceremony, and I worry it will seem tacky.
What do you think, Bees? When are you signing your paperwork?
Post # 3
We did it directly after the ceremony and family pics. Our officiant notorized and mailed it for us. Received the official document about a week and half later.
Post # 4
We forgot about it until the next day, not a big deal since our officiant was my godfather and he lives around the corner
Post # 5
In most Canadian weddings, you sign during the ceremony. There’s usually music or something while you sign. I think it’s strange when the couple doesn’t sign during the ceremony 🙂
In fact, we’re having a destination wedding (outside Canada) and I’ve had to specifically request from our venue that they set up a table for us so we could sign during the ceremony.
Post # 6
You should check with your officiant on this one. I think (in church weddings, at least, which I realize you’re not having) it’s usually done immediately after the ceremony. Some officiants won’t actually sign it before they have conducted the ceremony and heard you speak your vows – I think legally they aren’t supposed to sign off on the license until after that step is complete.
Post # 7
@KCKnd2: Agreed — legally speaking, if you read the license, the officiant and witnesses are signing that they basically witnessed the CEREMONY — so it would make no sense to sign it beforehand. The recessional basically just let Darling Husband and I, the officiant and the witnesses into another room where we all quickly signed it and then went on with the party.
Post # 8
We signed the marriage license at the city hall clerk’s office. The document includes our current names, my new name, and the date of the wedding, which was a few weeks later. The document is dated for our wedding day, and I signed it with my new married name (which I also changed legally, after the wedding).
We gave this document to the officiant, who signed it after the ceremony and brought it in. We received our official Marriage License a few weeks later. We were officially married at the ceremony, but the state doesn’t legally recognize it until the paperwork is processed.
I’ve never seen a legal document signed during a wedding ceremony, with the exception of a ketubah.
Post # 9
I’m so upset because we have to do ours within 60 days in NY…and we wanted to do April 20th (our going out anniversary) but it lands on a Saturday and its I think a day too long 🙁
I just realized you meant signing…not OBTAINING!
Post # 10
We actually didn’t sign it until during our reception. Granted our officiant was also a close personal friend and a guest of the wedding, so he was still around later to do this. But we have some fun pictures of all of us leaning over the sweetheart table to sign and then holding it up.
Post # 11
In my state, we didn’t sign ours the day of, it was all done at the courthouse beforehand. We rounded up the officiant and witnesses after the major events of the reception were over and they signed.
Post # 12
We did ours during the ceremony. We had DH’s sister do a reading while we were signing. Worked out great!
By the way, I’m not sure if it’s a regional thing, but the signing has happened during the ceremony at every single wedding I’ve ever attended (both in churches and outside of them).
Post # 13
we had to sign when we went to get the certificate at the clerks office. We had to read an oath out loud together (that was kind of funny) with our hands on the bible (could opt out of the bible part) and then we signed it like a month before our wedding.
our officiant and witnesses signed sometime after the ceremony then the officiant took the certificate and mailed it in 🙂
Post # 14
I just photographed a wedding where they included it in the ceremony. This was an outdoor ceremony and only lasted 10 minutes. I didn’t think twice about it and it seemed a very natural part of the wedding. I didn’t consider it tacky at all. Go for it! Just include it and spend more time doing other things you want to do.
Post # 15
We only had to sign the application, not the license.
Post # 16
In MO, the bride and groom don’t sign the license – applying for it is considered your signature, I guess. Just the two witnesses (BM and MOH) and the officiant sign it.