(Closed) When did you start wanting babies? And did other people’s babies interest you?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think I wanted a baby since I was about 2 lol. I have always been baby crazy, I became a teacher to satisfy the urge a bit but it has only gotten stronger every year. This is our first cycle TTC and I’m already wondering how I could possibly cope if I don’t get pregnant this month. 

Post # 17
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2021

Honestly, I’ve wanted a baby since I was 14. Not in the “only want it while its giggling” way, but in a “the horrid morning sickness that runs in the family is worth it for a smelly crying hungry baby” way. The strong desire to reproduce runs in my family, my mom was the same way, and my grandmother gave birth to 5-6 or so… Basically, we have high fertility rates and the need to have babies running in the family.

Post # 18
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Helper bee

I find babies squirmy, too warm and boring.  I’m really uncomfortable holding other people’s babies.  I go nuts for puppies and kittens the same way some do for babies.  But… I still want my own children and I’m hoping I will love them to pieces. 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve never felt interest in other people’s babies; to be honest they kind of freak me (too small). However, for me it’s a completely different thing when it comes to older children. We’ve had the privilege to see the daughter of a close friend going from baby package to a wonderful little 5-year-old. I started to feel genuine interest in her when she was around 8 months old and then it just grew as she developed her own personality. 

I’m currently almost 34 weeks pregnant and I’ve no idea how I’ll react once baby is here. Of course I’m hoping that I’ll fall head over heals in love with this little human, but I don’t think I’ll turn into a “love all babies” just because ours has entered the world.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

I’ve always known I wanted kids. From about 14 I really wanted one. I’m 23 and every week the urge to have them seems to get stronger, I cant help but talk about them all the time and when I’m out and I hear one cry I get such an urge to run over and cuddle them. My body is basically screaming for children, its awful because we cant afford them yet. Im hoping to have them around 26/27, my body doesnt seem to want to wait any longer. Infact my body keeps getting really ill (not contagious, just like shutting down) for no reason and my Fiance jokes that its because I’m not pregnant and its angry at me.

Even talking about this now is making my head go baby crazy. I swear the biological clock thing is all too real. I volunteer with children and I work at a daycare and none of it has put me off them (everyone said it would) infact it makes me want them more. The other crazy thing is that where I live no one wants to have children anymore, everyone has gone child-free and I feel like im so alone in this!! 

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

caligirl0011:  I know that I’ve always wanted my own children, but I really don’t like other people’s kids. I know that the children of others has never swayed my desire to have my own. I have friends who have kids, and I never walk away dying to have a child. I usually walk away dying for a drink. Fiance and I have had long discussions over when we want to start our family. Currently, none of my siblings have children, but FI’s SIL is expecting a baby, so we aren’t really concerned about overlap with cousins or anything like that. I would like to be pregnant within six months of the wedding. 

People are actually surprised when they hear me say I want my own kids, because I am just so utterly unimpressed by other people’s kids. Like no, I don’t want to hold the baby, I don’t want to see what they drew, I don’t want to hear their stories…I am just not interested. My best friend has a baby, and I simply adore him…but I’m not blind to his freakouts and how working around his temperment is tiring. My mother assures me that I will love my own child unconditionally, so I’m not too worried about liking my own kids haha. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

At 30, after I had my first baby lol.  I never had baby fever, then I had our first baby and now I have some baby fever.  I was ok with babies in my late 20s (being around them and having some fun with them) but wasn’t quite ready for my own yet.  I’m not really interested in strangers babies, only my friends or families babies.

Most of my friends are having babies around 30, but almost all have had them in their late 20s.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have absolutely zero interest in other people’s children, but I am absolutely dying to start a family. When my two best friends had babies, I did love that but it was just… like a miracle seeing their kids because I have known them so long.

My mother was the same. Actually, she was worried that she wouldn’t be a good mother because of her lack of interest in other people’s kids, even though she wanted one of her own. She still doesn’t really care about other people’s kids, but oh man, she was crazy about us. She is the greatest mom ever.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve always known I wanted to have kids, and I’ve always wanted to wait until I was 30 to start trying.  For me, my 20s were about me, and my freedom to do what I wanted, and I wasn’t ready to take on that responsibility, yet.  I got serious baby fever around age 28.  I’ve always loved kids, and was always all googly eyed over other people’s kids.  At age 30, Darling Husband and I decided to TTC because we were newly married, just bought a house, and are financially stable.

Honestly, 11 cycles of TTC has made me not so googly eyed over other friend’s & family’s newborns/toddlers.  Of course I want to hold them, and I love them, but it is actually pretty painful at the same time because it’s something I want so badly, and it seems to come so easy for everyone else around me. 

   

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

caligirl0011:  Yeahhhh…. Most other people’s kids generally do not interest me. Except my godchild and few friends kids who are well behaved. But we want our own kids, and have been trying. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve always been VERY baby crazy.  I just don’t really care for other people’s crappy short humans sometimes.  Yes, I’m looking at you, 4 year olds.  And you, 8 year olds.  I’m absolutely certain I will LOVE LOVE LOVE my own child even when they’re being a monster, but yeah, put me in a room with someone elses kid throwing a tantrum, saying awful things to their parent, etc., and I will happily leave that room immediately.

 

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

caligirl0011:  I have always wanted to be a mom. Seriously, I remember knowing 100% that I wanted to be a mommy when I was a toddler. Lol!

Honestly, I’ve always loved kids and loved babies. I’m that person who makes silly faces at crying babies I see in a store to try and make them laugh.

Baby fever hit me bad once Fiance and I moved in together last year. We have a second bedroom, so it isn’t like we don’t have the space for a baby. And his job pays enough to cover everything too, so it isn’t like we can’t afford a baby. The only thing stopping us is the fact that he wants to be married first and just doesn’t feel 100% ready to become a father. It makes me a little sad, but I wouldn’t want to bring a baby into our relationship without him being sure first.

I was told once that when it’s your child it is a completely different feeling than when it is someone else’s. I think that tends to be true and that you don’t need to be absolutely gaga over babies to make a wonderful parent.

Whatever you and Darling Husband decide, I’m sure it will be the right choice for you. Just give it some time and think things over. 🙂

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have never really had an interest in other peoples children.  Now cats are a diferent story, I give other peoples pets a lot of attention! Darling Husband and I have been trying to conceive for over 1 year now and would really like a child of our own.

My Mom told me that she felt the same way about other peoples children but it was completly different when it came to my sister and I and her Grandchildren.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee

It kind of makes me sad when i see all these PP posting “I have always wanted kids or I have always known i wanted to be a mother, i cant wait to have babies” etc. 

I know i am still young, but this was never me. I say their cute and I will hold them for a little and then thats enough, here is your kid back. I dont have the connection i should with my nieces and nephews. I love them but i mostly feel like “oh i should go over because i havent seen them in a while and my cousin will guilt trip me” instead of “aww i miss them!” 

SO is in the same boat as me. We both assumed we would have kids, were not against them – but maybe seeing now that we dont HAVE to have them. We just dont understand how they would fit in our lives, they are sooooo much responsibility. I like my sleep. that sounds so selfish lol. 

I am curious to see if i will wake up one day with baby fever.

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I really love the kids in my own life (nieces, nephews, and a couple of my close friends kids) 11. I love 11 kids like my own but other than that? I could mostly take’em or leave’em. I’m not particularly adverse to other kids.. If you handed me one I would smile and play along but I don’t really go out hunting for it.

I do adore the little people in my life though, like SO MUCH. So Im pretty confident I will love my one day babies!

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