(Closed) When did you start to “really plan”?

posted 7 years ago in August 2012
Post # 3
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re getting married this Friday (!!!) and I’d say that we “really” started to plan in January. Shortly after we got engaged we booked the venue, photographer and the band we really wanted. Oh – and I guess I ordered my dress. But it was only after Christmas that I started to write lists and make decisions on things.

I’d say take care of the big things and then enjoy browsing the internet and the bee for ideas. You’re right – you will probably change your mind a few times! Enjoy dreaming and scheming and start really working after the holidays.

Post # 4
2701 posts
Sugar bee

We were engaged in November, started planning in January. The big things were set in stone by April, now we’re just paying things off and coasting until the date :). IMO, it’s better to hurry up and wait when it comes to this stuff.

Post # 5
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

THIS is why I wish I would have only had a 6 month engagement – the wait after the big stuff and before you’re reading to commit to little stuff was the worst for me. After we got the vendors (photog, caterer, officiant, venue, DJ, etc) taken care of, I had almost 10 months left. I forgot about wedding planning for a few months and picked it up about 4 months out. It sort of drove me crazy to have it all sitting there in the back of my mind.

You can either wait until you’re closer or just go ahead and start getting stuff taken care of. My only advice if you go for the latter: stop looking for ideas after you have already decided on something. Because you WILL change your mind on centerpieces or programs, but chances are that tiny change won’t magically transform your wedding into something it isn’t already, and there is nothing good that comes out of second-guessing yourself. The hardest part for brides is knowing all the things they COULD have done but didn’t, and at the end of the day the guests will never know any of that, so it’s not like they’ll be making the same comparisons that you are.

The only other bad part about starting early is that a lot of stuff depends on your guest count, and if you’re like me and could have your guest list anywhere in the range from 75-200 people, you are limited as to how much you can do.

Post # 6
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I was engaged in March, so a 9 month engagement… I started planning earnestly in July.  So about 5 months before the wedding!

Post # 7
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I was engaged in September before our July wedding and we began “really planning” pretty much immeadiately.

So 10 months out for us.

ETA: We did have about a 2-2.5 month gap in the middle where we didn’t have a whole lot to do.

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