(Closed) When did you start waiting?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: When did you start to feel like you were waiting?

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  • Post # 31
    31 posts

    We were together just over three years when we started seriously discussing getting engaged. We have had numerous other conversations and even a few drunken statements from him that he was going to marry me lol.

    But at the end of last year we decided we would be engaged by the end of 2017 and he’s mentioned it a few times since.


    I don’t actually know if we will be as it’s been a tough year for me health wise and I’ve missed a lot of work so money has been tight. We also have two kids between us (one each) so have other priorities and even if we do get engaged, a wedding is a few years off yet anyway so although I consider myself “waiting” I amn’t actively waiting or anticipating it anytime soon. I don’t have the same sense of pressure as we are not planning children together, we have a house, we’re very happy and settled as we are…..we’re just looking to seal the deal……it won’t change things much.


    Post # 32
    44 posts

    We’ve never had the discussion, even though we’ve both said to each other “when I get married…”, but I know and we’ve only been “officially” dating for three months but he’s been around for a year. Gotta him through three years of law school, so I’ll probably be waiting that long. 

    Post # 33
    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2020

    I’m definitely not waiting by any means. My SO and I have only been together for a little over 8 months and I just moved in with him this past weekend (!!!). I would say I won’t be waiting for another year or so. We’ve discussed it and he knows that I want marriage, so I’m not worried. 

    Post # 34
    27 posts

    I knew he was the guy in year 1. I started really waiting at year 4. At year 6 now, my sister keeps telling me to get ready. It feels like the right time for us and his daughter. I’m 27, he’s 31.

    Post # 35
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    We started discussing marriage about 8 months in, which was when we moved in together. At that point we agreed that no boxes would be packed unless we were planning on on sticking with it for the long haul. But also that we wanted to try living together before getting engaged. About 8 months after that, on Thanksgiving, he asked how I would feel about getting engaged soon and we both agreed we were ready. That’s when I started “waiting” I guess. It took four months to get through the holidays, shop for a ring, have it made, and then he proposed in March. So 20 months between first date and proposal.

    Post # 36
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    honestly, i was not waiting at all. i always thought that i’d date somebody for 2-3 years before they would propose to me. so when my now DH proposed to me i was really surprised and was not expecting it because it happened 1 year after we started dating. hahahah ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 37
    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I don’t think I’m ‘waiting’ yet. Just looking forward to it in my future. I’ve been upfront with my SO that I wanted us to be together at least a year before a proposal, but I do not want to wait any more than 4 years. He told me the other day that he thinks around 2 years is a good time, so I’ll probably start ‘waiting’ on our second anniversary in October. That being said, we’ve just opened a savings account for our wedding, and seem to be in a similar mindset, so there may be no waiting.

    Post # 38
    82 posts
    Worker bee

    That is a difficult one because technically I am ready now and would say yes if he decided he wanted to marry me ๐Ÿ™‚

    However I have little timelines in my head and I have said by the end of next year would be nice, anything past that then I think I could say I was officially ‘waiting’ ๐Ÿ™‚

    We have been together nearly 3 yrs by the way, and have lived together 2 of those.

    Post # 39
    10299 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    I didn’t ‘wait’  either with first or second . First was high school sweetheart  scenario and we just had to wear  our parents  down and get a ring –  well that worked  out well, haha. ( I shouldn’t  say that really,  we were happy for a few years)

    Second,  he just gave me a ring and proposed with it.  Fortunately a perfectly beautiful ring , though I would not have said anything had I not liked it . He was too earnest and serious poor baby. The restaurant  was so dark I couldn’t really see what the ring was like , I had to go out to the loo to look !

    Post # 40
    70 posts
    Worker bee

    We discussed our intentions pretty early on.  At about the 8 month mark he asked me what kind of rings I liked and encouraged me to go look at some.  I did that and sent them to him, which was about 9 months ago.  I’ve always told him that him asking me to marry him will be the easiest question to answer….but not to ask until he is 100% ready and I’ve stuck to my promise of not bringing it up. 


    I”m pretty sure it’s coming really really soon ๐Ÿ™‚   Guess I’m offiically waiting now.  More like really giddy anticipation. 

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