(Closed) When did you start wanting children??…

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
Post # 17
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208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

At almost 26 I still don’t want any and never have. I sometimes have blips where I think having one would be a good idea. Just to have your own (possibly incase I regret it later), but I think it is more me being curious as to what it would look like haha. 

Fiance wants kids, we have discussed it often and in counselling and it has come down to he will have to find a way to accept if I don’t want to have any, or I change my mind. Only time will tell…he also said he wants kids by 30 but that is only a few years off for him and I am no where ready. 

Post # 18
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I was 24 when my now fiance started talking about having kids. He wanted his grandma to be around when we had our first.Before that we didnt want any at all than just one day we changed our minds. I got pregnant august 2011 & miscarried the baby september when i was 7 weeks. We tryed again and got pregnant in january and had our daughter on september 20th,2012. We have two dogs as well but they are small and not a big handful.

 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@quierajen:  Your comment about wanting to be a mommy when you were two reminded me of a story about my nephew.  He told his parents (my brother and SIL) that he wants to be a mommy when he grows up.  When they told him that he couldn’t be a mommy, because boys become daddies, he was heartbroken!  Just unconsolable!  Some of us just know from the start we want to be parents 🙂

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are currently TTC and I still haven’t felt that overwhelming want to be a mother. I love my nephews and the idea of sculpting a young mind into an awesome adult someday is pretty cool. I love the science of baby making, the meshing of mine and DH’s DNA…  but still, never had that ovary-throbbing NEED to make a baby. I always felt awkward around babies and kids.

My husband wants to have a family and the idea of having a little companion on all are adventures pushed me to TTC. I know I want a legacy. I want to creat a lineage. I want grand children! But children of my own is still a very foreign concept. Obviously, I’m not against having kids, but I just thought there would be a day I’d wake up and “know”. That never happened.

Now that we are TTC, and I have to think about nursery ideas, and names, and feeling kicks, and seeing my very own child…. I am excited and getting more “feverish.”

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee

@quierajen:  “I have ALWAYS known i wanred kids one day. I actually got the bug to start having them when i was 19 after an accidental pregnancy that ended in a loss. I guess being pregnant unsuccessfully solidified my desire.

This is exactly what happened to me.

Post # 22
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201 posts
Helper bee

I have somewhat of a desire to have a kid but not really a baby if that make sense. To me they are just these things that constantly cry and are the ugliest things ever. But at the same time though I just want to have a child (preferbly a daughter) so that I can give her a name. Other then that I feel mute about the idea and I know my DH has to the point samiler feelings. I know  we will have multiple decisions and probably go back and forth over the idea for the next 2.5 years until my birth control is up. Lately the decisions been to give us threeish (in the past it was about eightish years with stopping at age 35 vs the now age 30) years to try and then with we don’t get one then we’ll live our lives as Dinks with our dogs. My main thing is I think that if we never tried to have a child then we might regret it later. At on my side there is an equal amount inside me that me that wants a child but also just an equal amount that doesn’t. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

I’ve always wanted to be a mom. I’m 27, and while I wanted a baby, I was prepared to wait until I was 30. I got pregnant, though, so I’m a mom now. No regrets. We knew we’d have kids, just happened a little quicker than expected. 

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018

@Merinda1994: I knew I always wanted to have my own children but was in no rush to have them. After a year of marriage, I started to feel an urge to have babies. We had to wait until we were ready, and that’s where we are right now at my almost 29 years of age. I think people go through phases, so it’s always good to have an open mind and have babies only if you are ready and want them not because people say you should have them.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I’ve always wanted children. Getting married has intensified that feeling. If I were pregnant right now, I’d be over the moon!

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