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Helper bee
Hey Bee’s!! So I have been pregnant twice before (I have two beautiful kids). I am getting remarried May 4th, 2013. My Fiance and I have been together for 3 years now and we have been talking about TTC once the wedding is over. However, it puts the due date at the wrong time for me and the best time for me to get pregnant would be a couple months earlier. I am a ‘fertile myrtle” to say the least and I doubt we will have complications conceiving. My issue is, if we start TTC a month or two before the wedding would I be showing yet? With my first 2 I didn’t start to show until around 4-5 months but I hear that after having kids you can start showing earlier. Has there been anyone to show at 2 months?? Just wondering! I am not worried about people knowing (his mom wishes I was pregnant now lol) but more about my dress not fitting!! Thanks Bee’s!
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
I was about 7 weeks pregnant at my wedding, and I did ‘soften’ around the middle a bit but it wasn’t a baby bump at all. I had to have my dress let out about an inch, but it was still mostly just bloating at that point.
Post # 4
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Worker bee
I started showing at 4 1/2 months but before that I was a little swollen/bloated so that may affect the way your dress fits if that happens. I don’t think I had that problem until 3 months though so you’ll probably be fine!
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
well I’ve never been pregnant so I can’t really comment on your question but your plan brought up a whole bunch of questions for me.
Do you really want to run the risk of not feeling well at your wedding? And not drinking? And being bloated, (even if not showing a bump)?
Post # 6
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Honey bee
This is my first pregnancy, so I can’t really say anything about showing earlier with each additional child. It probably just depends on the person…. I was able to wear my regular clothes until a little after 4 months.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@Meowkers: Your questions are very valid but I do not drink alcohol at all anyway so that doesn’t worry me. I do get morning sickness when pregnant although for me it hits in the evening and only hits me one time. My only worry is the baby bump. I know my body pretty well when pregnant and the sickness doesn’t bother me. There will be alcohol but like I said I do not drink even now. The wedding is actually going to be pretty laid back, we have rented an entire venue with our cabin right behind our reception hall. Our whole family will be there for the whole weekend with us. So it is safe to say I am not worried about those things. My main reason for trying a bit early is if I get pregnant later it interrupts my last semester/graduation from college whereas if I can get pregnant just a couple months earlier my due date would be over break. I already bought my dress so I just didn’t want a baby bump. Now with my first child I didn’t show until 6 – 7 months. My second I started showing around 5. I was just wondering if anyone had ever shown that early.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
@DaneLady: I wouldn’t mind a little bloat but I would hope it wasn’t noticable. I have a fit and flare gown so I am thinking any weight gain would be noticable. But of course if I told them I was pregnant I don’t think anyone would care about anything except that. His parents are just so excited for him to have a baby. My kids are with my ex so it would be my FI’s first.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I got married recently, at 10 weeks pregnant. It was absolutely wonderful! Don’t let anybody tell you you won’t have fun at your wedding if you are pregnant. I love to drink, don’t get me wrong, but I haven’t even been missing alcohol since becoming pregnant, and regardless, I tore up the dance floor all night with all my awesome friends and fam whom I was so excited to see all at once. It was the best night of my life 🙂 I think being pregnant made it even more exciting and wonderful to be getting married.
I think it’s possible to show that early if you have had kids before. It’s hard to say. Somebody who has had multiple pregnancies will hopefully chime in and give you some feedback! However if you are showing, it wouldn’t be a hard, ‘baby bump’, because the baby is still only about an inch long at that point. It would be your uterus just pooching up and out a bit ahead of the game because it’s been there before and is more responsive to the hormones. My bet would be that it might change your shape, but not your size, if that makes sense – probably controllable with spanx if it shows up that early at all. Do you tend to get bloated when you are pregnant? That was something that caught me off guard. I knew I wouldn’t be showing yet by 10 weeks, but I had no idea how much bigger I would be anyway, because of being bloated / constipated :/ If you know how you usually are with morning sickness, that’s helpful. But you might want to get some Zofran or something just in case things change on your wedding day. I think our bodies are powerful things and even if you aren’t feeling the greatest in general, your happiness and excitement will override the pregnancy symptoms and tell your body to just be cool! That seemed to happen for me 🙂
Post # 10
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Helper bee
@araneidae: I never really got bloated when I was pregnant but I also wasn’t trying to get into a wedding dress so it is hard to say if anything fit differently at that point. Thanks for the encouragment. I think I will have a blast at the wedding no matter what. I am just excited to see my family and friends who all live so far away from me. I haven’t seen my MoH since 2008 and I haven’t seen my Dad since 2010. So that alone is a huge thing for me. I am hoping I will get pregnant around April which would put me at only about 4 weeks or so during the wedding. My daughter is a December baby so I would rather have a January lol. But these things are never the way you plan anyway!! I will be happy either way! Thanks again.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Can you add a poll? I would really like to see the responses!
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
I didn’t start showing until 6 months into my pregnancy, but I had a complicated pregnancy and lost 20 pounds in the first 6 months before gaining any baby weight. It depends on the person and the pregnancy
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@aicila: I added the poll. 
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
My Future Sister-In-Law was showing at 8 weeks after having more than 2 children and my other friends started showing around 12 weeks with their third kids. I would say 2 months would be save, 3 would be pushing it.
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