Post # 1
Fiance and I dated for over 8.5 years before we got engaged, but never really felt like I had to go through “the agony” as some say, of “waiting” When people would ask when he was going to propose I would just think “if it’s not broke, don’t fix it” I was happy with him being my partner, BF or Fiance – he was still mine. I never really pushed for it, I knew when the time was right, it would happen.
Just wondering for all the waiting bee’s or even married and engaged bee’s – at what point in your relationship did the light switch go off and you suddenly became obsessed with wanting to get engaged and pinned 10299 rings on pinterest and got mad at your SO for every “perfect” opportunity he could have proposed? I know we all have that ah-ha moment where we know we want to be with that person for the rest of our lives, but when did the itch for marriage start for you?
I know everyone goes through this in their own degree, mine barely exsisted, some on level 100 of obsessed, and I totally get it – nothing wrong with it.
I’m not judging anyone, I want to hear everyones stories!
Post # 2
I started going through that after my SO asked me about engagement rings for the first time. I had thought about wedding stuff before then because we knew we were going to get married but I started going crazy with it when the engagement ring question came up. Then, we went looking at rings together and it got WAY worse. Now it’s been a month since we looked at rings and it’s calmed down a little bit, but I still get on here every day to kind of scratch the wedding itch. 🙂
Post # 3
I didn’t think about it too much until he told me he wanted me to be his wife someday and that clicked it ON! Now I wait 🙂
Post # 4
I wasn’t waiting crazy until wedding talk got super heavy. Now I am SUPER impatient because I’m 95% sure that mid November we are getting my ering. I just want that part to be over with because after that there are many more things to do. So overall I’m just crazy and impatient about everything these days.
Post # 5
Fiance and I were together for over 9 years. I will NEVER understand these posts where girls talk about going crazy waiting… and they have been with their SO for like 1.5 years…
I don’t get it.
Post # 6
My bf and I dated about 9 years before we got engaged. We started dating in high school so it definitey wasn’t until much later in our relationship that I started wanting a proposal. I hate to say it, but it wasn’t until other people around us started getting engaged that I started feeling sort of bummed about a lack of engagement for myself. But even then I wouldn’t say I went crazy waiting… I was patient, eventually it happened and was well worth the wait 🙂
Post # 7
When I realized that if he didn’t propose soon, we wouldn’t be able to plan a proper wedding before we have to move when he starts residency. That wasn’t important to me but it was to him, but I knew all of the planning would fall on my shoulders. The 8 weeks between when we first looked at rings and when he asked made me a little batty.
Post # 8
I wasn’t waiting crazy until we took a solid look at our potential timeline with upcoming job decisions. Once we realized that (due to family schedules) that we either could get married in 4-6 months or wait a year and a half to get married, that kicked it into high gear. What added to it was that he was considering taking a job out of town, and I wasn’t about to quit my job and relocate if we weren’t at least engaged. So BAM, one night I came home practically begging to just go elope. Unbeknownst to me, he then bought the ring the next day and we were engaged the day after that!
We never actually went to look at rings together…I made a collage of ones I liked and things I definitely did not want. Then gave him my ring size. That was about 2 months before we got engaged, but I was very chill about it all with the “it’ll happen when it’s supposed to” outlook.
Post # 9
I may not be remembering totally clearly because it was several years ago now, but I think I really started to feel insane after our “timeline” had passed. We got engaged 4 months after the end of the initial timeline and I am pretty sure I losing my mind the whole time. I just kept thinking, “DO IT ALREADY! WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!?! LET’S GET ON WITH OUR LIVES! GRRRRR!” Occasionally I would also say these things out loud 😉
While I think it’s amazing all those women who can be super chill, marriage was legally important to my DH and I since we are from different countries adn couldn’t live together until marriage (we didn’t live too far apart at the time, but after 6 years I watned to live under one roof!).
Post # 10
I think I went a little crazy between the time we started looking at rings (December 2014) and the time we actually got engaged (May 2015). He was definitely trying to keep the timeline a secret and had me utterly convinced that he wasn’t going to ask until the end of the year or our anniversary in April 2016. Boy, I was on edge the entire time! Looking back now, I wish I’d been more chill.
Post # 11
hah i’ll be honest– it started driving me crazy when people who were dating less years than us all started getting engaged!
Post # 12
This was me! I was SO happy for a friend, but they had met when DH and I had already been together for almost 2 years, and had only been dating for a little over a year and some months.
I had been with DH for 2.5 years when we moved in together’ I moved to his place and sold mine. I really wanted to be engaged before I made the move, since I fel tit was a BIG step and I was selling my first home. If something happened and we broke up, I’d have to either move home with my parents, or find an apartment – and then have to buy ALL new furniture since I was selling what I owned (much older than his stuff).
We discussed, and he advised me that he’d propose at some point after my place sold, since then we’d be splitting bills instead of paying our own until that happened. Well, that took 2 months after it we on the market (October). Sometime in January I know I freaked out, and it was bad. But, after that… he mentioned looking for rings and after finding one that I really liked, he bought it a week later and proposed that same week. So… it was just time.
I figured after we looked, he’d wait LONGER so I was surprised.
Post # 13
My boyfriend and I have been together for not wuite 3 years and Im going crazy!! LOL. Only because hes brought me to look at rings and I;m picking out the ring so I know it’s coming.. Just a waiting game 🙂
Post # 14
I think women only go “crazy waiting” if they think it might not happen and they realize they need to dump him or potentially be dumped.
Post # 15
In my case, I didn’t have to wait that long, but I started to go crazy after I’d known he had the ring for months and still hadn’t proposed. Especially because, we had already agreed we wanted to be married the following summer and that was only a year away.
The planner in me knew we should be choosing a date, booking a venue, photographer, etc, etc. For me, that was the main reason I went crazy…. I just wanted to get the wheels in motion even though I knew he was going to do it soon 🙂