Post # 1
Before getting engaged, Fiance and I still gave some gifts separately and not as a couple to some family. In particular, despite dating for four years, I still signed my cards to my 90 year old grandmother from just me. We aren’t that close to begin with and she lives about two hours away, so she’s really only met Fiance a few times.
Now, I’m getting ready to send my grandmother a card for Easter and I’m wondering how I should sign the card. Just me as usual or from both me and Fiance. It’s the first holiday since we got engaged, so not sure if I should just wait until we are married or make the switch now.
So…when did you start giving everyone gifts/cards as a couple?
Post # 3
@smiles4jo: Fiance and I gave joint gifts to his parents this year for christmas and for my mom’s birthday. But he didn’t want to have his name on the gift to my parents because it was a framed picture of me and my siblings. He didn’t want to be in it because we aren’t married yet. (I think actually because he hates getting his picture taken.) I plan on writing both our names from now on for family things. We also split the cost though. I’m not sure it makes a huge difference for cards just because they don’t cost that much. We ended up getting his parents nicer gifts than when just he gets them something because we had a larger budget with my money added in.
Post # 4
Fiance and I started giveing gifts from both of us I think June before we got engaged.
Post # 5
We started when we moved in together, which was about 18 months before we got engaged.
Post # 6
We started when we moved in together.
Post # 7
Interesting question — if its an event we’re invited to together, it comes from both of us (e.g. my niece’s birthday party a few months back) otherwise, separate gifts and cards to family. Don’t think I’d start giving gifts or sending cards to his family (or vice versa) until we’re married…
Post # 8
We also started when we moved in together.
Post # 9
Fiance and I started to sign our cards and gift together as soon as we started commingling our funds which was about a year after we started dating.
Post # 10
I started before he did… about the time we moved intogether maybe before cus we were in a committed relationship for over a year… he thought it was wierd. Now he thinks its more okay since we’re engaged but he still automatically asumes its just him unless i remind him to put both are names on it. I think its just cus its coming from one of our accounts since we still have separate. Once we go joint when we’re married he’ll do it automatically i think.
Post # 11
I think we did when we were engaged, but I honestly don’t remember!
Post # 12
The first time he invited me to go with him to his niece’s birthday party, pretty soon after we started dating.
Post # 13
We started when we got engaged. We started seeing ourselves as a family at that point.
Post # 14
We did since our first occasion to do so–Christmas about 4 months in. Granted, we were already living together! (what can I say, when you know, you know! And also, we knew each other in college, 22 years earlier, so we had some history behind us)
Post # 15
Hard to remember! I don’t think we did for our first Christmas together (which was just a bit less than a year together), but the following year for birthdays and holidays, we definitely did it as a couple despite not moving in together for another 2 years.
Post # 16
When SO and I got invited to weddings we gave gifts jointly almost right from when we started dating. If we were invited to the wedding as a “plus one” the one who’s name was on the invite paid for the gift and the plus one just signed the card. If both of our names were on the invite we split the cost. We didn’t give joint christmas presents till we were living together. After about three years of dating. I don’t think it was a concious choice, we had just combined expenses, and it just seemed more cost efficient for us to make a christmas budget and just split the cost of it.