(Closed) When did you start letting go?

posted 9 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Busy bee

In the last month or so I’ve started saying "Oh I just don’t CARE" when I see that having exactly what I want is going to require an outrageous amount of effort.

 

I think it’s natural that when you’re overwhelmed, the little details become much less important.

 

As far as flower girl dresses, I found the perfect dresses on clearance at Macy’s.  Definitely check dept stores.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Honestly? Listen to that voice that says "good enough" but obey it on a case-by-case basis.  Obviously you don’t want to let go of everything you had in mind, but it’s natural, and in opinion a lesson in perspective.  The wedding world teaches you to idolaize all things wedding, and to search until what you find is perfect for you on every detail.  The reality in my world is that sometimes function is part of what makes something perfect for you. 

PS I’m one week away and I’m doing my progarms, table cards and other signs right now. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh sorry–to answer your subject line, I would say I started letting go around the 45/30 day mark. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I’ve been kind of driving myself crazy, and we’re still 10 days out.  Honestly, I’m giving myself through this weekend to really CARE about everything and then, eh, I’ll let it go. 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have definatly hit that point where I know it needs to get done. It may not be perfect or what I had originally planned but it’s crunch time and decisions need to be made. I wouldn’t feel bad about saying "good enough". There does come a time when you just let go, if it hasn’t happened by now its not going to.

Although the flower girl dress may be something that should still happen. We found ours at TJ Maxx, you never know what your going to find.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I love that everyone who has responded so far is a May bride…doesn’t that tell you something about the timeline on "letting go"? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Haha.  I still have 5 months left and I am letting things go.  I just posted how I REALLY wanted my BMs to wear different dresses to reflect their style and body type, but I/they couldn’t find ANY grey dresses.  Finally, my sister found one, so they’re all going to wear the same one.  And I am letting it go.

Also, from the beginning I said I wanted letterpress invitations.  Now that we are knee-deep in writing checks and "saving for the wedding" I am thinking that I could DIY something quick and call it a day.  (There’s still time, so we’ll see.)  

I guess I’ll have to get a bunch done before I hit the 45/30 day mark when I REALLY stop caring.  ๐Ÿ™‚  

Great post!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Why are you trying to stress me out Doctorgirl?! ;o) Our wedding is in June and we haven’t even started looking into the ceremony wording, the programs, the printed menu’s…. our flower girls JUST GOT THEIR DRESSES (we got them at Bloomingdales online!).

I haven’t started even thinking about ‘letting go’… I am determined to keep on going to GET IT DONE. I just have to get through the academic quarter… and my maid of honor is immensely helpful! It’s just a matter of sitting down with a group of ladies and getting the lil ‘sweatshop’ working! ;o)  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Another May bride, here, letting go. We were booking the caterer at the last minute, so once that was finalized, I let go. (Can you believe it was last week? yes, we finalized our caterer within a month of the wedding!)

Now, I am working on whatever I want to. If I feel like doing something, I will, if not, I won’t. And no one will miss it but me. I want to make so many of my ideas come together, but if they don’t, it’s not worth stressing over now. 

So take a little break and revisit the decisions you can, and remember that "good enough" really is good enough. 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

nope, that’s me! i started that about 2 weeks ago. im geting tired of putting soooo much effort into "one party". I know it’s my wedding…but i’m saving my energy for vows. I had this epiphany while i was racking my brain over something stupid like coasters. Then i realized…nobody gives a flying monkey! So I’m saving my own sanity by focusing on big important stuff. Liking something "just enough" is good enuff for me!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I didn’t have a real letting go because I never really held on! I delegated a lot of my decisions to people and I don’t regret that AT ALL. I told my step-MIL to pick out the flowergirl dress herself, whatever she wanted as long as it was cute, and it was very adorable. It did end up fitting our color scheme, but there was an excellent chance she was going to pick out a pink sash (yes, I let a five year old pick her sash color out), but in the end she ended up with cream. I was surprised by it on my wedding day. So I say, let the flowergirl’s mom (your sister?) pick out the dress…heck, let the flowergirl pick out her dress. 

For the ceremony, there is lots of guidance out there that you can use as a starting point; you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. For programs, use someone else’s template and insert your own personal information. It is going to be FINE. It’s hectic and stressful, but you are going to be great ๐Ÿ™‚ 

 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

I took Miss Cheese’s advice and made a list of what was important.  And whatever isn’t on it, well, I guess it won’t get done!  {{shrugs!}}

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