(Closed) When did you start waiting?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: When did you start to feel like you were waiting?

    Less than 6 months

    6 months - 12 months

    Over 12 months - 18 months

    Over 18 months- 24 months

    2 - 3years

    Over 3 years -4 years

    5+ years

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I said 2-3 years because that’s how long it was for him to go from ready to ring. But I was ready after 2 years, which was 5 years total.

    Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Kentwood, MI

    I honestly was waiting after two months of dating. I’ve been waiting over two years.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I waited 5 months or so. I didn’t consider myself waiting until he asked my ring size and for ring pics. I honestly would have waited longer, my personal thought was always that I wouldn’t want to be dating someone for longer than a year to a year and a half without an engagement, but I never told him that, and he moved faster than that. 

    However, it’s definitely different for different people. I know a guy who would not even consider marriage until after 4-5 years of dating. 

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee

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    becks90 :  We started having serious conversations about marriage time lines around Christmas last year, which was a bit more than 7 years in.  I wouldn’t consider myself waiting at that stage, we were discussing logistics mostly; what kind of wedding we wanted, cost, priorities in terms of saving for a house or saving for a wedding, what marriage meant for us in terms of lifestyle, kids etc

    We met pretty young and at 7 years together we were just getting established post university so I never expected or wanted a proposal prior to discussing it 6 months ago.  We had around 2 months of back and forth conversations to make sure we were going into marriage on the same page and then we went to browse rings in early March, so I suppose that’s the point that I entered the waiting stage. 

    We both agreed that I would be involved in buying the ring so I didn’t expect a proposal from March onward, but I knew it was imminent.  

    We ordered the ring 2 days ago, I know it’ll take few weeks and then I will be properly waiting and probably expecting it any time he reaches into his pocket for something! 

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee

    I didn’t answer your poll because I kind of feel like I’m waiting, but I don’t want to be.

    Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been dating for 8 months, but we are both finishing university, so we are in a transition period in our lives. We have discussed the next step at length and have discussed a bunch of details about our hypothetical wedding, but I don’t want to feel like I’m ‘waiting’ so I kind of ignore that feeling lol.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

    In our first year of dating, we discussed a timeline because we knew we wanted to get married. Our plan was to get married this year (4th year of dating), so near the end of 2015 (2.5 years of dating), I told him he’d have to propose soon for a 2017 wedding to be realistic. I think I officially started waiting at the beginning of 2016 (a little over 2.5 years), and we got engaged in April.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I knew I wanted to be married before 30. Fiance and I started dating my senior year and his junior year of college so I realistically knew that it would be a few years. There were a few times where I’d wish he’d just propose so we could get married and move forward with our lives about 3 – 4 years in but timing was never ideal (jobs/money/other personal issues). I’d get antsy for a proposal around Christmas or Pi day year 3 and year 4. He totally surprised me and did it on a random day of the week. I had nooooo idea. He proposed after 5 1/2 years together and we will get married 7 days after our 7th anniversary of dating on 10/7/17.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2021 - City, State

    I honestly was waiting the first month I started dating him. However, I knew to maybe give it a few years and now that a few years have passed and I graduated college, now I am seriously waiting. What is different is that it is really me who is the one who isn’t ready still. I just started my career and I am not making nearly enough money to move out of my parents house because i have to build a caseload and yeah. I still really want to get married, I just wish my circumstances were better. 

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    It was around 12 months because we moved from the city where we met, then in together. We had talked about what we wanted in life and with each other and felt very much on the same page. We both has been in relationships that had moved too fast or gone wrong. So we dated a year before moving in together, then gave it a year of living together, then bought a house. We however did know VERY quicky this was different then anything we felt before. 

    Then around the 2.5 year mark he bought the ring, but didn’t give it to me for a few months. 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I started waiting when my DH mentioned he was looking at rings. We were together for a very, very long time before that, but we hadn’t really talked seriously about marriage. There were a couple of times that he brought up “let’s get married,” but I told him that I had to have a ring and proprosal. Once he said he was looking at rings, I figured a proprosal was coming. He proposed about a week later. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    I never felt like I was waiting. 

    Post # 13
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I knew about 8 onths in that I wanted to marry him,  but wouldn’t consider myself as waiting until it was at a year. We are going on 2.5 years now so hopefully the proposal is coming soon… 🙂

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee

    I didn’t. I was perfectly happy and getting a ring didn’t change that. I enjoyed my freedom while it lasted! Lol 

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    DH and I were high school sweethearts, so we were together about 7 years before I really considered myself “waiting”. I was 24, so still pretty young. He proposed a year after that. I wasn’t surprised that I was ready to get married before he was, and I knew he wasn’t ready so I wasn’t crossing my fingers at every major event (ie birthday, anniversary) hoping it would happen. For us it was more of a thing that was always going to happen, it was just a question of when.

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