Post # 16
rebwana: graygodess20: Hey Ladies, Thank you for your posts… I have not gone shopping for maternity pants as of yet but my mom was so kind as to buy be a belly band which i have been wearing almost every day however i can imagine it is not nearly as comfy as actual maternity pants.
sara79: I agree that my hubby may not 100% get it until he sees it or possibly until he even holds our baby but as another bee posted… my emotions cannot keep logical with that, i feel neglected so i cry and tell him he doesnt care. I know he cares and i feel aweful for telling him he doesnt care but in that moment its how i feel. How can i get past that when my hormones are raging?
Thank you everyone who responded! I know everyone is very very different and that every pregnancy varies greatly but its so nice to see that I am not alone and that how I am feeling is normal. ps… hormones are just a raging as i’m telling you all thank you because i dont really have many people who have been pregnant before to go to, i feel as if you guys are my rock. <3 Thank you
Post # 17
I felt great at 25 wks, I remember barfing a few times at 22-23 wks. It then went downhill around 34 wks when the exhaustion came back.
Post # 18
I felt pretty good from about 17-27 weeks. I actually felt pretty good after that as well (better than the beginning, anyway) but I couldn’t do as much as I could from 17-27 weeks. About 8-16 weeks were rough for me.
Post # 19
I didn’t even realize I was pregnant until week 5 after my period was a month late (that’s what graduating college will do to you). I basically stopped running at 13 weeks (and I’m a runner, so that was hard), and was exhausted all of the time. However I remember feeling normal around 18 weeks? I didn’t have morning sickness, but I constantly felt fat and bloated (yes I know I was pregnant), and I didn’t look pregnant, I just literally looked like I ate too much. It wasn’t until I was 26 weeks where I actually looked pregnant. I actually had an easy pregnancy compared to some woman. I felt fine all through my second trimester and well into the third. It was when I hit 35 weeks where I started noticing I was going down hill. Because by then I was as big as a whale (despite looking small in the beginning, Im short, and my baby was big).
My husband was such a trooper though, even though I whined and complained, and cried all the time saying I was fat and ugly and he would never love me again, etc. I really took him for granted. I think men naturally just don’t understand the process and just everything about being pregnant, so it’s hard for them to comfort us. My husband would always tell me he loved me, and he couldn’t wait to be a father, but that was it. It wasn’t like he was like “Oh, if I could I’d carry this baby for you.” He basically reassured me he loved me and he would love me after I gave birth too.
Post # 20
Pappy8: He will understand – don’t feel bad for the way you feel in those moments because we all go through it. My friend almost ordered a twin bed one morning because she was hysterical telling her husband that he slept too far away from her in their queen bed and she felt like he didn’t want to be near her so she was going to order a small bed that would force him to be close to her. hahaha. We all have moments 🙂
Post # 21
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
Pappy8: I too had terrible fatique and nausea for 12 weeks straight. At week 13 it started to ease off and by week 15 I felt more like myself again. Still get tired and out of breath easier though.
My Darling Husband has been amazing actually. However, I don’t think it really was real to him until we were past the 12 week mark as he was incredibly worried that something would go wrong so he didn’t let himself get too excited until then. He was still very supportive when I was feeling absolutely rubbish though.
We are now at 20 weeks and he is getting more and more excited and interested. He was even trying out out newly purchased Baby Bjorn sling yesterday with the biggest smile and gleaming with pride. It was so cute. 🙂
If your OH is not completely super excited yet then it can be due to many factors. He might be really worried about you, about finances, about everything being ok with the baby, or he might just still be getting his head around the fact that he is going to be a dad. It’s a huge deal for hem too and it’s hard to be on the sidelines watching the person you love unhappy. The key thing is to calmly talk about these things and share the things you are both worried about / feeling so that you can support each other through it.
Best of luck with everything and I hope you feel better soon.
Post # 22
I’m 26w 4d and I’ve been off my nausea medication for almost one week now. So for the first time in months I’m not feeling incredibly sick or super drowsy due to the meds (I wake up 1-2 hours earlier now than when on meds). Apart from sitting down on the floor and getting up without sounding like a tennis player I’m feeling quite comfy these days. Hope it will last for at least another month or so!
sara79: Oh wow, worst idea ever. We did sleep on a twin bed up until 5 months into my pregnancy (we’re renovating our new house and didn’t want to bring in a full size bed) and it was horrible. Eventually I had a breakdown and just DEMANDED that we would take our queen-size bed out of storage. That first night that I got into it I cried because I was so happy for the space!
Post # 23
Pappy8: Literally the day I turned 12 weeks I felt a lot better. Then all the crappiness came back during the last trimester but at that point you’re so close to the finish line it’s easy to brush off.
Post # 24
I started to feel back to normal around 17/18 weeks. I finally stopped randomly throwing up around 14 weeks and got most of my energy back around 17/18. I’m at about 23 now and feeling well still.
Post # 25
Well, I’m not sure I’ve felt completely like myself for the last nine months which I guess is to be expected… but I got my energy back in the 2nd trimester. I was able to go to the gym again regularly and wasn’t uncomfotable, so it was good for the morale.
I’d say my husband started to get it in the third trimester. The first trimester the symptoms weren’t quite as visable and the second trimester I was doing alright, so I think he had a harder time getting through his head what I was going through. But once the bump got bigger and I had to rely on him more physically to do things, he really stepped up. My husband went to as many of my doctors appointments and birthing classes as he could (latter being in the 3rd trimester), so he became a lot more educated on what I will be going through with labor, challenges of breastfeeding, etc. He went from having the idea that on D-day we’d just show up to the hospital and the staff would take care of everything to being very involved in how to be my support system.
Actually now he kind of treats me like I’m made out of glass which gets irritating in its own way, ha….
Post # 26
Pappy8: I remember seeing your post about getting pregnant, I think we both did around the same time 🙂 Anyways, I tell my hubby he doesn’t care about me and the baby all the time. I know it’s not true, but hormones are a biotch. I truly feel that he doesn’t understand or empathize with how miserable I feel on some days. Good to know he’s not the only part time jerk around here lol.
P.S. He seems to think the answer to all my problems is to “get up, walk around!” I just want to punch him in his man parts sometimes.
Post # 27
- Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY
Pappy8: 14 weeksish I would say. But feeling crappy and tired was replaced with really horrible sciatica for my entire second trimester. Luckily, by the third trimester, with the help of my chiropractor, I got that taken care of, but then it was just replaced by feeling similar to how I felt the first trimester! Still, I consider my pregnancy pretty uneventful and easy, lol. My SIL on the other hand has had it easy breezy since the beginning of her second trimester, so it’s hard to say how you’ll feel.
Oh and my husband? He has been a lifesaver. He has taken over every household chore, cooks a few nights a week, and is always making sure I am comfortable and have everything I needed. He has become especially helpful in the third trimester, but joked about me “milking” the pregnancy during the second, lol.
Post # 28
sara79: HAH, Omg, thats funny. its not that bad but sometimes when i have my pinched nerves id like for him for rub my back… hes more than helpful… i’m just super whiney lol
PakiBee03: Glad i’m not alone. Congrats btw. How are things going?
Post # 29
eocenia: ugh that sounds awful!! We’ve slept in a twin bed a couple times because that is the only guest bed his parents have and I was absolutely miserable!
Post # 30
sara79: It was. Living in a construction zone is hard, but I feel like I can handle everything as long as I have a proper bed. In fact, I think at this point I would plain out refuse if I had to go somewhere where I could only sleep on a twin bed. Or Darling Husband would have to bring an air mattress. I’m already sharing my body with another human; I’m not going to stretch further than that!