(Closed) When did you start telling guest where you registered?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You’re opening a bag of worms with this question. It’s a heated argument amogst the bee, as to whether or not you should share those cards with your guests. Some will argue that it’s like asking people to buy you something, some will argue that it’s customary and people won’t know where you’re registered without them.

Regardless, my opinion is to wait until people ask you, or your mother tells you people have been asking her, before you share that info.

What Darling Husband and I did was provide links to our registries on our website online, and include the website on business cards with our wedding invites. There was a lot more info on the site for our guests, but they were able to navigate to the registry themselves without all of that awkward registry talk 🙂

HTH!

Post # 4
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1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I didn’t. People ask your parents, the hosts of the party, or your friends. For showers, the place you registered usually goes on the invite. I put the links to the registry on my wedding website, and left it at that.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

You should tell them when and if they ask, and you can put the info on a website, but it looks presumptuous to give out those cards or to put it in writing on the wedding or shower invitations.

Post # 6
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338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t have an opinion about the cards, but I agree with the PPs: put it on your website, tell people when they ask.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I gave the cards to my bridesmaid and she sent them out w/the invitation to the shower.  Some of our registry cards (like Kohls) actually had a coupon so it’d be silly not to give those out in my opinion.  

I kinda feel like people obviously want to know where to get you a gift from.  If you’re going to a shower I think it’s kinda obvious you’re supposed to give some sort of a gift.  I’m not saying that I expect things or would be mad if someone just came to hang out because I’m excited for girl time with friends/family.  But, I mean “shower the bride with gifts” …….okay but where are ya registered at?  Yaknow?  

I dunno, don’t attack me bees *backs out cautiously* hahahaha

Post # 9
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I never told anyone where I was registered unless they asked.

However it was listed on my shower invites and I did have a wedding website where it was listed.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My theory is most people know how to use BB&B websites and how to find registry information in the store.  I would leave the cards alone.  They aren’t necessary and you run the risk of offending your guests by including them in anything.  BUT, this is just my opinion!

ETA:  They will put the information on the bridal shower invites and you can put it on your website

@SuperDuperBrit:  The coupon is a different story!  That’s smart to include it there.

Post # 11
Bee
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Schloss Heiligenberg/ Spearfish Canyon Lodge

I didn’t use those cards at all. I included the registry information on our homepage and our Save-the-Dates (and later invitations) had the link to our homepage.

I don’t think many peopel ever asked us where we registed. I guess they got the wink from the homepage.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would not give out the cards at all and I think you should not put the info on the invitations (or with the invitations) in any situation.  Others will disagree with me.  People know how to look up registries on the websites.  Just tell them where you’re registered if they ask.  Also, seriously consider a wedding website… people almost expect you to have them nowadays.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Beckster329:  +100   I’m anti-registry on the invites!  You’re inviting them to a wedding, not inviting them to give you a gift.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mars62312:  +1000

But if it’s customary in your family and your area and you really want to make sure that people buy you gifts, then go for it. Personally, I’m under the assumption that if someone wants to give a gift, they will ask my parents or my BMs or even myself where I’ve registered. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I only told one person because she asked where I’m registered. Otherwise, the shower invites said where I’m registered.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You don’t need the cards at all. People can find your registry in the store by name, and presumably if they know you well enough to buy you a wedding/shower gift, they know your name. Let your parents/bridal party know you are registered at BBB so they can help spread the word when people inquire.

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