(Closed) When did you start to go "waiting crazy?"

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was never the one to think about marraige too much. My now fiance, when we first started going out he brought up marraige often and I wasn’t thinking the same since it was way too soon.

2-3 years later when I was 24 I started getting wedding crazy I think because I started thinking about settling down more and everyone my age was getting engaged so I brought up marraige and even insisted we check out a jewelry store just to get our ring sizes.. and lo and behold we broke up not that long after.

After we worked through out own issues, yes we are finally engaged, but I ultimiately picked out the ring since we were long distance, ect. 

Open communication is a must to check you both are on the same page as far as timeline goes, and I think guys especially feel they need to be settled career wise and financially before considering the next step, imo

ETA: We’ve been together 6 years before he proposed ๐Ÿ™‚

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  luvely.
Post # 62
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Wannabee

I didn’t start going “wait crazy” until I found I was pregnant. Now, I’m fuming everyday. It’s probably just the hormones, but he needs to get the show on the road!

Post # 63
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Newbee

I am five years older than my SO (both past 30) and I am ready for  to be “officially family”. I wouldn’t say I have the all the ansty feelings all the time because we are on the same page as far as spending our lives together. But I do feel that way when it seems like he’s circling the same fears (ones that are about his personal fears but not our relationship) and it feels like we are the same distance away from a proposal as we were 3 or 6 months prior. We have talked about getting married plenty, and have a loose timeline. my antsy feeling always vanishes for a few months upon reassurances that he’s still comfortable with the timeline he propose. He hasn’t had any other relationships so I walk a line between giving him plenty of space to feel ready  and being careful not to squish my thoughts too far down either. I didn’t even want marriage until I met him, so it’s been new to desire it so much with him. 

Post # 64
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I am currently going through this crazy period, and have been ever since we first started talking about getting married last spring. It’s only gotten worse after we looked at rings in August. Our original timeline was by the end of 2015, but for job/financial reasons, it has been extended to early 2016. I’m guessing the “engagement season” will only make it worse, as I already know 3 couples that have gotten engaged this fall, and 2 of my best friends are probably going to in the next 2 months as well. 

Post # 65
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I was completely crazy after I knew he had the ring! I picked out the ring on etsy and he had it for about a month and a half before he proposed, which isn’t that long but it felt like forever!

Post # 66
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I guess after I ‘graduated’ from college (5 years in) and nothing happened that’s when I started to go waiting crazy. I assumed that me getting out of college was all that he was waiting for but now I’m 3 years into my doctorate and….. we’ll see? 

Post # 67
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Helper bee

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futuremrscrow: I started thinking and daydreaming about it about it within the first year of our relationship.  We did speak about engagement within the first year, but I didn’t get waiting “crazy” until around the 2 year mark…we got engaged around 2.5 years. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 68
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Worker bee

I don’t know that I’ve reached the “crazy” stage yet, but I am very anxious. It didn’t even cross my mind until we decided on a whim to buy a house and renovate it into our dream home. Now I’ve moved in and he’s on the other side of town. When we purchased the house, we did it with the intent that this is where we will blend our families but we would not be living together fulltime until we were married because of the kids (we both have been married before with kids). So now I am living in this HUGE house with only my kids and he’s an hour away. ๐Ÿ™ We have set timelines to be married within the next 2 years and he told me the other day we would be engaged by summer. I guess I just need to put on my big girl panties and try to be a little more patient!

Post # 69
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I am definitely now in CRAZY mode. We are ring shopping in two weeks and i am ready to have my ring NOW!  If my ring has to be sized or special ordered i will lose my shit!!!!

Post # 70
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I never knew there was a “waiting” culture until I found WB.  DH and I talked about getting married, and a few months later, he proposed.  I never thought about the proposal after we talked.  I didn’t know he went ring shopping, or that he was planning to propose.  It just happened.  

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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leekissesme:  Oh god I would be the exact same!!! 

I’m going waiting crazy! I genuinely thought there was something wrong with me before I found the bee. I ended up googling ‘obsessed with getting engaged’ one night and it came up with a thread about ‘waiting’. I don’t think it’s talked about as much here in the UK

Post # 72
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

BF and I have been together for almost 8 years, but I’d only say I’ve been waiting for… 2-3 months? We started dating in college and were not ready to even starting thinking about grown up things like marriage.

Fast forward almost a decade, and now we have (semi) established careers, have travelled the world, pursued our interests on our own and together, have 2 dogs and a house, and it suddenly hit me -I’m ready. We’re already committed, we already have a life together, neither of us would dream of anything different, so why not tie the bow on top and make eachother (officially) family?

It’s a little harder for BF because he works in the wedding industry. He literally spends all day, every day watching strangers walk down aisles and say fancy words. The meaning is lost in the repetition. It’s hard, especially as a man, to see it as something YOU want to do.

Post # 73
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Helper bee

Around the 2 year mark

Post # 74
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469 posts
Helper bee

It comes in phases for me. I love him. We are so happy. I’m fine with where we are, though I’m ready to feel that stability.

In December 2014, he asked me what kinds of rings I like, and I had no clue. So I went a little crazy looking while trying not to show him I was crazed. Then I was chill. Then this summer, my brother asked me (they are friends), and I went crazy some more because I changed my mind about what I wanted. Then I was calm again. I’m almost positive he bought my ring this week, and now I’m crazy. Literally cannot think of anything else because I’m so excited! Never in a million years thought I would get like this, but I cannot wait. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 75
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Buzzing bee

For me, it was when his brother was going to propose to his gf that we met twice. The first time we met her they were already talking about engagement  (after being together for like 3 months) and t he n they bought a house and then he was actually buying a ring. And I was fine with where we were, but we did have a timeline talk, and we were past the deadline so it got brought up more seriously. And then my FIS cousin got engaged and then his brother and it was just painful for me at that piont. I know everyone has different time lines but it was just brutal that his brother knew he wanted to marry this girl within the first three months of dating each other, while fi and I were together 4 years and he still hadn’t proposed! I guess it just hurt my feelings. 

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