- Miss Mochaccino
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
When did you start to show?
How tall are you? (Do you think height plays a role?)
Did people brazenly ask “are you pregnant?” If so, when? (And how did you handle it?)
When did you buy maternity clothes?
I am almost 8 weeks pregnant and I still fit into my regular clothes, although my figure has changed (bigger boobs and swollen/crampy tummy) and I’m avoiding form-fitting things. I’m 5’4″, and wear a size 6, and my BMI was 23 at the very beginning of the pregnancy. It’s a healthy BMI, and I’ve been happy with my body, but I know I’ve gained a size and about 7-10 pounds since getting married. Since I’m on the shorter side of the spectrum, I’m wondering if perhaps I may be showing a bit sooner that a taller person might?
Over the past couple of years since getting married, older ladies (think 60+) have come up to me on two different occasions to ask if I was pregnant (when I was not pregnant). Both times I was wearing loose “babydoll” type dresses, and I acknolwedge that I’ve gained a bit of weight since getting married, but I could not believe the audacity of these women to brazenly ask such a personal (and hurtful on so many potential levels) question.
This past Sunday (now that I am pregnant), I went to church wearing nice jeans, a belt, and a loose knit top. I ended up chatting to a middle-aged lady I don’t know super well for a few minutes, and midway through our conversation, she said, “Oh my goodness, are you pregnant?”
I was not ready to announce anything and this put me in a really awkward position. I didn’t want to lie, and saying “no” felt like disrespect to my baby, so I said yes, but we’re not ready to announce. I thought it was honestly rude for her to ask, because what if I wasn’t preggers and had just gained weight? All of this has me thinking that I must be showing somewhat, though (or at least I must look like I’ve put on some weight on my tummy). 7-8 weeks just seems like *such* and early time to be showing for a first pregnancy, though. Is it really possible? I’m wondering if perhaps it shows more because I’m shorter….
I’m also thinking that perhaps since I was already over my ideal weight, perhaps I just looked like a “potential pregnant person” to begin with? Still, I really am shocked by people asking. I will never dare ask someone that question! It’s an individual’s news to share when *she* is ready.