(Closed) When did you start giving gifts as a couple?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@smiles4jo:  Fiance and I gave joint gifts to his parents this year for christmas and for my mom’s birthday. But he didn’t want to have his name on the gift to my parents because it was a framed picture of me and my siblings. He didn’t want to be in it because we aren’t married yet. (I think actually because he hates getting his picture taken.) I plan on writing both our names from now on for family things. We also split the cost though. I’m not sure it makes a huge difference for cards just because they don’t cost that much. We ended up getting his parents nicer gifts than when just he gets them something because we had a larger budget with my money added in.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Fiance and I started giveing gifts from both of us I think June before we got engaged. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We started when we moved in together, which was about 18 months before we got engaged.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We started when we moved in together.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Interesting question — if its an event we’re invited to together, it comes from both of us (e.g. my niece’s birthday party a few months back) otherwise, separate gifts and cards to family. Don’t think I’d start giving gifts or sending cards to his family (or vice versa) until we’re married…

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We also started when we moved in together.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Fiance and I started to sign our cards and gift together as soon as we started commingling our funds which was about a year after we started dating.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I started before he did… about the time we moved intogether maybe before cus we were in a committed relationship for over a year… he thought it was wierd. Now he thinks its more okay since we’re engaged but he still automatically asumes its just him unless i remind him to put both are names on it. I think its just cus its coming from one of our accounts since we still have separate. Once we go joint when we’re married he’ll do it automatically i think.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think we did when we were engaged, but I honestly don’t remember!  

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The first time he invited me to go with him to his niece’s birthday party, pretty soon after we started dating.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We started when we got engaged. We started seeing ourselves as a family at that point.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We did since our first occasion to do so–Christmas about 4 months in.  Granted, we were already living together! (what can I say, when you know, you know! And also, we knew each other in college, 22 years earlier, so we had some history behind us)

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Hard to remember! I don’t think we did for our first Christmas together (which was just a bit less than a year together), but the following year for birthdays and holidays, we definitely did it as a couple despite not moving in together for another 2 years.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

When SO and I got invited to weddings we gave gifts jointly almost right from when we started dating. If we were invited to the wedding as a “plus one” the one who’s name was on the invite paid for the gift and the plus one just signed the card. If both of our names were on the invite we split the cost. We didn’t give joint christmas presents till we were living together. After about three years of dating. I don’t think it was a concious choice, we had just combined expenses, and it just seemed more cost efficient for us to make a christmas budget and just split the cost of it.

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