(Closed) When did you start to go "waiting crazy?"

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

2 years in. We were sort of living together. Different addresses but staying over for long periods of time. 

Post # 77
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Helper bee

I’ve noticed some women say they don’t understand why some of us get so stressed over waiting …and then go on to explain how their man followed a precise simple path of proposing. That’s because you’re lucky and have one of the few men who has his shit together and knee what he wanted and was in a place financially and mentally to do it! The rest of us have men that aren’t quite there yet while we women ARE there mentally and financially. That doesn’t make our men bad or less, it just means while we’re waiting for our me  to reach that point it’s frustrating. 

Post # 78
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Busy bee

after i knew he had the ring in the house! 

Post # 79
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

Fortunately, I didn’t go “crazy” until right before he actually did it, literally a couple weeks before. And the only reason I started obsessing over it was because my friends put the idea in my head that he might do it while on vacation,which is exactly what he did, but I wasn’t anticipating it to be then.

To be fair, we talked about our timeline this summer and I pretty much expected that it would be happening before the end of this year, but I was expecting it to happen around the holidays (Christmas, New Years) rather than mid-October. So for me, it was letting everyone else’s speculation get to me that drove me to over-thinking it. In the end, they were right, but still… If they hadn’t pushed it, I don’t know if I would have been thinking about it as much as I was in the time leading up to our trip.  

Post # 80
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I think I am at the crazy point now, we picked out my ring 2 months ago. I know he has it, he know I know he has it. He keeps holding my hand and rubbing my ring finger, but won’t talk about it other than saying he’s looking forward to telling all his extended family we’re enaged at Christmas when we see them…he mentioned November being “the month”.

So now I think I am going insane, the waiting is making me feel sick at this point. I was frustrated, then excited, now because I think it is likely to be tomorrow or Saturday I think I am losing my mind. These final (maybe) 24 hours of being pre-proposal are making me feel emotionally and physically ill… It sounds stupid but now that I know he could be asking me tomorrow…. My anxiety has gone into full swing!!!! Sweaty doesn’t do it justice.

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I went crazy when he told me last Thanksgiving to “start looking at rings.” It made me so mad that he would say that without the intention of actually buying one in the near future. I was like “Why would you say that to a girl prematurely?!” It caused a lot of fights for about a year. He ordered the ring after one of our come to Jesus meetings. Waiting was a season of heartache for me. Our lives are still extremely stressful, but I am much happier than I was, and we get along better!

Post # 82
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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srb26:  I was exactly like that before my Fiance proposed! I was so anxious and just wanted to get it over with! He had the ring for about 2.5 months before the proposal, and he moved up the date of the proposal because I badgered him about it. If I could go back and do anything differently, it would be to relax more and enjoy the moment because I knew it was coming. and especially not to start fights over getting engaged… I cringe when I think back to my behavior the month before we got engaged–It took some of the fun out of it!

Post # 83
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

oh lordy, is sounds like my situation completely!! thank you for this, i’m going to try really hard to be sweet for the next 24hrs/couple of weeks! I have been a total brat and i know it. 🙁 it feels like i’ve been PMS-ing for about 2 months. poor guy probably won’t want to marry me in the end !

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Post # 84
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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srb26:  Girl, it’s really hard… Don’t beat yourself up! But go easy on the BF too. <3

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Ring shopping next Saturday!!!!!  I am so excited and he is happy too lol. Next Saturday we will either have my ring or at minimum it will be on order. Hot damn!!!

Post # 86
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Bumble bee

Excellent post

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Post # 87
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Busy bee

In April we started talking about weddings and venues, and in June we decided to book a venue space! Places book up fast here in Minnesota where we have few warm months for celebration 🙂 well we booked for June 2016, my ring arrives tomorrow, and I’m already freaking out about how long he will choose to hold onto the ring when our date is only 6.5 months away!! I told SO that I’m not spending any money to book any other vendors until he’s officially asked me. I’m dying over here! He just started a new job so I think was hoping to settle in a bit first, but I don’t know how nuts I will be if he hasn’t asked me by Thanksgiving. 

Post # 88
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Newbee

At about 8 years for me! 🙂

Post # 89
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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happybunny177:  Omg yes!! All the time! Especially since we’ve been dating for 5 years I’ve gone completely insane now seeing all these engagements 

Post # 90
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Busy bee

It started for me a few months ago, after we’d been together maybe a year and a couple of months. I know compared to some bees that’s nothing, but I truly believe when you know you just know. I went crazy over picking a ring because I struggled to narrow down what I liked, especially when a couple of times he seemed to encourage me and then would turn around and say he wasn’t ready. I told him it felt like teasing and he should just stop. All was quiet for a bit but it started up maybe two months ago again, only this time he felt like he was way more invested. We finally got the ring choices down to about five and he asked me to step back from the process then. So it’s only a matter of time, and I’d wait forever if I had to because I know he’s the one…but damn, I’m impatient and I want the world to know we have that commitment! Lol

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