Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
For the single bees out there/those not in live-in relationships, random question: How long did it take you before you could afford to live on your own without roommates? Especially if you live a region with a higher cost of living.
I just can’t imagine paying $2,000+ monthly rent yet living in shared housing is starting to wear on me (I’m 27 and been living with roommates or in a shared house for the past 8 years – through college, grad school, and working life). Luckily, my roommates have been amazing so far and I’m telling myself to just get through it another 1.5-2 years until marriage.
Anyone else in a similar boat? How long have you had roommates? Was it worth the money saved? Did it get lonely without roommates?
Post # 2
I stopped having roommates after I graduated grad school (at 24). I hated living with roommates. I decided I’d rather live alone in a shitty apartment than keep living with roommates. 100% worth it! I lived on a tight budget and my apartment was tiny but I loved living alone!
Post # 3
My husband and I had a room mate until I was 26. She moved out of state around the time we got engaged so it was actually good timing for us to start looking for our own place. I don’t know if I could afford to live all by myself, though. It’s manageable with my husband to split costs
Post # 4
24. I lived in three apartments with 3 different roommates post college until I found an affordable studio in my favorite building right when my lease was ending. Luckily by that point I was more comfortable living alone socially (as in, okay with not having someone built in to eat dinner with every night or go to happy hour with) and had accumulated enough furniture to furnish a place on my own. I lived there for a year and a half until I moved in with my SO this past August. Full disclosure though, my rent was only $795 (I got super lucky– it was a co-op so I rented from an individual owner, not the building). Now I live in NYC and definitely couldn’t afford a place on my own.
Post # 5
I never got to live without roommates except for the 6 weeks I was in between roommates. Living in CA it was way too expensive to afford to live alone. Fiance never got to live alone either. We are happy to be able to live “alone” together.
Post # 7
I hated living with roommates!!! I got my own place at 25 and never looked back! Yes it was tight at times but it was so worth it…I never got lonely! Best desicion ever!
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
Thanks guys! The other cost I’m dreading is furnishing my own place, not only with furniture, but all the little things too, like kitchen utensils, toaster oven, vacuum, stuff like that. I’ve always shared or rented in furnished places and not had to burden the majority of those expenses.
While on one hand I really want my own stuff, the practical side of me thinks “just wait and get nice stuff and splurge on new things when you’re married; until then share or use Craigslist/Walmart stuff.”
Post # 9
akshali2000 : I used to live in one of the most expensive cities in the world for many years.until 28 I lived ‘alone’ with my ex. Once we split living alone would have meant paying rent, bills and maybe food. I only managed to buy a place at 35 and live alone again. The last year of living with roommates was a nightmare; once I was on my own I cherished the peace and quiet and didn’t miss roommates even once. Was it worth living with roommates ? I suppose it was – managed to save for deposit for my own place; could afford to travel to many places; got to meet and live with some amazing people (and many many weirdos 😜).
Post # 10
Right after graduating college I started renting my own apartment. I was 23. I was working full time and would go to gym then cook in the evenings. My apartment was beautiful – right on a marina looking at boats. My boyfriend (now fiance) used to come and stay a couple nights a week. We got our own place together about a year later.
I loved living alone
Post # 11
I had housemates through college and during a postbacc program where I was not earning much and living in a high cost area. Grad school was in a cheaper area, so I’ved lived on my own since 22 years old. COL makes a huge difference. Living with others made me more social, but at baseline I’m an introvert, which suits living solo. Would you rather live farther out so that you could afford your own place?
Post # 12
I stopped having roommates at 24. It cost me a little more ($300-400/month) but was worth every penny. Lived alone until just this past spring which ended up being 10 years. I made some financial sacrifices to have my own place during those years and would do it again in a heartbeat.
Post # 13
The only time I had actual roommates was when I was a freshman in college in the dorms. From there I lived with my then boyfriend for over 5 years. When we broke up I got a tiny apartment by myself. I would have preferred having a roommate to cut down costs (I was a grad student at the time), but I didn’t know anyone that needed a roommate and I didn’t feel comfortable living with a random person from craigslist. I actually hated living alone and purposely moved into the same apartment complex as my friend and spent a lot of time at her place. Eventually, Darling Husband moved in with me there.
Darling Husband was 29 when I met him and he lived with a roommate (and coworker). I think he could have afforded to live on his own but preferred being able to live in a nice gated apartment community, rather than a dumpy one, even if it meant having a roommate.
Post # 14
I always lived within my means.
(But I also know that not all housing markets are as affordablebke as the one I graduated into.)
Post # 15
I lived with roommates through college and one year after grad school. I moved into my own apartment in Boston when I was 22. I was incredibly strapped for cash but I wouldn’t have changed that experience for anything. I lived alone from 22-24 and then lived with my ex from 24-28. When I left him I bought my own condo and lived alone there from 28-31, when my now-H moved in. I absolutely adored living alone, even on the months I felt super poor because I was doing everything alone.
I firmly believe that people should live alone if at all possible prior to settling down with a partner. I feel so equipped to handle everything involved with being a homeowner on my own. I know how to manage my own finances. I feel like I got a really good understanding of myself and how I like to home to feel and run. I think I’m a much better partner and housemate after living alone. Highly recommend!