(Closed) When did you start having children?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
  • poll: When did you start having babies?
    Right after the wedding, we couldn't wait! : (17 votes)
    32 %
    Before the wedding : (8 votes)
    15 %
    1-2 year after the wedding : (13 votes)
    25 %
    2+ years after the wedding : (15 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    What we’re oging to do is to try to avoid getting pregnant right away by paying attention to my cycles/charting… but not being too too over the top. It’d be nice to have some time to ourselves… but we’re not getting any younger and we’d be happy with a little blessing ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 4
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    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I was really to start TTC the day we got pregnant, but it took my husband a couple months after the wedding before he felt ready. We’re both 34 and we want 2 kids, so I felt like time was a wastin’. We’d been together for 4 years and lived together for 2, so I didn’t feel like we needed more time alone as a couple.

    Post # 5
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    2815 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We had our daughter before. The plan was to start TTC 2-3 months before our wedding. We got ahead of ourselves & got pregnant 7 months earlier instead …lol

    So we re-scheduled the wedding to this June ๐Ÿ™‚ Just one extra member of the wedding party now ๐Ÿ™‚

    ETA: we were also together for 7 years before I got pregnant, so we had lots of time with just the two of us prior to getting pregnant!

    Post # 6
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    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We want to be married a few years (probably 3-5) first, but I can imagine it happening sooner and both of us being ok/happy about it.

    Post # 7
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    14497 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We will be waiting a little more than a year.  The biggest reason we were waiting was to get some more big vacations in.  If it were for the travels, we may have only waited a few months to have  just a bit more us time.

    Post # 8
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We started trying on our honeymoon. We’d lived together for 4 years and didn’t feel we needed anymore “us alone” time. We wanted a baby, and actually had a very short engagement because of it (we wanted to be married before trying). It was the best decision for us, but it’s different for everyone, of course. 

    Post # 9
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    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We’ve been married two years and still aren’t ready. Maybe soon, but as of right now we are still soaking up some “us” time. Fwilike we’re living togetherbefore 2 years before we got married and it still doesn’t feel like enough time, but that’s just us ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
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    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Oops! My post shoul have read, “the day we got married” – not the day we got pregnant, lol!

    Post # 11
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    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @78h2o:  Haha I noticed that and thought it was funny!

    We will have been married almost two years when we start trying. We’ve been together for 9 years, lived together a little over a year before the wedding, but I definitely did want some time to be married and just the two of us before starting. If we were much older, though, I would have tried to move the timeline up. Personally, I was ready at the beginning of this year (a little over a year after the wedding) but H wanted one last summer of just us, plus wanted to get one more big bonus from work before adding the costs of a baby to our lives! 

    So, we’ll be starting about 20 months after the wedding. 

    Post # 12
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    950 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Darling Husband & I had been together for 12 years before the wedding (living together for 10), so we’d had over a decade of “alone time”.  DS wasn’t “exactly” planned…he was a wedding night baby, literally.  We weren’t trying, we were not NOT trying & it worked out pretty near perfectly.  He’s 16 m/o & we’re doing GREAT as a family.  I think what’s made it so smooth is that Darling Husband & I had such a good long time together to understand our own quirks, to get used to living in each other’s space, to learn & become comfortable with each other’s strengths & weaknesses.  So now that DS is part of the family, Darling Husband & I work as a pretty seamless team.  While we didn’t “wait” after marriage, if someone asked my advice/opinion, I’d say couples should live a couple of years together before trying…it makes for a great team of parents.

    Post # 13
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    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We planned to wait at least a year, but no more than 3, before having kids.  But we got pregnant a month and a half after the wedding – surprise!  While we’re extremely excited, I wish we had more time to just enjoy each other and take a summer vacation alone together this year.  Once you start having kids, you inherit a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week, for the rest of your life job.  Why rush? 

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