When did you start planning after getting engaged?

posted 4 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
11336 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

jewellight : The first thing I did was purchase a couple of bridal magazines and I created my own mood boards – this was before I discovered Pinterest (god damn it lol), once I decided what kind of feel we wanted we then went looking at venues. As you’ve done that, that’s the big thing done so I’d have some fin and get trying on dresses! 

Post # 3
8175 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

got engaged the end of february, we wanted to get married that october, so we started planning right away. had our venue booked within 3 weeks, and the other major vendors and dress within 2 months.

Post # 4
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We started planning after 2 months of being engaged. I wanted to start right away, but FI wanted to enjoy being engaged for a bit.

Post # 5
993 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Esplanade Lakes Ballroom, Downers Grove IL

Congratulations! I’m kind of in the same boat where we’re not officially engaged yet, but are discussing wedding planning amongst ourselves and our parents so that everyone is on the same page for general size, location, style/theme, finances, and venue preferences. That way, when he actually proposes, we can get started right away and won’t waste a month arguing among 4 parties. 

I’m guessing it’s a lot easier to book things when you live in the city/town that you’re getting married in. If you’re getting married in your hometown, then flight travel may delay or rush wedding planning.

Post # 6
1278 posts
Bumble bee

We waited about 6 months before proper planning. For the first month or so we did nothing. Then I started looking on pinterest and browsing ideas and places online. We originally thought we wanted a wedding in Italy but once we started planning properly we decided it would be too much stress and too expensive. We then started venue viewings in our home country. 

Post # 7
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Got engaged in October, browsed a little and did some venue enquiries in November, booked our 
venue in December.

Post # 8
77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We started planning a little bit before we got engaged. We looked at wedding magazines and such at least. Two weeks after getting engaged we had our wedding planner booked and within a month we booked our venue. We just booked the photographer about a month and a half after getting engaged. I’m very much a planner though!

Post # 9
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 29th, 2016

jewellight :  Congratulations! Such an exciting time 🙂 

My husband proposed in October ’15 and I didn’t even think about planning until January ’16. That’s when I attended a bridal expo. We initially planned on getting married this summer or fall (2017), but had the opportunity to do it sooner with minimal planning. You already have the venu booked so I would start thinking about the other vendors that you’ll want, like photographer(s)/videographer(s), DJ/live music, baker (and food/drinks if not included in venu), hair and makeup, transportation (limos/cars), hotel blocks for guests, etc.. Have you picked out a dress? Are you having a bridal party? There are plenty of things you can get started on. Happy planning! 

Post # 10
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Congratulations!! I got engaged July 25, 2015 and we took a full month to just enjoy each other, our engagement, and to just be excited! Then the first thing we did was look at venues. These can book 1-2 years ahead of time, so make a list of best ones in your area or where you want to get married within your price range and go see them! Then pick a date, inquire and book that date 🙂 That and the dj were the two things we booked the earliest! Good luck!!

Post # 11
651 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We only have a 9 month engagement so we started planning immediately! I got all the major things out of the way within 2 months (such as finding the caterer, photographer, pastry chef, etc). Like you, we had our venue secured before the official proposal so we could also start immediately announcing our wedding date which was helpful! 

Post # 12
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Began looking at venues 3.5 months after being engaged. During that time we had to focus on find a house, moving, and settling in before we could start wedding planning.

Post # 13
993 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Congrats, bee! 

My fiance proposed a few days before we closed on our first house, which we knew would need some work before we moved in. I didn’t think about planning at all for about 3 months. At that point we got our venue and date squared away (almost 2 years to the day that we got engaged), then our tenant had to move out unexpectedly and we had to do renovations in that unit as well, which put us on another planning hiatus. I’d say we started actually wedding planning in earnest about 6 months after getting engaged. 

After we figured out the venue, we looked at photographers, videographers and DJs – basically anything that needs to be booked on your date, I’d say get those out of the way first. 

Post # 14
33 posts
  • Wedding: December 2017


We started planning immediately (like picked a date 3 hours after he popped the question LOL). But I know brides with 2+ year long engagements who loved that they could take months to enjoy being engaged and not worry about the logistics! 

Since you already booked your venue, sounds like you’re ready to start planning. I would try to do your budget and guest list next so you can work around those factors. After we decided on budget, guest list, and venue we did catering, liquor/bartender, florist, photographer and DJ to get the big expenses out of the way. I also pinned like crazy for theme ideas! 

Post # 15
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016


We got engaged March 25th 2016, set a date within a week, got in contact with our venue April 3rd, and I bought my dress April 5th. And after that we tackled guest list which had like, 7 different drafts. 
We were only engaged for 8 months, so there wasn’t a lot of time to put off planning. 

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