Post # 1
I was just wondering when everyone started TTC/NTNT and why?
My Fiance and I are getting married in May and want to start try as soon as we can…we were even talking about TTC/NTNT a month before we get married. Is this a good idea? I mean, I know that the chances of getting pregnant in the first month is very very unlikely, but if by some miracle we did would that negatively effect our wedding? (I’d probably be about 6-8 weeks on our wedding day) would that effect the way I looked? (aka what I looked like in the dress) or when do you actually start to show?? Thanks so much for all the feedback!! (We are having a dry wedding so not drinking on our wedding day doesn’t matter.) Thanks!
Post # 3
After going through the first 6-8 weeks. I personally wouldn’t start trying. You just never know how your body is going to react to pregnancy. You could feel nothing, or you could be sick as a dog. Either way you lose a lot of your energy and you dont want to do that the last few weeks before your big day. Enjoy the planning process it goes by so quick. And I even enjoyed our time alone together as a married couple. We started trying after a pregnancy scare… I think the scare made us both realize that we were a little disapointed it was JUST a scare. Good luck!
Post # 4
We got married in March and were on BC since then bc of moves, school, etc. But we went off BC in August to let my body transition back and learn how to chart. I wanted to give myself 4 to 6 months to learn how to chart and focus on good health and nutrition to prepare for pregnancy. So we are hoping to TTC sometime next year. We are moving pretty fast bc we are both 30 and want more than 1 kid, so gotta shake a leg!
Post # 5
We started almost 4 months before marriage, we figured it would take a while to get pregnant since our first month of NTNT was my first month off the pill.
Surprise! We got pregnant on our second month and are now 14 weeks 6 days, Got married 3 weeks ago when we were exactly 12 weeks.
Post # 6
Can I vote other?
I got pregnant 6 years before we got married and we weren’t actively ntnt until afterward. Our reasoning? Well things have just kind of fallen into place for us, and the timing seems right. I was adamant about avoidng pregnancy prior to the wedding simply because my first pregnancy left me sick as a dog from 4wks through 12wks, not to mention my energy was sapped like whoa.
Post # 7
If I were you I would just wait to start TTC after you are married, we werent TTC/NTNT and we still got pregnant within less than 2months after getting married (1 month and 2 weeks to be exact) so in the rare even that you do get pregnant right before the wedding you dont want to have to deal with the yucky symptoms before and during your wedding
Post # 8
We started NTNT right after I finished my last pack of BC after the wedding. We decided to wait, just because both sides of our grandparents would have been upset if we were pregnant (and having sex) before we were married, and plus we wanted to be “free” so to speak for our honeymoon. And I’m glad we did it that way because it was really nice to be able to eat, drink, have a few smokes with my drinks, and pretty much have no limitations while on our honeymoon. Being pregnant really does change a lot about your daily life.
Post # 9
I was really tired my first trimester. For us our wedding was a lot of prep and then a lot of dancing and then our honeymoon had some adventurous parts so I’m glad we waited but we would have still had a great time even if I was pregnant, it just would have been a different experience.
Post # 10
I agree with waiting until after you’re married if you can. Everyone reacts differently to pregnancy, but I was so sick and constantly had an icky feeling. So to avoid dealing with all of that on your wedding day, I would try after that.
Post # 11
We’ve waited a little under two years after we got married. We moved and had a lot of changes right after the wedding. Adding a pregnancy and baby right away would have been too much for us. We also went on our honeymoon six months after the wedding because we put our money into the condo, so we didn’t have a lot. My newlywed advice is wait and enjoy your marriage before kids. Your marriage will never be the same once they arrive. I’m saying this as advice I’ve received from friends. Do you really want to drastically shake up a marriage just as its beginning or give it time to mature before kids? Before we got married, we were together for 5 years. Even with those five years together and living together before, marriage felt different in a good way. We both wanted to enjoy our “salad days” of marriage before kids. Honestly, I wasn’t ready until recently. I seem to be in the minority of those who got married around the same time as me, but I’m so happy that we waited. I’ve been stockpiling both yarn and baby stuff as I eagerly await getting pregnant.
Post # 12
We want to start right away too and I didn’t want to chance my dress not fitting so we haven’t really started TTC yet, we just stopped being careful about a month ago (wedding is in 10 days!). I also think actively TTC can be stressful for some people and wedding planning was hectic enough!
Post # 13
We both switched jobs after the wedding, so we waited 3 months for health insurance to kick in before stopping birth control. We knew we wouldn’t be able to afford the costs without insurance- thank goodness, because my first bloodwork was over $1200 before insurance!
Also I definitely recommend waiting until after the wedding to get pregnant- first trimester was ROUGH, I would hate to be feeling so crappy on the big day!
Post # 14
I recently went to a wedding where the B&G announced at the reception that they were 6-7 weeks along. They’d decided to go off BC about a month and a half before the wedding because they wanted to try right after they got married and, of course, they got pregnant right away without even trying! They were excited, but the bride was super annoyed that she couldn’t drink at the wedding or on their honeymoon cruise.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
We started about six months before the wedding – and no luck (of course!) — but so far, no luck!